>ex dumps me
>2 months go by
>text her and congratulate her on her new job
>she sends me this
What do?
1/2
>ex dumps me. >2 months go by. >text her and congratulate her on her new job. >she sends me this
>ex dumps me
>2 months go by
>text her and congratulate her on her new job
>she sends me this
What do?
1/2
2/2
Ask her to not address you like she's a new hire at the HR department
Lmao it was so cute though. OP you have to take her back
women are so fucking stupid
First, stop talking to your exes retard; when you're done just ghost them and never interact with them again. Second, she dumped you to try a thing with another guy and it turned out he didn't want anything serious, so that's why you're her backup plan again.
>Said her gut won’t let her fully commit to the relationship
In other words: "I don't think this is the best relationship I can get; I want to try something else." This is not how a woman who is really into you thinks.
>Of course get back together
This is the scarcity mindset. Of course never get back together.
Get back with this schizo, she's probably very cute with how off her rockers she is
2 months and just HAD to make contact, you deserve this crazy bitch
What’s wrong with her? It’s both our first relationship so obviously we are both inexperienced
She types like the run of the mill new age crazy. If you havent noticed, you’re probably off yourself. Either way crazy and crazy dont mix and if you end up getting married you’ll make life hell for each other and probably drive your kids to suicide or severing all ties. Just dont get back with her and find a normal girl to keep you on a level footing
She is actually very religious and trad. I don’t know why she said “universe” when she usually says God when she gets sign to do something
There was no reason for you to text her. You just used her getting a new job as a excuse to reach out because you arent over her.
Limit and Reduce contact with her. Move on. Date someone else. She's your ex for a reason. Nothing has changed in a mere 2 months.
>She is actually very religious and trad.
LARP detected.
lol because she probably had sex with a few men exactly how she planned when she dumped you because of her `gut feeling` and realizes the grass isnt greener and her religious bullshit is now a little bit too embarrassing. i never saw second try relationship suceed, maybe it works for some poeple. you have to ne honest with yourself, you probably want her back anyway with keeping contact and sending congratulations. You decide.
>she probably had sex with a few men exactly how she planned when she dumped you because of her `gut feeling` and realizes the grass isnt greener and her religious bullshit is now a little bit too embarrassing
This
>She types like the run of the mill new age crazy
And how is that?
>giant wall of text
lol is it too many words for you?
>making it more of a selfish unburdening rather than two-way communication.
Everything she says in her messages imply that she is the opposite of selfish
OP. pretty sure these naysayers are just people who can't handle reading more words than are allowed in a twitter post
>lol is it too many words for you?
Seems my post was too many words for you if this is your take away. idk why you're coming at me out of everyone ITT, I was exceedingly charitable.
Flooding you with a giant wall of text out of damn near nowhere like this is pretty extra, like she's had this sitting in her drafts just waiting for an excuse to hit 'send.'
As she acknowledges, she has no idea what kind of state you're in. Maybe you're still heartbroken and vulnerable, maybe you're with someone else, maybe you've changed or she's idealising her memory of you. But instead of having an actual conversation where she can feel you out and you can get a word in, she dumps everything on you at once for you to sort through, making it more of a selfish unburdening rather than two-way communication.
This is basically the girl version of awkward guys who do an elaborate animu confession of love for a girl instead of just asking her out and seeing how she feels about the idea before getting ahead of themselves.
All that said, this is very standard for a first relationship, so I'm not gonna pathologise it like she's crazy or anything. She's probably just still learning to communicate intense, complex emotions, like all young people are. So it's all just to say that it's understandable if you feel a bit taken aback and bombarded with information lol.
I'll abstain from advising you on what to do without knowing more about the relationship, because based on just this it could go either way, and honestly most relationships from age 15-25 are pretty "no wrong answers." How do you feel about it?
ignore her.
She sounds exhausting, also she wants you back lol
Im about to text my 2-month ex as well... but i just want my jacket and house keys back. Wut do
why did she dump you?
Said her gut won’t let her fully commit to the relationship
>signs the universe gave me
run
I'm guessing this is a flower child, hippie, fortune teller type of woman?
I can just tell by the way she types.
Look always remember for the rest of your life to only keep women like that casual. Never get into a relationship with them. Their worldview is so opposite a relationship, and she will always have commitment issues.
I'm not saying she will cheat, but she won't make you feel like she's yours either.
And before you start feeling bad, she will do that to every guy she ever gets with, not just you. Even if she gets married one day, she'll still blow it up eventually.
