How do I get revenge on my BPD gf? We're 'technically' still together, as in she breaks up with me every other day but wants all the benefits still and pretends like nothing ever happened, so I counter-gaslight that shit and do the same to her.
Now that I think about it, I don't think its exactly revenge I want because I don't think she functions as a regular human being. Even if I GOT revenge, she wouldn't understand the why, how, or when. She'll just get a new supply and move on. What I really want is for her to face consequences for her shitty behavior, both to me as well as others before me.
>just dump her bro
goes beyond that, the way she's fricked with me over the past year of this relationship has led to serious damage on my mental state. I've nearly lost my job over her, have been isolated from most of my friends and she's slandered me as some sort of evil figure to quite a lot of her friends.
Simply ghost her without giving her any closure. BPD people often have severe abandonment issues, it’ll destroy her for a good while. But seriously, get away from her and rebuild your life. BPD girls are black holes, they only destroy.
You have bpd too, idiot.
It's not "gaslighting" it's talking trash. Other people's emotions only affect you because you allow it. If you want revenge for muh hurt feelings, target yourself because your emotions are your fault.
Refusing to take responsibility for your emotions is BPD as frick.
Brainlet
Been there OP.
Never wanna see another bro go through the same crap I went through, so here's my sincere advice to you: Forget about revenge. Block her on everything. Never speak to her again. Get the frick out before the damage she does is irreparable.
These types of people have no empathy, zero personal responsibility, they will say and do horrible things to you and blame you for them, they're selfish as frick at their core and there's nothing you can do about it. You're only with her because you have issues of your own. The moment a normal well adjusted person catches on to their BS they leave. You're staying. Time to ask yourself why
How'd you recover?
DUDE JUST DROP IT
My BPD ex had sex with all of my 'friends' and falsely accused me and had my house swatted just because I broke up with her.
Run away before it's too late. i can't sleep anymore and my psychologist says she gave me PTSD
>My BPD ex had sex with all of my 'friends'
Why did you let this happen?
it was after i broke up with her. Also, I trusted those snakes at the time.
Just get professional help
internal family systems therapy?
No cognitive therapy and there was another one. You have ptsd and need to work through the issues you're dealing with. Just try it for a month or a few sessions if you don't see if helps try reading self help books and the exercises your psychologists informed you on. It's never easy getting broken up with or being dumped. Loves a b***h and relationships are complex
We're not really broken up though. And I'm not coping here, I tried to break it off with her multiple times, she refused even. I don't know if its the BPD attachment thing, fear that I won't give her any more attention or if its a case that she wants to have her cake and eat it too. As in, wants 'space', in reality wants to frick other guys while still having me as as someone to fall back on whenever needed.
If anything though, this has helped me a lot because seeing as I'm not a moron and figured out her intentions easily, the fond memories I have of her are fading more and more. What's left is just bitter resentment.
Same here in a way. Look anon you do need professional help, don't be stubborn if you can afford it try it for a few months. Don't let yourself become jaded or bitter.
Guess I'll give it a shot. What's your story?
Dump her. Duh
>How do I get revenge on my BPD gf?
There's nothing worse that you can do to a person with bpd than leaving them, becoming successful and happy
propose to her
and then take it back
Literally just dump her and move on. People with BPD have their own severe mental trauma and issues they deal with at an hourly basis. Dumping her will cause her enough grief as it is.
As someone who has dealt with BPD firsthand, simply ghost her if you want revenge. As others have said, it'll not only be the healthiest option for you, but the most damaging for her.
If you'd really like to take it next level, propose first. Buy a fake ring obviously, if you're in a position to drop a couple hundred knowing you're not going to be able to return it.
>emotionally maladjusted loser keeps spamming the muh revenge thread
You don't deserve revenge. You are a stupid person with no self awareness and are probably BPD yourself.
>telling him to dump her so she can be unleashed on another unsuspecting sap