How do I know if Im transmasc or just hate being a girl?

Question is in the subject and fairly self explanatory. Part of me feels like I’d be happier if I was born a boy, but mostly because it feels like there are so many experiences I could’ve had if I grew up a boy. I’m currently being tested for autism, and I’m also, regardless of gender, not straight, so it could also be those things that make me feel so out of place in my own body. For trans guys (or girls or anything I guess), how did you know what you were feeling was gender dysphoria and not just brain weirdness?

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  1. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Imagine waking up as a man tomorrow and spending the rest of your life as one. Imagine dating, having sex, hanging out with friends, and growing old as your male self.

    how does it make you feel

  2. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I'm fascinated by this as someone who exists on the complete other end of the spectrum. I suppose it really is a strong case of "the grass is always greener". I am genuinely curious to know what your experience as a girl has been like? How old are you? What do you look like? Are you conventionally attractive? Are you fit? What has your dating life been like? Would you be a gay man if you had this hypothetical other body? What does your ideal male self look like?

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      im not op but im an afab non binary who felt really similar growing up so i can at least offer something

      >I am genuinely curious to know what your experience as a girl has been like?

      difficult for me to answer because i dont really feel like a girl, i feel like people just started pointing at me and calling me one when i popped out so i just went with it.

      >How old are you?

      25

      >What do you look like? Are you conventionally attractive? Are you fit?

      id say im good looking, most people would call me a tomboy or masc. i try to work out just because i think biceps are hot tbh

      >What has your dating life been like?

      pretty nonexistent, ive only had one serious relationship with a straight guy way older than me and i realized i hated it

      >Would you be a gay man if you had this hypothetical other body?

      im bi so i would probably stay bi

      >What does your ideal male self look like?

      literally just how i look now but with no boobs, thinner hips, and a dick

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        >difficult for me to answer because i dont really feel like a girl, i feel like people just started pointing at me and calling me one when i popped out so i just went with it.

        Okay, I mean putting the "assigned at birth" stuff aside I was moreso curious if you feel like you've been particularly successful or unsuccessful 'as a girl' within the context of today's society and its standards or metrics.

        >id say im good looking, most people would call me a tomboy or masc. i try to work out just because i think biceps are hot tbh

        When you play/lean into to your femininity do you find yourself attractive?

        >pretty nonexistent, ive only had one serious relationship with a straight guy way older than me and i realized i hated it

        That's a pretty small sample size but I'm not judging. It takes a lot of experiences to really learn what you like in others, at least in my opinion.

        >im bi so i would probably stay bi

        Simple enough.

        >literally just how i look now but with no boobs, thinner hips, and a dick

        This is where I find the biggest contrast I guess. How tall are you? I think "masculinizing" from a female starting point would produce a better end result than feminizing from a male starting point, but that's just my opinion. I think males who want to be female seem to have more extreme desired changes. Just my observation.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          >Okay, I mean putting the "assigned at birth" stuff aside I was moreso curious if you feel like you've been particularly successful or unsuccessful 'as a girl' within the context of today's society and its standards or metrics.

          hmm ... im not really sure what you mean by successful, but probably not? i always felt really alienated in groups of girls in school/work/family/etc.

          >When you play/lean into to your femininity do you find yourself attractive?

          once in a while if im all dressed up, but for the most part i think i look a lot better when im just wearing gender neutral stuff.

          >That's a pretty small sample size but I'm not judging. It takes a lot of experiences to really learn what you like in others, at least in my opinion.

          yeah. now that im older i know what i want but it's hard getting back out there

          >This is where I find the biggest contrast I guess. How tall are you? I think "masculinizing" from a female starting point would produce a better end result than feminizing from a male starting point, but that's just my opinion. I think males who want to be female seem to have more extreme desired changes. Just my observation.

          5'4 so im about average for an afab. being taller would be nice but i don't dwell on it. i have nonbinary and ftm friends who definitely want more "extreme" changes. sometimes i see dudes in vidya and shit that make me think if i could press a button and become them id do it for sure, but i dont really feel so dysphoric that i want to start HRT if that makes sense

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        >difficult for me to answer because i dont really feel like a girl, i feel like people just started pointing at me and calling me one when i popped out so i just went with it.

