Most rejections happen in literally under a minute or two. And it's always something like:
>Hey you wanna go to X with me?
>No, I'm busy
>Hey, you wanna go to X with me?
>Tell me something about your interests first
Besides your closer friends, most people don't know shit about you. And paradoxically, in order for them to be able to see your personality, they'd need to bother to ask a question or two in the first place. Which they don't because they aren't interested.
I had this happen so many times, I'd ask a girl some questions, and she wouldn't even ask one in return.
So yeah, if I can't get girls, you always conclude that my personality must suck.
But how can the girls even tell that my personality sucks if they put literally no effort in a conversation?
Looks gets you in.
Personality makes you pleasant in the long run.
It's 50-50. They BOTH matter.
Getting girls =/= Keeping girls
You incels are constantly conflating both sex stats and relationship stats, they're different for a reason.
I don't see how that's important in my case if I don't get past the getting girls part.
Well then the problem here is you're trying to extrapolate "your case" into some sort of objective truth about dating. It's not.
> implying that life experiences arent true
> what random retards on the internet say is the real truth
You haven't had any life experiences.
As YOU SAY YOURSELF, you've never even made it past the screening stage.
Not everyone that replies to something is OP
Ok well what difference does it make? The same thing applies to you also then whether you're OP or not.
Because you're talking about fucking girls, not getting relationships.
So much to unpack here, let me deal with it as briefly as I can.
First and foremost, your interests are NOT your personality. They're your interests. Your personality is who you are as a human being, how you behave including towards others, how you think including how you view/judge others, your attitude and your temperament.
If you're going up to random women and the first and only thing coming out of your mouth is "Hey you wanna go to X with me?" then of course they're going to say no. You've just acted like a socially inept creep. People don't have to ask questions to find out your personality, you show them through deeds, words and body language.
If you're about to say you have longer conversations than just randomly going up to them and asking them to do something with you, then that's even greater opportunity to have gotten to know your personality and checked for chemistry.
Lastly, there are appropriate and inappropriate times/places to approach women. When it's Inappropriate women tend to have their guard up and swat away any creeps who don't respect that it's inappropriate.
Get some game, ask your dad.
How does that disprove personality is important?
If you stop and think about it for 2 seconds without regurgitating more incel talking points you should come up with the answer, but I won't give it away. Let's see what you come up with first OP.
Personality is important but some women will reject you on the spot simply by your look.
I know a guy very good looking, a bit skinny but attractive face, long hair and lots of tattoos. He doesn't approach women, they approach him and than he has the most basic conversation in the world but he's able to get girls hooked on him. He fucks like a rabbit.
According to /soc/, I'm average, not ugly
When they say personality they're talking about all of the subliminal cues you're giving off about your social cognition
This makes more sense yes. But how the fuck do I influence that?
No, I'm talking about getting relationships
>This makes more sense yes. But how the fuck do I influence that?
Slowly over time by acquiring good character traits
A good physique and upright posture is a reflection of a positive attitude towards activity and a balanced mind
- Which they start interpreting the instant they see you by the way you present yourself
95% of "Hey, you want to go out with me" approches fail, because she doesn't know who the hell you are and soesn't want to commit even to just a date with a stranger.
95% of successful romances are between people who already knew each other in some way logn before their first date.