How do I deal with the fact I’ve done something terrible? I can no longer convince myself I’m a good person and can therefore no justify any kind of happiness in my life.
How do I deal with the fact Ive done something terrible?
How do I deal with the fact I’ve done something terrible? I can no longer convince myself I’m a good person and can therefore no justify any kind of happiness in my life.
What'd you do?
Rather not go into detail but I did something against someone else when I was drunk a year ago, it was bad enough that my friend group at the time distanced themselves from me and not a day goes by that I don’t hate myself for it.
No good deeds I do will make it up to the individual I hurt so even if I did I could never forgive myself
If your not in jail, it cant be that bad. Maybe just stop being a bitch
This.
You feel bad still because you actually receive the judgements of your peers. They don’t matter only you do. The pain you are feeling is not the result of guilt it is the result of realizing that the standards and ideals of the group are both unattainable and insignificant and that the group must not have as much value to you as it once did.
The feeling of needing to make up for it is foolish and allows others to control you. You don’t owe anyone anything.
>others literally don’t matter, only you matter
>no one owes anything to anyone else
Great way to live alone and unfulfilled, unable to maintain long term relationships with anyone and constantly hurting the people who truly care for you.
Cope. No one cares about you. At best you are a burden and at worst you are told nice things to cultivate your use.
That’s sad dude. I’m sorry you feel that way.
Lol "detail" as if this were something that mattered
Wake up, fool, your little drunken drama is a total and utter and absolute irrelevance, just like your whole entire life and mine.
"it doesn't count when you're drunk" say most women. Just find new friends and never Let the old group know about them
I did something stupid and lost most of my friends too. It was malicious and childish and I deserved everything that happened to me afterward.
It was hard to keep moving because I didn't know if I could trust myself.
Looking at yourself in black and white is dumb. You're a human that makes mistakes.
The first part of healing is targeting the root cause of why you did what you did. Like what caused those emotions and how can you shut down that way of thinking so it doesn't happen again.
There will never be a redemption arc in life. You can only keep living and put in effort to be a better person than yesterday.
Best answer in the thread
You have to do good deeds to make up for it and beg your creator for mercy
Maybe the notion that only bad things should happen to “bad” people is wrong.
What’s so wrong with it? Shouldn’t bad people be punished?
Still hurt another person in a selfish and despicable way and have no ability to make it up to them, it’s a immoral thing to do and makes me a immoral person in my own eyes
Did you cause them lasting physical damage? If so, why are you not in jail? Was it deemed an accident?
Not physical damage but likely mental damage, it was done in a setting where nobody would be inclined report it.
You could turn yourself in
Not punished forever. You should work to becoming a better person.
First step is owning up to what you did.
And dancing around the issue like you're doing is trying to deny what you did.
You have to confront yourself with your actions and fully accept what you did.
Only then can you truly learn from your mistakes and grow from them.
Repent. There is still time. A great savior for great sinners. You will find a person or animal who will teach you forgiveness. You must learn to forgive yourself to accept the gift of grace.
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As much as society likes to pretend otherwise, most people have done shitty things at some point in their life, but this doesn't make you a bad person. A bad person would feel no remorse for their actions and their past wouldn't haunt them. Become better as a person so that you wouldn't do such a thing again.
>How do I deal with the fact I’ve done something terrible? I can no longer convince myself I’m a good person and can therefore no justify any kind of happiness in my life.
What the fuck are you on about? I never considered myself a good person in the first place.. you really thought that about yourself? Like, if I was dead honest and totally objective, I'm actually a pretty good person, but I've never fucking thought of myself as a good person, nor have I really tried to be a good person or put any weight on being a good person. That's just fucking weird, I dunno
Very cool image OP. Saved 🙂
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