just spent 4 hours talking to a dude on a thread (literally the second thread i've ever made on this website) thought he was really nice and i was so excited when he finally added me on discord, talks to me for about 10 minutes and then blocks me. idk what to do now that just really fucked with me idk
He found out Op is a tranny lol
Stop posting your discord nagger drama.
mainly posted hoping he'd see it and unblock me so i can explain to him tbh
dont wanna leak his discord, that would just be mean
yeah that's why i wanna explain to him, i just look at the message reqs and feel popular, i ignore most i get (ive literally never gotten like any) and i dont really talk to many people.
what does the discord username start with
you could've phrased it better in that case
i get it, getting attention feels nice (it's something everyone likes but nobody wants to admit because everyone outright bashes on it), but phrase it a bit better next time so people don't feel that way
yeah ill try to kinda go into more detail if this ever happens again, just really bummed me out cause he was such a nice guy :~~*
it is what it is, but don't worry anon, i'm sure more nice folks will show up in your life
how long have you been talking to him?
i mean i spoke to him on a thread for like 4 hours straight, he added me on discord and then we spoke for about 10 minutes before he did that,,,
yeah i really worded it wrong, i meant it in a kinda like the idea of people dming me is nice, i dont normally have alot of ppl dming me tbh i just feel like the idea of a bunch of people wanting to talk to me seems nice,,,
i might be slow but i dont know what that means,
Yea I mean if you gotta talk to 5-20 diff people all the time. You are pretty much a whore. But I don't care about that shit. Just know you will never have true friends when you try to have as many as possible and that you will never be close with any of em.
These days it is popular for young girls to make their own discord servers and try to accrue an assortment of simps, and most homosexuals here won't enjoy this.
>i just feel like the idea of a bunch of people wanting to talk to me seems nice,,,
This is where u messed up lol
ah, well, he's a dude you met in just one day, try not to let it bug you too much, okay?
you seem like someone who gets easily attached, that's pretty dangerous
>i just feel like the idea of a bunch of people wanting to talk to me seems nice
Yeah, and I'm the exact opposite. Partly because I can't handle more than one person at a time, but the idea in general is gross to me.
what did you tell him? you probably did something wrong
I told him i was fine with people having my tag and adding me, and that it felt kinda validating feeling "popular" and that i have message reqs on so i didnt really care if someone would spread my discord tag around,,
what was his discord?
ah that? well, i guess him, like many others, just don't want to feel like "just one more fish in the sea"
so they decided to stop right there
He blocked you because you subconsciously told him he had no chance
oh, well that wasnt my intention
i mean yeah i really worded it wrong im not gonna lie...
his display is half alive if that means anything? why do you wanna know?
yeah but also op just sounds like a retarded attention seeking 12 year old in that screenshot
I would've done the same. People who require lots of attention from different people give me the ick.
guys here have a stick up their butts about women wanting attention, because it is easy for a woman to get attention from men and hard for a man to get attention from women. he probably had it in his head that your mutual attention giving was some kind of exclusive thing, and after what you told him, he was to expect to compete with a dozen other guys for scraps of your divided attention, which validates his view that men must struggle for female attention.
i ust thought he would be a nice friend,, also i dont have to talk to 5-20 people at a time i have like 3 people i talk to daily and other than that i literally dont talk to anyone, i dont really try to make alot of friends, i like to have really good bonds and few friends actually, just the concept of people wanting to talk to me (not me even talking to them, just the feeling of being desired) is comforting to me,
yeah idk i do get easily attatched it's something im tryna work on
i mean yeah i understand but read the message above, i just really worded it wrong when i said it to him originally..
What are your interests, fella?
i mainly just play games, occasionally watch anime and i quite like to cook actually! what about you?
aye, as someone who gets easily attached myself, i can relate to your struggles
that's one of the reasons why i tend not to even open myself up to the idea in the first place, most of the time i outright refuse adding anyone from this site because of that
there's a good chance i'll end up blocked or ghosted anyway so why set myself up for failure? i'll just accept it and live with my loneliness
posting in this site alleviates some of it at least, so not all is lost
what do you do to work on that, anon?
