Hi. I girl I met on hinge turned out to be trans.
She said it in the first 24hrs we started texting each other.
I don't care, to be honest. She looked cute before, she looks cute now again.
That said, are there some things I should take in consideration?
In the back of my mind I am asking myself how we would do sex (if that happens).
I want to date her. She's cute, and my type. I won't stop texting her because she is trans. But also, I am afraid that our sexuality won't go far since I've never tried anything like this. I'll try and see what happens, but still.
Am I overthinking? Do you have any advice?
Cute how? Assuming you’re straight, what exactly is attractive in this person?
Almost exactly like pic related, but with different color hair and a more rounded face. A bad way of saying it: someone's who's attractive, but there's something a bit "off"
she looks cute whats the problem
Well, for starters, assuming he’s straight, that’s not a woman.
I know right?
No okay, but that's not the point. I consider myself bysexual. The dick isnt the problem. The problem is that even though I fantasized about bisexual things, I've never acted on those and I'm afraid that even though I like her, this sexuality thing might be something I cannot handle.
This is some proper advice. Thank you.
>I consider myself bisexual.
You probably should’ve included this in the OP because it really changes things. You just have to understand the reality of what’s happening, that you’re (basically) going to have a gay experience. Also be aware that “she” will almost definitely look much worse (or at least manlier, if you’re bi maybe this doesn’t matter so much) irl than in strategically-angled photos. Go fucking wild man, what’s the real downside here?
The jokes write themselves with bisexuals
>Almost exactly like pic related
Jesus christ, OP, what are you doing? If I was you, that girl would already be balls deep in my asshole
>this sexuality thing might be something I cannot handle.
What? Try J Lube, that shit makes the impossible possible
Yeah she's cute, as I said. I'll give her a chance like I do to everyone
Yes and no. I wouldn't consider myself a chaser, particularly because I did not know that she transitioned.
>transitioned
Oh count me out if she doesn't have the dick anymore. Yuck
Nono, we are both 21. As far as I know, she transitioned somewhere around 18. I don't think she has a dick or not.
But even then, it doesn't really matter to me until I try and see what happens
She has her dick. Only a very small percentage of trannies cut their dick off. Personally I think that's pointless (and a waste of a good cock)
I'd ask her if I was you
I don't know...it's still an intimate question. I want her to know that I don't really care about that, you know?
I understand. Just ask her, it's not big deal. She's gotta expecting such a question right? Just tell her it doesn't matter to you either way, you're just curious. Prolly take a lotta stress off of her, honestly
Dating a trans person myself I think maybe it’s not the greatest advice especially if he’s fine either way. It can be a sensitive thing, maybe best for her to bring it up first or for the time to be right and flirty. The information will come if it needs to somehow
Yeahhh well they shouldn't be so sensitive. Fuck that shit. Bring it up first, trust me. What are you going to do, wait until you pull her pants down? Fuck that, take the burden off her and just ask. If you're really cool with either answer, then there's nothing that could go wrong
It all depends if that’s really a major anxiety of OP’s but the point is to not offend her or signal some kind of chaser tendency that he doesn’t actually have but could be perceived to if he’s not careful. I understand that it should be easier to openly talk about these things but the reality is that the one who actually has the harder time in the dating process in our era are going to be trans people. They overwhelmingly understand that it’s a dangerous and potentially very lonely world out there for them with little understanding so I think it does affect the context a lot. Cis people like us have the luxury of the things in our pants being mostly predictable to our admirers and even then yeah sometimes you won’t know until the clothes fully come off just what you’re dealing with.
Something I should have said first, is that I told her I am bisexual. Soooo...I don't think that she actually feels stressed about this thing
But thanks for the advice! I'll flirt and see what comes out of it
Nah broski wtf hell no!!!
Whenever you're conflicted in life, then that is a chance to learn about yourself and where you're priorities and preferences really are.
Remember, that person is also a human being. Not everything has to be the end all be all thing. Try talking with her more, if you do have sex, don't lie to yourself. You might like it, tolerate it because you actually like her, or hate it. Whatever you feel, be firm with yourself.
>Do you have any advice?
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As our boy Doug says, even if she didn't have a dick, I'd still try to fuck her in the ass anyway so what's the difference?
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Trans people are great at angle maxing. They don't smell like women though.
Had a bunch of opportunities to go on dates with trans girls but I never do simply because I don't want to reduce someone to a sex object and not being able to have kids with someone I care about makes it a none starter for me.
>she
I’d say don’t commit to anything you don’t have to or rather want to. It’s actually really nice of you to be treating her like a woman and approaching it like this, but that doesn’t guarantee that you and her are right for one another just yet. You’ll want to meet in person definitely to really get a feel for how attracted you are to her I think. You may also want to brainstorm and write down any of the major concerns you’d have with a long term relationship with her then spend some time thinking about it all from a compatibility perspective. If it doesn’t work out for some reason but your conduct was respectful then I think you can still be relieved and of course it may go somewhere and be special.
Oh yea of course. I would have asked her out yet, but she hasn't moved to my city yet. She'll move in about a couple of weeks.
We'll hang out, go drink a thing and see what happens. Maybe nothing. Maybe a kiss. Maybe sex in the car. No one really knows. But hey, she's cute and fun. I hope somethig will come out of this
does anyone have the matrix bullet dodge >she >her gif, I can't find it
I'd just be open but tactful. Tell her you think she's incredibly cute and you like her but you think she should know before going any farther that you have no experience dating trans women and you're not really sure how it'll go. Most trans women I know would get that that means you're unsure, and then they can decide for themselves whether they want to spend their time on you or not.
How would you do sex--quite honestly, I think you would figure it out. I've slept with cis women and trans women. didn't find much difference except the obvious. If you're not fucking them, it's all rubbing in a circle at the base of the clit kind of stuff, licking in strokes endlessly with the flat of your tongue, feeling over their boobs kind of stuff. they writhe around a lot and their eyes flutter. Literally just girl shit except the clitoris is bigger lol
>are there some things I should take in consideration?
Engaging in homosexual acts is gay.
Also, these people by definition are mentally ill sonyou are gonna need to walk on egg shells or ma'am will hit you in the back of the head with an axe.
Most trans women look nothing like their pictures. They don't look feminine at all in person. Think when you finally see her with no make up, 5 o clock shadow, and she smells like a man. That's why most women into trans women won't date them because the illusion/fantasy comes crashing down once they see their true face.
*most men into trans women
Yes, you're overthinking it because you're scared and it's a new thing for you, to date a transgirl and to have sex with her. Just take it easy and see where it goes, have fun and don't pussy out.
Nigga you gay