How do you actually get a girlfriend? Please no blackpill/redpill memes, I'm tired of this shit.


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How do you actually get a girlfriend? Please no blackpill/redpill memes, I'm tired of this shit. Please tell me the normie way of making it.

  1. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >How do you actually get a girlfriend?
    You, specifically?

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      me and any non-normie male

  2. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    I wish I knew. I've tried approaching them, which has ended in failure admittedly my "game" (small-talk/flirting) is definitely garbage. The mist success I've had recently was going to a music event thing in my area. I got kinda drunk and ended up making out with some that but I have no memory of how I got to that point, it's just a blank in my memory.

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      >I got kinda drunk and ended up making out with some that but I have no memory of how I got to that point, it's just a blank in my memory.
      kek. You're forbidden by the laws of the universe.

      me and any non-normie male

      it may be over for us

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      The flowchart is as follows

      1. First contact in a social setting with other people involved. A party, a group project, school event
      2. Conversation on an entirely platonic level. You don't make any moves, just converse like you're friends. After all, you're looking for a girlFRIEND, someone you would enjoy spending time with in a non-ronantic context
      3. Ideally you really enjoy talking to each other and don't the conversation to end. The event dies down, other people in the group leave until it's just the two of your left from the original gathering.
      4. Offer a ride home, or to walk them back if it's close by. There's social subtext here, but it mostly just establishes a mutual interest in continuing to be around one another even after the event has fully concluded.
      5. The following day you can locate their social media profile and reach out to them with something along the lines of "Hey, I had a great time last night, I'd like to take you out again sometime. Are you free this weekend?"

      If she's receptive she'll say yes, or at the very least let you know when she is free. If she says she's busy it means she's not interested in anything romantic.

      6. Do not ghost them after this. Girls talk to one another and will say that you were only trying to get in her pants. Yes, you're in the friend zone. That's an asset, girls have friends and some are single. A good reputation with one means headways with the others. Depending on what kind of ongoing IRL contact you have through classes/mutual friends you can invite them to other events that are group-setting. This establishes that you aren't a piece of shit and want to include them in things, even if you can't date them.

      7. Repeat steps 1-5 until one either accepts your 1 on 1 date request or invites you inside after taking them home in step 4.

      8. Once inside and alone there's social context to sit on the couch next to each other and watch movies. You can put an arm around them.

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        9. Touch might escalate to staying the night in her room. This is license to escalate touch into intimate areas. Match whatever level of undress she achieves or does to you. If she takes her top off you take off yours, same for bottoms. If she takes your top off of you, you do the same for hers.

        This path is the ultraconservative route. You can rush it or skip steps, but you asked how to get a girlfriend, not to get laid. You're running into problems because you are skipping the first few steps by going straight to the 1 on 1 date proposition. You might get laid doing that, and probably would if you were hot enough to fuck no strings attached. That's not how you get a girlfriend, though.

        This dynamic is also why "dating apps" are flawed at a fundamental level. they completely bypass the social pretext friendship occuring before girlfriendship and why every encounter feels forced and awkward for both parties.

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        >Yes, you're in the friend zone. That's an asset, girls have friends and some are single.
        That has never worked out for me yet. They don't hook me up with anyone

        Neither has being platonic right off the bat. Friendzone is immediate and permanent

  3. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Meanwhile in reality incels get rekt by women with autism

  4. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Online dating, but like exhaustively, every website, dozens of messages a day.

  5. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >Ask girl out
    >She says yes
    >Go on a handful of dates, possibly fuck her
    >Have a discussion that ends in both of you agreeing to a serious monogamous relationship
    Congratz that's how you get a gf. Now good luck applying this to real life. FAR easier said than done.

  6. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    You find a place to meet women naturally, engage in small talk, try to find a common point of interest, and see if you two click while talking. That's basically it.