>Captcha: KRDAM
>karma, damn
i would be your friend anon, i see your posts and you seem alright
thanks anon, you're a pretty reasonable person yourself, quite refreshing to see that when there's so much nonsense in this board
you, like a couple other folks here, are akin to pen pals to me, and for now that's good enough, i'd say
i'm also part of the problem, what i said there was just one of the reasons
well, don't distance yourself from the ones you talk to daily, things will get worse (or so my experience tells me)
but just be a bit more picky about people you get close to, don't rush things
talking to them periodically over a couple weeks or so at least will give you an idea of whether or not you can let loose or if you just keep them at a distance
distancing yourself from people who you already let get closer to you is ridiculously difficult
i like that you can namefag and talk to the same people here from day to day. I'm not really making time for any particular anons, but they're here when I'm here and we interact. It's good. I think when people try to move it to DMs the expectations change and we don't do a good job of being aware of how we change our own expectations or how others do, let alone communicating those expectations well. I think if you have a good chat with someone here, then you should try to keep having good experiences here. If you make a self-posting thread and you make good reply chains with several anons, then you get the same feeling of being desired, and you don't have to deal with getting blocked or making time for specific anons or managing their individual expectations.
aye, that's very true
my expectations don't change much though, i just expect a short talk at least once every few days, you know? just enough to reassure that they're not a friend collector, i'm not high maintenance, i don't think
people don't have to make time either as anyone can afford to spare some 30 mins ish once every 2-3 days or so, right?
but yeah, i try to keep the good experiences here, and it's been working out fine
it's just that sometimes you want to talk to someone in particular, without the prying eyes of anonymous on your chat, and i think that's one instance where posting here doesn't cut it
i have no need to feel desired, i just enjoy some good company
i have one friend but as i mentioned in some other threads, he works so he's not always available when i want a chat
you can add me on discord at danon5552 if you ever want to DM me, but I don't really spend a lot of time on discord sending out DMs to people. If I'm online socializing, i'm here, but if you can reach me directly there if you feel you have a reason to. Heading off to work now, though.
thanks for your offer, anon
i'll keep it in mind, have a nice trip
hey if the thread is still up by the time you're back from work, what do you do for work now?
yeah i understand,,
the way ive been trying to kinda work on it is just generally distance myself from people i meet online (it's not working at all)
>worded it wrong
Even if you had worded it differently he'd have blocked you anyway lol. Why is it so hard to commit to one person?
is it not a normal thing to have more than one friend?
It doesn't sound like you want friends, you just want attention.
i think you're misinterpreting what im saying anon.
thanks for the advice, really.. i needed that! i really hope i can find more people as sensible as you, hope you have a good day/night anon!
>i think you're misinterpreting what im saying anon.
How am I misinterpreting when the first thing you told that guy was about "validation" and "feeling popular"? Are you trying to convince us and yourself that it isn't what you wanted? How can you reword it without arriving to the same conclusion while being honest to yourself?
ah, shit, you're right, that was advice, sorry
i've been fairly conscious of unsolicited advice as of late but can't help giving it anyway, my impulse to help is stronger than my respect for boundaries/preferences...
you're quite welcome though anon, but sorry i didn't ask first whether you wanted it or not, lol
well i'm sure we'll bump paths around here so maybe one day we can be pen pals as well, lol
or maybe we already are and i just don't know it (goldfish memory)
here's wishing a nice day or night for you as well (it's 5:35 pm here), today's cup of sake goes to you, sending some hope your way :>
>Captcha: DVD2A
>dvd to anon, i wonder what it has?
also holy shit that cup made me start sweating like a pig, it doesn't help that it's 28c over here but i didn't think a small shot of sake would do that, lol
what did you tell him that made him block you then?
I told him I was a male but I don't see what the issue I was on hrt since I was 13 and I've had implants done and am saving for ffs and bottom surgery!
He really didged a bullet
THAT AINT ME BRO
I'm shaking and crying rn
Men don't owe you their atrention sweaty.
The fuck is this thread?
A random dude got blocked by another random dude after a short exchange. Two literal who's and one blocked.
Man, LULZ really is just full of retarded kids trying as hard as they can to get groomed huh
post tranny tits
>literal tranny thread
Go back to your containment board freak