Considering breaking up because it feels like we hardly have sex anymore


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trying to gauge if I'm just being a coomer douchebag or if this is legitimate grounds for ending a longterm relationship..

anyway, so im curious how others are doing, post gender, age, relationship status, how often you have sex

>M/25/dating 3 years/about 3-6 times per month

  1. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    This is absolutely a valid reason for ending a relationship and you're a pathetic piece of shit for even doubting that

    t. someone who was once in the same situation

  2. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Have you ever actually raised this issue with her?

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      what is there to talk about?
      >you need to have more sex with me or I'm gonna break up with you?
      that would only go one of two ways:
      1. she concedes and I have some of the most awkwardly dispassionate sex of my life and end up breaking up anyway just out of mutual discomfort
      2. much more likely, she breaks up with me now knowing that I'm an egotistical coomer

      I'm finally starting to realize while people cheat.
      It seems like the perfect 3rd option for making everyone happy and balancing a relationship, at least as long as it's kept secret.
      Anyway, not the point of the thread, more just curious how other's relationships are in this regard

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        >healthy sex life with another human being = coomer
        this place has made people legitimately retarded. like its dropped the average iq of most people who browse here.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        >you need to have more sex with me or I'm gonna break up with you?

        How are you this autistic?

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          on a scale of 1 to Chris-Chan?
          about a 4

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        She definitely will not break up with you for asking to have sex with her. Odds are she will be unresponsive, but not hostile to it. If she is hostile, that is a very bad sign and worth finding out so you can leave
        Either address the issue or cope with it. That is what it means to be in a relationship. This is absolutely worth discussing, even if you do not get a good outcome.

  3. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    yeah, it is. she's being insanely manipulative by withholding intimacy and honestly if you're both that young it isn't a lack of libido thing. that type of behavior is usually a precursor or indication of cheating.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >op's gf is being railed by some giga chad on the side since chad op wasn't enough
      brutal.

  4. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Can you sex having normalfags go to /adv/ ???

    fuck off this thread doesn't belong here

  5. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    My ex cut me off and it was brutal. I remember having fights with her because of it. Come to find out she had been cheating on me the whole time

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      How exactly did she cut you off? And how did these arguments go down?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        She would complain that sex hurt every time we would fuck. it would start when I would try to fuck and she would reject me. Didn't want to be the asshole rapist boyfriend who pushes sex so I dealt with it for months but also after a while it just got too much for me and I would complain after being rejected. It really makes you feel ugly and not wanted even if thats not the truth (lmao it was tho). Eventually I just stopped trying, that was a few years before we broke up.

  6. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    First guy you replied to here.

    The relationship in question was when I was 22-24, and we were having sex once or twice a week if I was lucky.

    Now I'm 29 and in a relationship for a similar period of time and we have sex every single day without fail, normally twice.

    No disrespect bro but it sounds like you're someone whose partner is sexually neglecting them and you're trying to cope hard

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Now I'm 29 and in a relationship for a similar period of time and we have sex every single day without fail, normally twice.
      uh do you like. not work or have any responsibilities whatsoever?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yes I work a regular 9-5 job about 5 minutes walk from our apartment. We always have sex every day when I get back from work, and then normally in the evening too if we feel like it. The fact that you find it hard to believe couples have time for sex is just pure, seething cope.

        we used to be daily but as time went on now it's weekly or so.
        All the sex articles (female written of course) say once a week is normal, but for a guy who jerks off at least 5 times per day thats barely a drop in the bucket.
        Thats why I'm curious what actual people are at

        Fair enough, I would say that once a week is not even remotely normal for a young, healthy couple, that's the average statistic but you have to bare in mind that includes all the outliers who are in sexless or effectively sexless relationships, and it also includes a shitload of older people who have little/no libido, in reality normal people in stable relationships are typically having sex daily or every other day

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          most virgins here get too burned out and tired from life to even play vidya sometimes. to have a regular job with responsibilities and to still have sex daily seems like a larp more than anything. unless you're some giga chad who's mere presence makes your gf start wetting her panties. which in that case why the fuck are you even here?

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Honestly dude if you think normal average people being able to have regular sex with a loving partner is such an inconceivable concept then idek what to tell you

            If you work for 8 hours and sleep for 8 hours that's a full 8 hours that your partner has with you, if she loves you and is attracted to you then she will want to have sex with you during that time and it will happen regardless of whatever "responsibilities" you have

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              so yes you're a giga chad who's mere presence as you walk into the room makes your gf start gushing uncontrollably out of her pussy that you MUST strip naked and HAVE SEX immediately or else...

              so once again i ask why the fuck are you here? leave.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      we used to be daily but as time went on now it's weekly or so.
      All the sex articles (female written of course) say once a week is normal, but for a guy who jerks off at least 5 times per day thats barely a drop in the bucket.
      Thats why I'm curious what actual people are at

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        >chad faps 5 times a day and can still get a gf
        >can't even get a woman to look in my direction
        lmfao @ my life.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        I feel you bro. I am lucky to get it every other week, and sometimes it is just head. But I jerk off 2-3 times minimum. It is just sad and I do not know how long I can live with it.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm 25 and can barely hold an erection. If I jack off once I don't have any libido for 2-3 days.
        5 times a day at 29 is insane. My test is probably low but the kike doctors won't prescribe me shit I bet. Only trannies get hormones.

