>cis straight dude who grew up with a lot of lgbt friends because we were all depressed
>solid 8/10 but social anxiety and im still kinda emo so probably a 6, good posture only goes so far
>get heartbroken by cis girl 4 years ago because i was an idiot
>meet cute bi trans girl whos older than me, makes me feel validated, tells me not all girls are like that
>really care for her, reassure her that shes enough, (i dont have a genital preference), im attracted to HER
>get annoyed but still support her when she calls herself a "man," i wouldnt be attracted to her if i saw her that way
>introduces me to /tttt/ for the first time
>now involved in online trans discourse (lol)
>facade comes crashing down
>describes me to mutuals as "sad and malleable"
>she knows i need a reciprocal emotional connection before sex, she says she needs sex to feel emotionally connected
>rip
>flame dies out, she calls me a chaser then cuts me off when im not ready for sex yet
>fucks the entire tri state area, tells me about it, then never tries to talk to me again when i dont respond
flirt with cis girls and we dont share any of the same ideals/interests/personality so it doesnt work out beyond them wanting to fuck, flirt with tgirls and it feels like they're apprehensive because they come across so many chasers, and im paranoid of being seen as one.
is it over? it feels like my experiences predisposed me to being a complete anomaly among cis straight guys.
you dated a 4 chan trannie what did you expect would happen. honestly
How old was she? How old are you?
im early 20s, she was in her mid/late 20s.
Did you actually have sex or no?
no, we had sexual interactions and sexted, but it generally takes me a while to feel attached enough to wanna dive in, and that wasnt good enough for her
noooooo 🙁 i'm sorry op, that sounds heartbreaking
thank you. unfortunately it is what it is, im glad i didnt get too attached to her, but it still sucks and i hold some resentment towards her ofc
its not over at all. all you did was learn not to trust so easily. sorry you had to learn it that way, cute op 🙁 ygmi!
fake, she didn't think you were eggcoded
im gonna keep it 100 with u rn i have no clue what the difference between being an egg and being eggcoded is. but i think it was pretty clear i dont have dysphoric feelings
>i need a reciprocal emotional connection before sex
I know exactly what kind of guy you are bro, and it's not going to go well. you have to change yourself and be more stereotypically bro-ey masculine. if you aren't like that no one will ever consider you a man in a romantic sense. not cis women, not trannies, not even gay men.
lose the sensitivity, it only hurts you. you even typing this online would be a red flag if you didn't do it anonymously (like if you did it on twitter or something). don't be like this, you will be sad your whole life if you continue.
please for the love of god don't do this. we're not all like this and op is the only kind of guy i'd actually *want* to date
it seems like theyre doing it, unfortunately.
ah, a foolish romantic who got his heartbroken. you will learn to love again someday!
>flirt with cis girls and we dont share any of the same ideals/interests/personality so it doesnt work out beyond them wanting to fuck
That has been the case for men and women since the differentiation of the sexes. Why do you think it's too high a barrier for you if you recognize this is a problem your ancestors overcame?
i mean, i feel like theres a pretty large distinction between the society of my ancestors and modern society. we dont hold ourselves to the same standards, and its applicable to modern gender roles too right? i mean, i guess i could fuck on the first date but that doesnt provide any real sense of fulfillment, it just kinda feels vapid to me. just personal preference, id rather click trees on a monitor with friends.
>she knows i need a reciprocal emotional connection before sex, she says she needs sex to feel emotionally connected
And you didn't feel an emotional connection from the stuff that came before? How needy are you?
with regards to the relationship,i felt connected enough to consider her a friend, but when personal conversations dont go into anything else except sex every single time without fail, and im aware im being seen as a human meat stick, its kinda hard to see past. but i also feel like theres more to a romantic relationship than being friends and having sex
I wouldn't worry about it
Such are the adventures of straight-bisexuals