She is actually a therapist
yet another reason to never go to therapy
Those poor people needing real help to just have a roastie hand wave it all away because Saturn or something was off and just tells them to stick to their own truth.
a cock therapist, right?
because holy fuck someone whoever writes in that sub 90 IQ millenial textspeak shouldn't be allowed anywhere near a language-based profession
>I'm not saying she will cheat, but she won't make you feel like she's yours either.
There wouldn't be anything wrong with her if she did cheat on him. And what does it matter if she doesn't make him feel like she's his chattel? Only miserable, selfish people care about that sort of thing.
I'm not sure what advice you're hoping to receive. We don't know you or this girl. Do you want to get back together with her? Do you not? Either way, be an adult and have the conversation. It sounds like she is open to anything.
You noted that she dumped you. She's trying to see where you are in your life to see if she can ruin it again, putting you in a deeper hole. She likes to manipulate with other people's emotions. Do not engage with her. You shouldn't have even congratulated her in the first place, dumbass.
never get back with an ex.
This
Absolutely this. She is being extremely manipulative. Guilt-tripping you straight out of the gate, saying the problem with the relationship was purely your failures, it reminds me of my psychotic ex. If you get back with her you will pay for it.
>text her and congratulate her on her new job
Why? She's your ex. Move on.
Now you have the social upper hand, I'd say get back together but learn form the first trial's mistakes.
Obviously you care about her since you sent a fucking congratulations message kek, nobody does that.
I'm just an anon on an image board, bro, I'm not God. How the hell would I know what you "should" do? What do you want out of life? Do you like this person? Do you feel like you could trust her with your heart? Do you think having her in your life would make your life better? Do you have a long history with her and feel any sense of loyalty toward her? Ask yourself these questions and I think what you "should" will become obvious.
>I'm just an anon on an image board, bro, I'm not God. How the hell would I know what you "should" do?
Do you not know what board we're on? homosexual.
>you already "loved" it
>you are defending her throughout the thread
>you are emotionally involved at a severe level
Bro, you are interested in getting back with her, and looking at /adv/ to give you approval and feedback with a slant towards going back. You also keep redefining her personality towards what you think /adv/ would accept to coax us into giving you approval.
Don't waste your time. You've already made your choice. Just go get laid again. Don't even get invested in her as a relationship, just get together for the sex, have a great time as a guy, and see where she's at romantically - i.e. did she sleep with other men? If so, let her go. Don't tell her that obviously, but yeah, check out if she dumped you to fuck other dudes and made you her "base level" relationship she can go back to if her "real" attempts at love fail out. It's extremely common, especially with "trad" women.
Worst case, you get laid and get to move on by breaking her and laughing about it. Best case, your girl that you popped is back and you can dick her loyal. But you better make sure she knows other women were into you and pursued. You should even manipulate her by having a female friend poison her with this, it ensures female loyalty because it makes them feel like they've "won" the same way you feel like you "win" against other men other ways.
This.
You know what, good for the lil nagger (OP)
. Got back with an ex before, make up hate sex was the best. Dated her for another 4 months and the relationship was actually better the second time around before we broke it off again because she couldn't handle LDR.
Dangerously based. Listen to this guy OP and you will have the upper hand in this situation.
It will not work.
OP will go in with the idea of "it's just for sex" but he will have feelings for her again, and she will leave him to fuck chad again, while OP will remain alone and broken, more broken than he already is.
But OP will do it anyway, because of course he will. The woman has already won by simply saying she wants to get back and some nice words here and there and just being a wimmin.
She wanted to try another dick, it wasn't as fun as she thought it would be.
That's all this is.
This is probably correct. Honestly, OP, ask her how she plans to spice things up in the bedroom if you get back together. If she has been trying out other cocks, the only way to redemption is by begging for your forgiveness and telling you that she loves you while she eats your ass.
She seems very manipulative and wants to make you feel bad for her dumping you. Notice how she pretends she's shouldering the burden of your relationship with her, she's the one who's
>thinking
about it all alone. It's guilt tripping psychopomp. I'll bet she's a therapist. Get back together with her if you're a masochist.
Fuck her once more then ghost her forever.
Of course get back together but statistically it’s going to be (eventually) terrible. I went through the exact same thing, first relationship for the both of us. It was great at first, second honeymoon etc. but whatever made you break up in the first place will come back and you are going to suffer, either silently until the inevitable collapse or once she hits you with the “we tried it out, but it’s not working”. And then it’ll be definitive.