  7. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    When I was dating and in close contact with my SO it was daily.

  8. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Fuck off normalfag, you don't belong here and you need to die.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      not everyone here is a tranny, they just make the most noise.
      you actually need to die so get on that.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        >schizo brings up trannies
        Bizarre cope. Leave my board normalfag.

  9. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >cuck anon who's ex cheated
    Male, 24 (now) 17-21 (then), single, never. Broke up with her 3 years ago and haven't had sex in 5 years

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      jesus

      Yes I work a regular 9-5 job about 5 minutes walk from our apartment. We always have sex every day when I get back from work, and then normally in the evening too if we feel like it. The fact that you find it hard to believe couples have time for sex is just pure, seething cope.

      [...]
      Fair enough, I would say that once a week is not even remotely normal for a young, healthy couple, that's the average statistic but you have to bare in mind that includes all the outliers who are in sexless or effectively sexless relationships, and it also includes a shitload of older people who have little/no libido, in reality normal people in stable relationships are typically having sex daily or every other day

      How does one deal with the whole "oh I have a headache/tummy ache/tired bullshit" besides demanding forced sex or just breaking up?
      I also get the whole "oh you really broke my insides last night" excuse which I know is bullshit cause I'm the absolute average size wise.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Hope you can get whatever help you need buddy

        She would complain that sex hurt every time we would fuck. it would start when I would try to fuck and she would reject me. Didn't want to be the asshole rapist boyfriend who pushes sex so I dealt with it for months but also after a while it just got too much for me and I would complain after being rejected. It really makes you feel ugly and not wanted even if thats not the truth (lmao it was tho). Eventually I just stopped trying, that was a few years before we broke up.

        And why didn't you say anything about this in the meantime?

        on a scale of 1 to Chris-Chan?
        about a 4

        Obviously you wouldn't straight up say to her "have sex with me or we break up"... you have to be seriously autistic to think that's what I meant

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          >And why didn't you say anything about this in the meantime?
          I did that's what caused the fights

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            So why didn't you break up

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              Because I didn't want to lose her

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Sorry my previous reply was to the wrong person, it was meant for this guy:

        so yes you're a giga chad who's mere presence as you walk into the room makes your gf start gushing uncontrollably out of her pussy that you MUST strip naked and HAVE SEX immediately or else...

        so once again i ask why the fuck are you here? leave.

        >How does one deal with the whole "oh I have a headache/tummy ache/tired bullshit" besides demanding forced sex or just breaking up?

        You bring it up as a general issue over time, this isn't complicated

  10. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I mean, if you want sex, but she's not able to give it to you as frequently as you need it, then that's legit grounds to end the relationship. Your libidos are way out of synch and incompatible with other, if you stay with her, you are inevitably going to seek other people to fulfill your needs and it might end up hurting her. I'd have a heart to heart about your dissatisfaction with the frequency of sex, that she is not obligated to have sex with you everytime you want it, but you still feel you have it a whole lot less frequently then your body wants/needs to. If it really just is her libido being low and can't keep up with your high libido, then you may want to see other people similar libidos.
    Sex isn't everything, but it is a major part of a relationship, and if it is dissatisfying for whatever reason, you need to tell her, and you both may feel a mutual end to the relationship

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Women don't have any libido, they are vile creatures. They only have sex to please their partners they can go months without an orgasm.
      Some go their entire lives without an orgasm and don't see the problem.

  11. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    the mere fact that people here who have sex daily is enough to spiritually and mentally hurt me so badly i am permanently quitting this board for the foreseeable future.

  12. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    What's the point of having a gf if you barely have sex?

    That's like the one benefit from the boyfriend perspective.

    Without constant sex, it's just like voluntarily keeping an annoying woman around for no reason.

  13. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    This is /LULZ/. Fuck off normalfag.

    [...]

    >>>/b/

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      the OP is regarding what other people's experiences are, not advice.
      keep seething though

  14. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Married almost 20 years. Gone from 2 to 3x weekly at the beginning to about that a year. Posting on 4 chan as I am literally an incel.

    Divorce is expensive. Why you ask. Because it is worth it.

