how do I cope with being ugly/never being able to pass? I haven't been on hrt too long, I obsess over my appearance alot, and it really makes me feel depressed. But then, sometimes when I post my face online, I get nice comments, and it gives me a confidence boost for maybe a day, then I realize what I actually look like and I get really upset. How do I cope with this?
>I haven't been on hrt too long
then keep waiting. It's a process, you just have to accept that it sucks for a while before it gets better.
Save up for ffs.
>Save up for ffs.
yeah let me go save for the next ten years, anon if I have to live as an unpassing ugly tranner for ten years, then it would do so much fricking unrecoverable damage to my pysche
FFS is expensive, but it's not that expensive. People save up for cars and houses and shit that's way more expensive than FFS. You can do it.
but my point is, by the time I can actually afford ffs, all my youth will be gone, I will be old, I will be alone, and my brain will be fricked up from years of (other peoples and self inflicted) abuse for being unpassing.
Time won't fix the fact that I'm a foot taller than every woman I know, my skull, hands, feet fricking massive, etc. Like what the frick, I hate myself.
height is a meme, there are 6' tall women
it's an imperfect solution, but it's better than repressing.
well what's the alternative? Better to have ffs when you're 30 or whatever than to never have it at all
>well what's the alternative?
I'm saying it's a fricked up scenario, honestly actual fricking torture
I get it, I really do
but you've just got to push through. Eventually it gets better
ok that's really good that you've stopped repressing. Hands and feet shrink at least a bit on estrogen, so you'll see improvements there
The beginning is really hard because you've accepted that you're going to transition, but you're still basically 100% a man. First few months will be like that, with not a lot of changes. But maybe 6 months in when you start to actually look and feel different it'll be a lot better.
>Eventually it gets better
that's what everyone says, but i doubt it. will hrt change my bone structure? the size of my skull? no, of course it wont
>but i doubt it.
Sometimes we get the outcome we expect in life as it's the one we put most energy into. If you think/act positively it can alter the outcome more than you think. You need to focus on the little things you're proud of and stop funneling so much negativity into your body. No one hated themselves to success.
Thanks 🙁
Looking forward to the future but damn I hope the pain subsides a bit...
it'll hurt a lot less in the future. It'll also still hurt sometimes, and it'll still be hard. But it gets a lot better from here
it won't change bone, but right now you have male muscle and male fat distribution and male skin on top of your bones. That stuff is all going to change, and you'll look very different from how you look now, even with the same bones.
I've stopped repressing, I started yesterday, but it just feels so bleak. I must have bdd, I know bdd runs in my family (plastic surgery semi rampant), but the pain feels very real.
i couldnt and that was the biggest reason why i went off hrt. it felt like being a kid seeing your stuffie constantly being ran over by a truck
You cope with it by coming here to have a gaggle of people between 18-25, who, by-in-large, look like incels tell you that you actually have BDD.
>18-25
Yeah haha, that's totally me
I'm 28 and the anon above that just started
Idk anon I've been in this place for a while. Even posted a terrible photo yesterday and only 1 person was mean out of like 20. My theory is I'm just broken down from a life of repression and escapism.