        I don't know if you realize this, but that's extremely common. I assume at least 40% of cispeople feel this way and don't change their labels because it's socially easier not to, even though technically they don't feel like their gender assigned at birth.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          I think some people have strong gender/sex identities and others have weak ones, whether they're cis or trans it varies

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      Uh, I guess I relate to what the person above me said. I’ve always said I don’t feel particularly attached to girlhood, but I don’t know if I feel that strongly about anything genderwise. I haven’t really wanted to consider that I could be a trans man though, it seems so expensive and intimidating that I figured I could always get by just dressing kinda masc and using she/they pronouns.

      I’m almost 22, and I’ve had fairly sizable boobs since I was like, 13? Most of the time I’m uncomfortable with it but mostly in a “I hate being sexualised” way. I think I’m okay looking, I’ve had people express interest in me but I tend not to really go for it. I haven’t had a particularly prolific dating life really. Same with sex. For both it’s like I get halfway through and then something like, catches? It just all feels wrong and I end up dumping the person/revoking consent for the sex.

      Same as the person below, I currently loosely identify as bi so I would assume that would remain. I have trans friends who say the addition of hormones has changed their sexualities though, so I don’t know. I guess I’d still date girls for sure?

      Ideal male self is just me but maybe more fit, without boobs, taller for sure. My hair at the moment is just like, mid length with bangs and just hangs there, so maybe more styled?

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        I'm curious if your desire to be a guy stems more from a place of dissatisfaction with your female experience or more of an extreme longing for the male one. Just from reading this you don't seem to express a ton of disappointment or a very crystalized idea of what life as a man would actually be like. When you imagine being a man what's different about it? What's the main draw for you? How would being an actual man alter your life in a positive way? Have you considered the drawbacks or challenges that come with being a man? It's okay if you romanticize the idea of it, I think that's perfectly normal too.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          I guess the idea of being a man just feels more.. comfortable? Would be the best word for it. Like if I was born a man, I wouldn’t even have to do all this thinking about gender or anything. I feel like I’d have an easier time making or at least keeping friends, I wouldn’t feel as nervous speaking up in all my classes, I wouldn’t basically have a heart attack whenever I have to plan an outfit for a party or event or something. But it’s hard to know if that’s actual gender dysphoria or if it’s just anxiety and overall disillusionment with my life.

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            >it’s hard to know if that’s actual gender dysphoria or if it’s just anxiety and overall disillusionment with my life.

            I'm glad that you have the introspection and self-awareness to recognize this. Also while it might be easy to think that these issues all or be otherwise remediated by being a man they might be rooted more deeply than that, or they might even be worse. I wonder what makes you think that thoughts about gender wouldn't cross your mind if you were a man? Do you maybe view being male as a sort of 'default setting' and being female as this complicated and cumbersome thing? A burden? Do you think your experiences and feelings would be wildly different if you looked different? Would you rather be an extremely attractive girl or a completely unremarkable and average man? Which of those would hold more appeal to you?

            >Okay, I mean putting the "assigned at birth" stuff aside I was moreso curious if you feel like you've been particularly successful or unsuccessful 'as a girl' within the context of today's society and its standards or metrics.

            hmm ... im not really sure what you mean by successful, but probably not? i always felt really alienated in groups of girls in school/work/family/etc.

            >When you play/lean into to your femininity do you find yourself attractive?

            once in a while if im all dressed up, but for the most part i think i look a lot better when im just wearing gender neutral stuff.

            >That's a pretty small sample size but I'm not judging. It takes a lot of experiences to really learn what you like in others, at least in my opinion.

            yeah. now that im older i know what i want but it's hard getting back out there

            >This is where I find the biggest contrast I guess. How tall are you? I think "masculinizing" from a female starting point would produce a better end result than feminizing from a male starting point, but that's just my opinion. I think males who want to be female seem to have more extreme desired changes. Just my observation.