    The main issue is that the places to meet women are diminishing, online dating makes conversations feel like they're pointless if you're not getting an instant dopamine hit, and generally it's hard to meet new people at all once you graduate from school and have a full time job.

  7. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Since women are no longer financially dependant on men the only correct answer is: be good looking.

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      not all women want to be independent, some want to be stay at home wife

  8. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Work on yourself. Set high goals and pursue them. Good women will come to you if you make yourself high value

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      This doesn't make sense, so if I fulfill my goals but I work from home women will come to me?

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        dont work from home, and if you have no choice go out every weekend and approach people. a good way to find 'the one' is having a hobby that lets you meet people

        • 2 days ago
          Anonymous

          >dont work from home,
          what if my goals includes a work from home job?

          • 2 days ago
            Anonymous

            working from home will take out the chance of meeting someone at work youll have to compensate by socializing somewhere else

            • 2 days ago
              Anonymous

              you said if I fulfill my goals then women will come to me

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                if you have a good paying job and you work on yourself so you can be the best version then yes. but if you let yourself stay stuck in your mindset asking for help on LULZ you wont get anywhere

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                Just admit your initial advice was fucking retarded anon

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                no anon youre too retarded to take good advice.

  9. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    buy her drinks until she thinks your attractive anon. drunk girls are easy as they get.

  10. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Get a circle of friends. Hit on girls that are looking to jump ship from their current boyfriend.
    To make this easier: don't be fat(12% body fat optimal), wear clothes that fit, learn how to socialize, and learn how to dance.

  11. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >looksmaxx (i.e. get fit, fix your hygiene, fix your hair, etc., post pics of yourself and get judged and they'll give specific advice about what'd look better on you)
    >learn to take good pics of yourself (i.e. good lighting, taking pics outside so you look like a normalfag, take pics with other people if you can -- a sister would be nice) and get people to review them
    >use variety of dating apps while your standards are set below the floor -- if you can get likes then the rest is simply learning to message them without seeming like a sperg so you can setup dates
    >if you get minimal attention on apps then you have to learn social skills IRL by meeting tons of women, getting rejected tons of times, getting friends and a real social circle

  12. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    just be tall. that's basically it. that's all zoomer girls care about. height

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      not all zoomer girls care that much but there are a large amount of 5'5 girls who only talk to 6 foot men. but that should tell you something about their motives

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      Nah. They care mostly that you're taller than they are. Tall guys are generally less overweight because they need to eat an absurd amount to get yuck fat. So guys on the shorter end need to not be fat which they often are.

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        sucks because i like girls that are basically my height

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        >Tall guys are generally less overweight because they need to eat an absurd amount to get yuck fat
        there is a feedback loop like relationship between the function of your pineal gland, your thyroid and your pancreas. in effect: somatotypes are real and lanklets have a faster metabolism

  13. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    The normie way is actually meeting her through your circle of friends. She could be a friend or a friend's friend. If you don't have that social circle then it's pretty much ogre.

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      >If you don't have that social circle then it's pretty much ogre.
      Oh no bros...

  14. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Only met girls and had one nighters when drunk. Can't seem to make it happen sober. I guess it's to do with being more open and talkative and confident.

    I think having female friends helps. Most guys I now with gfs started out with female friends and got closer to one of them.

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      Also, I have met women over Bumble dating app. Only dates, about 5 so far, 2 with the same person and joined about a month ago. Hopefully will meet more.

      I want sex ideally, but it's not that easy it seems. Most are looking for relationship and friends first. One I met twice complained when I tried to kiss her cheek at the end of the second date and ended it there, unmatched me from the app.

      I'll try to take it slower. I'm used to one night stands at clubs. These dating app women are pretty nerdy and shy.

