>completed college, have a sustainable job and financially healthy
>clothing and hair style on point
>omad diet, little to no sugar intake
>developing a skincare routine, acne reduced
>braces made noticeable changes to face definition
>lean and okay muscle definition
>5'47, 23 yo, brazillian
>friendless, khhv
what the fuck do I do now?
Whatever you want. You've said what you've done, but is any of that what you wanted to do? Boil your desires down to their very root, and ask yourself, what do you want?
i wanna have a safe sloppy bj and sex with a interesting gf, to also interact with sometimes and im happy. but maybe this is just an unachievable fantasy that will lead me down to a depressing path and I should just stick to sex toys and my favorite audios, fanfics and rule34's
also, everything I listed is the things that I wanted to do, caring over yourself is very worth it
So you feel you're missing sexual, emotional and social gratification. Those aren't unrealistic terms, but your focus on other things may have gotten in the way of achieving them, or just didn't impact them at all despite your belief that they helped. Either way, you can achieve those things, they may just require other focuses to attain, and maybe a realignment of your perspectives about them and yourself. Despite popularly shared conceptions, being fit, well-dressed and groomed, well-paid with a good career, have very little to do with relationships or friendships; at least on their own merits, those things don't lead to finding them. You described yourself mostly positively, but are you confident of yourself? Are you outgoing as a personality? Do you make the effort to seek others, and take a genuine interest in them? There's a lot you can do, and a lot more you can embody, that would help you get where you want to be.
yeah, I never put the effort into looking up for people that are on the same boat as me, I mean, where do are you supposed to find them? actually Google searching? I feel like an outcast, that's why I never actually tried
I wouldn't bother with narrowing your potential by trying to find others similar to yourself. I would try to make the company of people that are completely different from you, actually, because those exposures and forming understandings of who they are is how you yourself grow as a person. You can be friends with someone you have little in common with, what matters more is that you express interest in them, and share yourself also. Commonality isn't necessary for mutual understanding and appreciation. Think of a social activity in which you don't think you would "fit in" and just go try it. If you're not a barfly, as an example, then go to a bar, enjoy the room, find opportunities to engage with others.
>what matters more is that you express interest in them, and share yourself also.
I also read the "How to win friends" book. I don't want to be around people that drink or smoke because they'll try to brainwash me constantly into doing so. conversation topic is always either sex-life related,or something boring like football. also doesn't help that everyone in a bar is 35+, deadbedroom, obese and balding. my interests are all uncommon, so there's no point in discussing them.
I think my only hope is looking for groups that speak my language online, as most of the time I interact with gringos
>I also read the "How to win friends" book.
I don't know the book, but that's how you do earn friends; by expressing interest and sharing your own.
>I don't want to be around people that drink or smoke because they'll try to brainwash me constantly into doing so
There are plenty of people that engage in both but are also respectful of others, that's a sweeping generalization and again, needlessly constrains your opportunities. When I say your perspectives get in your own way, this is an example.
>conversation topic is always either sex-life related,or something boring like football. also doesn't help that everyone in a bar is 35+, deadbedroom, obese and balding.
Again, sweeping generalizations and skewed perspectives, either due to lack of experience, or limited experience with a negative perspective.
>my interests are all uncommon, so there's no point in discussing them.
I'm certain you're far from being so unique, anon. Regardless, anyone with a passionate interest can be interesting to listen to, especially if it truly is so "niche" as to be novel. Others don't have to know what you're talking about with full prior knowledge in order to be interested and willing to discuss it.
I can tell you things from my own experience, but nobody will be able to help you from getting in your own way, anon. Your potential is as deep or as shallow as you allow it to be. I can only offer that it is very hard to grow as a person and develop better perspectives if you're only engaging with people whom are similar to you, or only seeking people with whom you share interests or life circumstances. Close-mindedness doesn't open many doors, I'm afraid.
be honest, are you using chatgpt to write this?
>Verification not required.
I'm not, no. I've been told that a few times now, though. Not exactly sure why; I guess it's just the long, actually thought-out replies devoid of the nagger word or redpill channerisms.
You write good
Thanks, anon.
Mhm
you could've actually just said "just get yourself out there bro"
I think that's an unfair reduction of what I said, but I also just like to write. Brevity may be the soul of wit, but explanation and clarity is how understanding is formed. We could similarly reduce entire philosophies to their core values, but we wouldn't comprehend their wisdom to appreciate it.
Also, asiaticmoot pays the server fees and I plan to cost him money per character. Fuck Hiroshima Nagasaki.
>5'47
>brazilian
incels.is
finally, a human response
I'm just going to warn you on that one, your porn addiction has heavily warped your understanding of sex, and if you go in convinced that you'll cum liters from a blowjob, you will be shocked by how unstimulating sex can actually be.
I really suggest you stop all this porn shit whenever you can, or at least reduce your consumption significantly.
I was also in your situation, everything was going well for me, got the job I wanted at big tech, making extremely good money, looking alright for someone who never really bothered with the gym, but was a khv. I got my first (and still current) girlfriend, and had my first time, and I was shocked by how understimulated I felt, it was disappointing. And Im lucky enough to have a gf that lets me try new stuff and who gets super fucking naughty during sex, yet I was still disappointed.
I cut on the porn and recently sex has been so fucking great, but it took many months for my brain and dick to recover fully, both sensory-wise and psychologically.
how do you ACTUALLY stop? I don't watch sex shit on pornhub as I find that gross. I'm mostly into suggestive stuff, r34 and F4M audio. I read stuff like the easy peasy, had a nofap phase, all cope imo
How did you get your clothing and hairstyle on point?
white sneakers, skinny jeans and custom T shirt that fit well in my body
getting hair done at a saloon and buying shampoo and conditioner from them, which got me really big volume quickly . faded cut and a tuft on top(don't know how to call it)
>5'47, 23 yo, brazillian
yeah its over before it began. sorry bro
thank you bro, was about to take the advice from
and supposedly improve myself by talking to random homosexuals on bars