How can I feel attractive even when I know I am not? The only thing worse than being ugly is thinking you are ugly.
How can I feel attractive even when I know I am not? The only thing worse than being ugly is thinking you are ugly.
How can I feel attractive even when I know I am not? The only thing worse than being ugly is thinking you are ugly.
Leave the ugly/pretty dichotomy. Stop worrying about it
But that dichotomy is a universal truth
Not necessarily, having low-confidence is a majot hindrance. If you are ugly but very confident you probably have just as good a chance if not better than an average looking guy with no confidence
I see what you are saying, not first tell me how many girls you have been in a relationship with and when was the last time you were in one. If the answer is yes and recent then you are not ugly and this should be your mindset.
I'm in my first relationship right now
>then you are not ugly
Not true, I know what an attractive man looks like and I don't look like that. Basically every guy I see looks better than me. Id guess I am a 4 at best.
I am a 3 at best and basically considered untouchable due to personality (not bad, but alien for most) and health (ever since I went to the ER in January of 2020). What is your personality like? I assume that it is good and normal. And what about your health? It is probably good too.
It is a matter of waking up, checking heart and being happy. Simple as that.
Also, a pic would be nice, anon.
>What is your personality like?
Objectively not good, but I am extroverted and very good at talking with people most of the time which is my saving grace I think
>And what about your health? It is probably good too.
Not catastrophically bad, but not great
>Also, a pic would be nice, anon.
I know that would help but Im not posting myself on adv
Mind if I ask how is it bad?
Your personality, that is.
Well I am obviously ridiculously insecure and that permeates out to everything I do
I was the same way. Any skills or talents?
You might be able to use them to your advantage. For example, when I was in school, I was insecure, bit my grades make me appear much better. A friend of mine became more secure by using wealth to his advantage (father is a doctor).
He's insecure because he's ugly. Once he stops being ugly he'll be less insecure. He doesn't need to learn south Polynesian linguistic history.
>The only thing worse than being ugly is thinking you are ugly
Wrong. If you're not ugly you might still attract a girl even tho you think you're ugly. If you're ugly you won't attract anyone.
I'll be honest, OP. You're probably ugly and your girl is settling for your looks. She knows that she can get 1000 right swipes from hotter guys on Tinder but settled for yours because you have other things going for you.
That's not a good reality to be in. So why not looksmaxx? You can raise your overall looks rating by 2-3 points if you're good at it.
In which specific ways are you ugly?
>You're probably ugly and your girl is settling for your looks
I totally agree, and that does not help this situation at all
>So why not looksmaxx? You can raise your overall looks rating by 2-3 points if you're good at it.
I've been trying. Ive been working out regularly, eating better, and dressing better but it hasnt made that much of a difference, I am maybe 1 point higher than I started at best
>In which specific ways are you ugly?
Short, pasty skin, ugly asymmetrical face
> Any skills or talents?
Im good with computers (work in IT) but thats it
Incorporate technology into your personality. It might make you look geeky, bit you will be more confident. I was the same way, but for me it was science that I incorporated.
>Incorporate technology into your personality
It pretty much is like half of my personality at this point tbh lol. I am such a dork
What about height and weight?
1 point is good, OP. And it only means you still have work to do.
You're probably too poor to do anything about being short.
>pasty skin
White skin is good. Perhaps it's edema and fat you need to remove. Exercise helps with that. Otherwise skincare products if it's something else.
>ugly asymmetrical face
Plastic surgery is relatively cheap. You can get a rhino for $5k-$10k and other bone modifications for less.
I'm sure there are other flaws you aren't noticing, but we'd really need a pic for that. If you don't want to post one here, I'd recommend opening an account on looksmax.
>You're probably too poor to do anything about being short.
The surgery isnt worth it imo
>I'm sure there are other flaws you aren't noticing, but we'd really need a pic for that.
Definitely, my face looks off but I dont know the specifics of that
>What about height and weight?
5'7", 145lbs
You are good there. I find nothing that I can fault. The most I can tell you is to find similar friends. Maybe about two or three of them and to see them reasonably often at a park or a restaurant (et al.). I know that sucks as advice, but I am speaking from experience on this one.
I do have a bunch of friends and I see them pretty regularly but I mean most of them look better than me anyway lol
>The only thing worse than being ugly is thinking you are ugly.
What? No. Its better to not be ugly. Who cares about your opinion on the matter, you are not trying to date yourself.
>Who cares about your opinion on the matter
Lack of confidence is genuinely the biggest hurdle you can have dating
Develop other traits and skills that give you self worth and are attractive beyond appearance. Next question
Thats a cope really