    Do not get married and do not have children anons

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Can you elaborate more on your situation and how it deteriorated to this level? Have you not tried to remedy it?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Not him but I'll elaborate.
        He's a retarded fucking westoid boomer who fell for the marriage scam. In muslim countries ~~*marital rape*~~ does not exist so you can fuck your wife when you want.
        But for cucked white men your wife decides when you get sex. And if you get none you have to divorce and lose half your shit + custody of the kids.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        My wife is either ace or closeted. Nothing I can do to ameliorate that. Her maternal instincts needed a sperm donor. Now I have fulfilled that need I am just a roommate really. She earns as much as I do so at least I will not get too screwed in the proceedings.

        I imagine a burned out 45 years old with a beer belly posting from his nasty computer chair in between drinking Coronas and watching football from the couch.

        BMI 24 and physically active

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          Just put her on the bed and fuck her. Oh wait you can't legally fuck your own wife without getting raped in prison for 10 years. Absolute fucking state of westoids. Just divorce you cretin this isn't even funny anymore just sad.
          You live like an incel but not even incels want you.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          >My wife is either ace or closeted.
          no she's the average woman. the people here have daily sex seriously just so happened to find women who are extreme outliers or something. near every anecdote and case on this fucking board is so far removed from reality its hilarious. yours is more believable than the dude itt having sex multiple times every single day.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          And so why haven't you divorced her?

          >My wife is either ace or closeted.
          no she's the average woman. the people here have daily sex seriously just so happened to find women who are extreme outliers or something. near every anecdote and case on this fucking board is so far removed from reality its hilarious. yours is more believable than the dude itt having sex multiple times every single day.

          lmao this is pure cope

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            lawyers are involved. Two months and a bit of paper will arrive going
            > lol you are single again homosexual

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      I imagine a burned out 45 years old with a beer belly posting from his nasty computer chair in between drinking Coronas and watching football from the couch.

  15. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    >hey do you think we could have a little talk? i have a pretty high libido and i know you don't always feel the same; i have some needs and i know our outlooks dont quite match up do you think we could find a way to compromise?
    but like use actual words and articulate it into a conversation so it doesnt sound gigautismo. wow that was fucking hard

    you are so insecure you cant bring this up to her how the fuck did you manage to get a gf in the first place inb4 larp

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >do you think we could find a way to compromise
      what is compromise?
      Her giving me awkward unenthusiastic handjobs the other 6 days of the week?
      I'd rather just keep jerking off then. Even when we do fuck it honestly seems like I'm just jerking myself off using her vagina. Our libido is like miles apart.
      The only reason I'm in this relationship is it wasn't like this always. We used to have amazing sex almost daily.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        This is why I love having a foot fetish. I don't have to get upset because my wife doesn't wanna spend 20 hours blowing my death gripped cock trying to make me cum, for her just to feel unattractive because it takes so fucking long. I fuck feet bro. Plus make sure she's actually cumming during sex, get her a vibrator or some shit. Unless she has a history of squirting all over your cock when you fuck, she's probably not gonna want to fuck you and she's probably not impressed you spend your free time jerking it to blacked.com. Dunno what else to tell guys in sex starved relationships or marriages, most of you guys kick the can down the road and never address the issue, forcing your wives to play with your cocks while neglecting the rest of the glaring issues in the relationship. You guys are obsessed with sex Jesus Christ.

  16. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    3/6 times per month aka around once a week and some weekends is fairly common for women, especially if they work and are older (aka over 20)

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >fairly common for women
      how is it common for women but not for men? unless we're talking about gay sex should those numbers be 1 to 1?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Women control the sex frequency

  17. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    that's hardly having sexy anymore? 3 to 6 times a month sounds great, the real issue is whether or not that trend is changing over time and what your expectations realistically are. The truth of the matter is that humans were just not really meant to be sexually monogamous from one end of life to another, and it is much more easy to be thrilled by novelty, something new, than it by the same old same old.

    Modern humans are just not ready for what that means. So in the past they always just cheated. That is why it is such a common theme, because it is just common. If it seems too common now, it was way more common back when people had some sort of privacy and men were able to just not come home until late and claim they were just doing guy stuff.

    You need to decide what you actually want and whether or not someone else realistically wants the same thing.

  18. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    >or if this is legitimate grounds for ending a longterm relationship..
    Well, just own the fact that you never loved her and you were in the relationship only for the sex.
    Just know that this is how all your relationship will end up if sex remains the most important part of the relationship for you. All relationships dry up.

  19. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    If you're having less than once per week, dump her.
    >M32
    >relationship
    >1-4 times per week.

  20. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Start working out and preparing for the next relationship. Ether she will start wanting more sex from the more attractive you or you have a springboard to the next one.

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