  15. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >Please tell me the normie way of making it.
    They literally don't know

  16. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    the normie way is to meet a new girl, get to know her, and ask her out. my last gf i met at a bar and the one before that through a friend. i just asked if they wanted to grab a bite or a drink sometime, they said yes, got their number, textd them for a few days before the date, and took them out. hooked up a few times and then we just naturally came closer and i asked if they wanted to go stead not in those words

  17. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    and girls hate desperation usually so try not to come across like your main intention is getting your dick wet

  18. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >go to a social network
    >make a profile exposing yourself
    >this profile should expose what you expect from a woman
    >start chatting with everybody
    >the right woman will read your profile and chat with you about it
    >done
    This is how you do it in this day and age.

  19. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    I don't know, I keep trying and fail each time and I've plummeted into more depression

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      you cant beat yourself up over failure. humans learn so much from failing and trying again if you dont let yourself go through that simple process you wont get anywhere at all

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        true, but trying and failing again and again can be incredibly demotivating and depressing and tiring and time consuming.

  20. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Once you take a girl on 3-5 dates and determine you actually like her just introduce her as your girlfriend

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      don't you have to ask her first if she is okay with being your gf?

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        Ohm you meant from the very beginning?
        My mistake.
        Identify a girl that you find attractive physically, emotionally, and personality wise
        Ask her out to something simple like coffee and sitting on the pier.
        That that doesn't go ell try a different girl
        If it goes well ask her to something fun and off-beat, like mini-golf and pizza.
        Then something "mature" like an art gallery or the opera.
        And so on until 3-5 dates

        • 2 days ago
          Anonymous

          can a girl be your gf if you have not been inside of her sexually?

          • 2 days ago
            Anonymous

            conversely if you have sex with someone does that mean you are now dating?
            how much physical intimacy those there need to be to form that kind of commitment with someone, i.e they are your gf/bf?

          • 2 days ago
            Anonymous

            conversely if you have sex with someone does that mean you are now dating?
            how much physical intimacy those there need to be to form that kind of commitment with someone, i.e they are your gf/bf?

            Yeah. The girlfriend status is a publicly declared exclusive status. It's pretty much once your families are informed, or at least once you start inviting each other to social events with the other party's social group.

            Doesn't require you to be fucking, but it usually does. Folks tend to just meet up at each other's apartments and fuck for a couple months before going public. Last thing a person wants to do is declare it to the whole world and for the other person to disappear. That would be embarrassing.

            • 2 days ago
              Anonymous

              I could not agree more 🙂
              has to be voluntary on both parts

  21. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Focus on learning to make/have friends first anon. That's what worked for me, if you can have a fem friend and try not to force a romantic relationship then you cand develop nice feelings with someone and get a relationship even better than normie romantic relationships. Basically don't think about falling in love and you will eventually fall in love

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      This. It's a step by step thing. You got people who don't got social skills trying to beat a boss fight before even learning how to play the game. You gotta make friends and have a sustainable, non-romantic relationship before you can jump into a romantic one.

  22. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >guy goads aspir girl into making some fetish type videos
    those videos are pure sovl

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      Is it even possible to get a gf that likes legos and toys but isn't autistic

  23. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Well I spent time around women, eventually one had some interest in me, and then I spent time with her, steadily pushing boundaries until we got physical. You keep wanting to do that after you start, so it just kinda starts at that point. Sample size of 2, I'm no expert.

  24. 2 days ago
    Mattanon

    I am the loser in someone elses story

  25. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    the real non meme answer is having an atractive personality and or being phisically atractive and females will be behind you
    now if this seems like a blackpill to you, you are in the right place, Im sorry anon

  26. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    If you want a romantic relationship, It usually begins with a friendship.

    Dont know your age, but if you're young, Just go for every chance you have, in the groups you're in.

    Im not even close to an actual normie, and my gf's were always from a close circle, since you gotta have something in common.

    - Clan/Group in a game
    - Same class as you
    - goes to the same pubs

    You Just need a connection, and them start a conversation. Aim to have as many friends, and see If anything grows into a romance, even If It takes some time.