>text her and congratulate her on her new job
rookie mistake
She got pumped and dumped 🙁
>she breaks up with you based on a gut feeling
>wants to get back with you because the universe gave her signs
She’s retarded and you shouldn’t bother unless you want to go back with an uncommitted flip-flopper with a weakened frontal lobe.
I truly wish I was gay, bros
It’s over
Imagine getting dumped and crawling back to some bitch who doesn’t respect you LMAOOO couldn’t be me
read "signs from the universe" and started lolling so hard that I had to close the pic
btw since this is /adv/ I will just throw out there that not once in my life (or the life of anyone I have ever known) has a woman sent that long of a text message about anything whatsoever and had the relationship work out
Open up the convo with her, but with no promises, see where it leads, or doesn't. sometimes something can be said that will push you both away. Sometimes It is the past melts away. It is worth feeling out if it means true love.
OP she failed to replace you, and she was looking for an excuse to reach out to you. You are her plan B and forever will be
>OP she failed to replace you, and she was looking for an excuse to reach out to you. You are her plan B and forever will be
Pretty sure it's the exact opposite. OP has failed to replace her and has been looking for an excuse to "reach out to her." He saw she got a new job and jumped on that opportunity immediately
>the universe this, the universe that
lmaooo I hate modern zoomer hippies so fucking much man.
I know you WILL get back with her and trust me, remember this: SHE WILL LEAVE YOU AGAIN.
Chad just pump n' dumped her and she's going back to you for comfort, but she will do it again.
People here will advise you on not getting back with her but you will do it anyway. It's the only way you will learn, but you will remember this when she leaves again.
Clear bait thread, OP has said next to fucking nothing, and is probably one of the people trying to start arguments on his behalf.
Did it seem like you two broke up for a good reason? There's a lot of people out there, do you think there's a good chance you can find a more suitable match for you?
Mine dumped me 2 months ago and disappeared, just started liking my all posts again recently. Found out she was fucking around and just wanted to to keep me on thr back burner after I reached out to her. Let's be "friends" my ass.
Piece of shit.
It would truly blow your mind how much dick a girl can take in the 2 months after a break up. Most of the bitches with high bodycounts got there by getting absolutely slutted out a few months after all their breakups. If you take her back you are a cuck.
I see lots of sour grapes in this thread. She sounds like a nice person who is, yes, a little off her rocker, but in that respect she's a known quantity for you. You are still into her or you wouldn't be posting here. The question is did you love this woman so much that you *might* want to marry her? Because you will be committing to at least the possibility of never being with anyone else. Once you get back with her, the relationship probably has enough stored momentum that you won't be able to get out of it as long as she is good to you.
Why this stupid observation? Obviously people who are sexually active are going have sex with other people after they break up with each other. This is only disturbing to men who aren't sexually active, and it's mostly a neurotic germophobia thing as evidenced by no one ever asks what sort of protection she uses.
Well Venus is no longer in retrograde so love is back on the table I guess
Translation:
>Chad fucked me and dumped me and now I didn't get anything better so you are my plan B, but i will dump you again if i find something better.
Don't. You will anyway, but you have been warned.
>what stage of heart break you are at
If you'll ever entertain this retarded whore's neurosis, you deserve everything that's coming to you
>unconcise wall of text
she has verbal diarrhea, doesn't know how to get to a point
>"the universe gave me"
she talks about "the universe" as if it were a being. Kek, red flag
>"instead of me just thinking about this alone"
she wants you to act like a female in your relationship. She can't accept that men don't think/act the way women do.
Hard pass. Avoid her, OP.
Is over
Marry her
She'll probably dump you again as soon as the second, much shorter honeymoon phase is over. How do you know she got a new job btw?
I dream about my last gf regularly. Often persucatory shit where she's running away from me and it usually involves a partner she got after me. I am a slob and I do socially unacceptable shit like chain smoking and drinking nothing but soda, and I jerk off a lot and often sit on the computer the whole weekend.. yeah. But, I don't think about her as much and by the end of the first month or two I was ok and I basciaslly got over her, which means to say I wasn't hurting most of the time if she came to mind. I do still miss her and I hope she misses me, even though I also do hope she found someone more suitable. In the end, I don't think we were right for each other and shit happens. She sent me a text on my birthday this year and I blocked her ass immediately. Wow. It's been over a year at this point.
It’s over
Arrange meeting with her at some quiet cafe or plaza. Talk things throughly this time, get her back, you can do this!
Fuck no.
Leave her hanging.
She sounds like she really wants to get back together but can't phrase it in a needy way so she won't lose her leverage so she can negotiate better terms for herself.
I tell you she's not expecting you to ignore her.