            5'4 so im about average for an afab. being taller would be nice but i don't dwell on it. i have nonbinary and ftm friends who definitely want more "extreme" changes. sometimes i see dudes in vidya and shit that make me think if i could press a button and become them id do it for sure, but i dont really feel so dysphoric that i want to start HRT if that makes sense

            I'm often curious if there's a correlation between feelings of failure or self-doubt and these desires. Failure to conform or succeed within the 'lane' society has set for each gender. I think there are implied metrics of success for each sex and whether we want to admit it or not we roughly know where we stand at any given time.

            If you don't dwell on being taller and don't feel dysphoric enough to want to take hormones I'm just curious how much different life would really be if you were a man.

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            >I'm often curious if there's a correlation between feelings of failure or self-doubt and these desires. Failure to conform or succeed within the 'lane' society has set for each gender.

            its a fair question. maybe if gender roles just didn't exist i would feel differently. i guess marriage and children would be considered the idea of success for a woman, but ive been never been interested in either so it's never actually bothered me that ive "failed".

            im only really dysphoric when it comes to my genitals, i think if i was a man id probably be having way more sex and relationships

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      Not op but I can go

      I’m 20, and right now I’m very conventionally attractive. In high school I dressed more masculine because of my desire to be a guy and was pretty poorly dressed, but even then my pretty face carried me. After going to college I repressed my desire to be a guy by dressing very feminine, though my personality has stayed a bit masculine. That coupled with learning how to do makeup made me attractive enough that other women would stop me in public to compliment me very often.

      I’m bisexual and have had a relationship with one guy and one girl, as well as a year long fwb relationship with a guy who loved me and I loved him, but I never dated because I wasn’t sure if I could keep repping. All were good except my ex bf who didn’t treat me romantically at all. I’ve only been truly single without a fwb for the past month and when I was 14 and before.

      I honestly don’t know why I want to be a guy. My ideal male self would just be me if I was born with a Y chromosome, so I’d have a dick and be taller.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        It's interesting to hear that you're conventionally very attractive as a girl and have an attractive face and yet your ideal male self wouldn't be that much different. I totally get that feminine faces on men are attractive, but do you imagine that aspect of yourself changing much?

        I'm likely what you'd consider a very successful and conventionally attractive guy, but I don't really feel all that attached to it and the prospect of being a stunning girl is super appealing to me.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        It sounds like you should just use a strap-on. Taking testosterone would cover you in body hair and FTM SRS results are almost always disastrous.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      I'm not op but I'm going to answer this anyway, if that's ok.
      I'm in my 20s, I suppose I'm conventually attractive, I haven't been in a relationship, I would probably be bi, and my ideal male self would be incredibly masculine

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        *conventionally

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        When you imagine your 'incredibly masculine' ideal self does it come with a sense of feeling freed from the femininity that you have now? How would you describe that feeling? Just out of curiosity what do you look like? And what does this masculine ideal self look like? (If you have celebrity look alike samples or something that would be neat too)

  3. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    >picrel
    omg he's so hot I want him to boyremove me so much

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      Welcome to roachification boy simp club

  4. 2 years ago
    Rank 1 Boymoder

    imagine you woke up tomorrow with the body of a man, but were treated in every way as a woman
    is that an improvement to your current situation?

  5. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    i wonder if @Lacryboy regrets drawing the image in OP

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      lacryboy is based and draws father/son incest porn i don't think trannies using his images is much of an issue

  6. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    (OP)
    >how did you know what you were feeling was gender dysphoria and not just brain weirdness?
    I didn't think about it. Until 2 months into my hrt I never even thought about why I wanted to be a woman (MtF). I started because I knew it won't make my life worse, has potential to make it better, and I knew I won't regret it no matter what, even if I detransition at some point.
    I don't really feel like a woman or a man, I'm taking hrt because it makes me look better, effects of hrt that you can't see are really good for me too, transitioning socially is something I want as well, because I personally would prefer being a woman socially

  7. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    It sounds like you just feel like you missed out on boy activities. That's not gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is long lasting discomfort about your physical body and it starts in childhood.

  8. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I know you look at men and think their lives are so cool and laid back and interesting, but if you decide to become Trans, you won't be a man. You'll just be a freak, accepted by no one but other gay freaks.

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