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how do i very subtly flirt with a female coworker to gauge her interest in me?

how do i very subtly flirt with a female coworker to gauge her interest in me?
>inb4 don't shit where you eat

  1. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    don't shit where you eat

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    casually give her some compliments?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I'm doing assignments with a female classmates, does get compliments about the work mean something? Sometimes I compliment

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Forgot to say we do basically everything in remote

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      such as? clothes/hair?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        smells

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          yeah this can work, or come off very fucking creepy not worth the awkwardness

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        underwear

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Don’t. Don’t flirt to gauge interest, let her express interest. Women (generally) are very socially smart, if she’s interested she’ll send you signals and if they seem to fall flat then she’ll get more obvious about it. Then you send her neutral signals of interest back and allow her to flirt with you. Super easy, very fun/seductive. Don’t ever be so pressed about one individual person, there’s plenty of women to go around. Scarcity mindset is not really conductive to healthy romance, love, and sex.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >let her express interest
      examples of said interest vs "being nice"

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >examples of said interest vs "being nice”
        Yeah I didn’t wanna address this in my post because you’re not gonna like the answer but, if you have to ask then it’s not that. You might be thinking:
        >ok then it’ll never come to pass
        in which case: congrats you’ve avoided either a sexual harassment HR visit OR you avoided a shitty sex partner/romantic interest who can’t communicate to their partners
        If this person can’t even do the basic work of signaling interest to you then it’s nothing you need to bother with. You’re wasting time and energy better spent fucking around with people who DO give you the time of the day. This is naturally a lot more effective because it builds self esteem and focuses on the process (flirting, something you can actually get better at over time) rather than the outcome (this specific person being interested in you). You open yourself to a lot of solutions and outcomes when you focus more on process and less on being tied to a specific solution or outcome.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          how about going waaay out of her way to talk/interact with me?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            If you need to ask, it’s not clear enough. She could just like talking to you or it may seem like she’s going out of her way but she doesn’t feel she is.

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              so how do i get clarity out of this?

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                You either interact with the person more or just notice what they do when you do interact with them. That’s it. It’s not magic or rocket science.

  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous
  5. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Imply you want to spend time with her outside of work and see how she responds to the idea of it.

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    She's about my age and we were friends and joked around all the time. I dunno what we were talking about at the time but I said something like you gotta put two fingers I there for a tighter hold. She said I made her blush. I guess that counts?

    • 1 week ago
      Hedgie

      Holy fuck that’s maximum cringe. “You’re making me blush” is another way of saying “this is getting awkward.” Honestly keep your mouth shut because that’s considered sexual innuendo in the workplace, aka against major rules

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Lmao relax. Idk dude. say what you want but she did want to hang out/ always throwing compliments/ always talking to me at closing or on breaks.

        >"Keep your mouth shut because thats considered sexual innuendo and against the rules".
        Funny shit my guy thanks for the laugh

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Don’t do it, one day your boss is going to pull you aside and say stop flirting before Human Resources get contacted. Nobody openly flirts in the workplace, that’s a meme.

    When I worked in fast food at age 18 this guy kept subtly flirting, I’d just smile and avoid, but my boss noticed and nearly man handled him out the door.

    Also I’ve slept with a coworker at one job, it was extremely awkward. It feels like you’re fucking a family member then causes petty arguments at work. It wasn’t flirting because there was a mutual silent connection so neither of us had to say “damn your butt looks nice today”. If there’s no silent connection where they go out of their way to talk to you, add you on social media or whatnot then don’t pursue.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >but my boss noticed and nearly man handled him out the door
      he was clearly a jackass that conducted himself poorly and didn't get the hint you weren't interested. I know better

      • 1 week ago
        Hedgie

        If you need to hide something from your boss, you shouldn’t be doing it. Where do you work?

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          warehouse/office environment. work relationships is none of the boss's business

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Bro... it depends on the place. You gotta know your surroundings. I had a coworker send flirty texts to a sup and his wife came in and yelled at made a big scene of it. Wish I was there to witness it...

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        If you flirt she’ll assume you want to fuck her, therefore scaring her away. Stay friends if anything and don’t do it to any other coworkers or else you’ll be deemed “that guy.”

        This. I had to throw my dignity out the door and offered to fuck my boss for a promotion. We worked in an office setting so I had that long black tight skirt and high heel setup so it wasn’t hard.

        >stopped by his office after close
        >vaguely say “I wish I can show you how *hard* I work to get the promotion”
        >made sure my stockings were a little low so when I crossed my legs some lace showed
        >he was dumbfounded then whispered to come back after close next week
        >get the promotion
        >go to his office and say never mind

        The problem is I DIDNT KNOW HE WAS MARRIED. No ring, no pictures In his office, and never mentioned his family since he was only 30. His wife would have slaughtered me and divorce him in his office. If it wasn’t for me making a huge leap into degeneracy I wouldn’t be here 7 years later thriving at my new job. Things got super awkward in the workplace yet oddly I never got fired since technically no sex happened or technical flirting. According to Facebook he’s single and no pictures of his kids lol good

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          if he didn't give promotion and expected to fuck first would you have?

  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >gauge her interest
    literally unpossible. women these days act like prostitutes and they will seem like they're enraptured by you if they deem you even vaguely fuckable. then they go gossip with their friends about how much of an ugly retard you are. it's a whole fucking problem.

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