    Again, every gf i had was a friend before. My wife itself, was my friend for, i dunno, 2 years.

    Now we're together for 9+ years.

  27. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Step 1: Fix your self.
    >get a nice haircut
    >shave your facial hair unless you can style it into something nice
    >start cleaning yourself daily (brush your teeth, take a shower, wash your face)
    Step 2: Fix your life.
    >get a job or some RELIABLE source of income
    >get a car (if reasonable to do so in your area)
    >get off any drugs
    >start a diet
    >start exercising (even if it's just in your home)
    Step 3: Be Proactive in Dating
    Go out and actually TALK to women. They will not fall in your lap if you do steps 1 and 2. You actually need to go out and try and get a girlfriend.

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Step 3: Go out and actually TALK to women.
      God damn it why is life so cruel.

      • 2 days ago
        Anonymous

        >got to talking step
        >they are interested
        >now have to actually ask her out
        Might be the most nerve wracking thing Ive ever had to do

  28. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Step 1.)
    Not working a garbage job
    Step 2.)
    Have shoe box
    Step 3.)
    have money

  29. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    for a start, you don't listen to the advice of incels

  30. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Are there ways to meet and befriend church type girls outside of church. My church is small and just old people mainly.

  31. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    lol from all the answers I've reached the conclusion trying to get a gf isn't worth the effort at all

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      As a former NEET type, I can tell you what worked and what still works for me.

      Work to better yourself and your situation, have goals, treat people with respect, and understand that failure is a part of life. These suggestions will make incels mad, but I can tell you from experience they work. Being funny also helps, but I'm not sure how easy that is to learn.

  32. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Fixed to depict myself

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      You may be a loser, but now you're a loser with some sweet Matchbox cars to play with!

  33. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    decent hygiene, decent humour, decent conversation, and decent intentions

    we can tell when guys are just sizing is up like a chunk of meat locked in a puzzle box they have to 'solve' or a vending machine they have to cram enough tokens into

    if you're in school, join a club; if you're past school, join a volunteer group or sport league or whatever floats your boat - the point is to try to meet someone on the basis of a shared hobby so a more natural friendship has a chance to develop first

    listen to her like a human, don't force a connection if the vibes are obviously off, and try not to send any really racist/sexist memes at least at first - stick to the semi-normie stuff until you have a feel for her twist level (you may be surprised, over time, but you gotta ease into that - like farting in her presence, it isn't a first date thing)

    But yeah mainly make sure the hygiene is good, and practice confident speech if you have a very wet/limp/whispery mannerism

    • 2 days ago
      Anonymous

      >try not to send any really racist/sexist memes at least at first
      What should I do if I sent really racist/sexist memes at first? I'm asking for a friend....

  34. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    >TFW matched with a 27yo Ecuadorian with a great ass just after midnight.
    >She unmatches as soon as she wakes up, seven hours later.
    >FUUUCK!
    >Now have to consider messaging the 29yo Middle Eastern who looks like a 'too good to be true' incel catfish.
    >Still very annoying that women almost never message if they match, especially as a non-Chad.

  35. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    Download tinder get your best pics and jokes out and just fish

    You don't throw your line out an expect to catch something right away. Average looks/not a creep will net you 1 - 2 matches that will actually reply a week and probably 1 to 2 dates a month if you're consistent at it

    That's about it. Cast your line and wait anon

  36. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    step 1) love yourself regardless of if your single or not

    step 2) go outside

  37. 2 days ago
    Anonymous

    If ugly, bitter, butter-huffing wagies can get girls, so can you. Maybe not hot ones, but beggars can't be choosers. The trick is that your competition isn't that fierce all things considered. Assuming you live in the USA, most men are fatties, so point one, don't be a lardass. Don't be a pedo or felon. Don't be in severe debt or a NEET. Don't be generally disgusting, unpleasant, or entitled. Try to look good or at least plain.

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