Why are most the women I get with cheaters?
And I don't mean they're cheating on me, they're cheating WITH me
Like, genuinely eight out of the last ten women I was with were already taken... The last one was actually single, and we dated for a month but she dumped me last night.
I don't like dating cheaters, even casually or for a fling. I hate it, yet I seem to attract them.
I asked a friend for her opinion and she just told me that I'm
>Fling material, not boyfriend material
Without clarification.
I'm getting laid but I want an actual fucking date. Someone I can be romantic with, you know?
How are you getting laid?
Apps most of the time, we chat, I set up a cheap date and we meet.
Some times I'm just looking for someone to hangout with tbh, we become friends, I meet her buddies and I end up with someone there.
There's also guys who setup mixers. I used to go to those until I stopped having fun.
It's just people getting sloshed and wanting to fuck, I don't enjoy being unsober and talking to drunks is no fun.
How big is your city? How attractive would you say you are?
pretty big, it's a small country (relatively) but this is the citiest of cities. Always something to do or someone new to meet.
Not gonna toot my horn too much but I will say I'm pretty attractive and a very social person.
I guess that'd be true but it's honestly hard to sniff out girls in relationships from single girls.
Like, you're imagining this very obvious caricature of a barfly when reality is seriously so much more different.
I remember the most shocking one was this quiet, mouse-y, bookworm girl who I met from a friend.
Literally the morning after she tells me she can't stay cause it's her BF's birthday and she has to get ready for her date...
cool thanks, all I wanted to know. As far as advice goes, I'd say stop using Tinder for what you want.You said you are social - use that.
>youre imagining a barfly
No, youre imagining im imagining a barfly.
Did she sleep with you really fast without much resistance or "Im not ready" or "i wanna take it slow" statements? or did she go on several dates with you and communicate a desire for a long term relationship?
not all people interested in casual/non-serious relationships are cheating sluts
How shallow can you be?
Bud. I dont know if youre arguing to argue or what. Im not shallow (at all), plenty of lifetime dating experience, and happily married.
If she jumps into bed with you quickly, she is extremely likely not long term relationship ready, and in OPs case, since hes wondering "hurr how do I get all the cheaters" thays why. Hes dating women very obviously looking for somethjng casual which will skew very heavily cheaters.
If she takes things a bit slower, or at the very least communicates a strong desire for long term partnership, this is a green flag (regardless of her past even), and, in OPs case, an extremely good sign shes not someone whos cheating, since cheating people simply do not behave this way.
>local animeposter gets TOO MUCH pussy, actually.
Because you enable women to cheat because you're a thirsty fucking loser.
What advice are you looking for? I'd tell you to grow a sense of conciousness but you clearly don't give a shit about the morality of being faithful, and are clearly out to just have sex with whoever.
Probably they can sense that? I don't really give a shit.
You're a trashy person either way. Dumb thread.
Not sure what you're mad at me about
You think I knew these girls were taken when I met them? I said I don't like messing with cheaters.
Most the time I end up finding out after the fact, either from SNS or friends.
You expect me to run a background check on every girl I meet or something?
>You think I knew these girls were taken when I met them? I said I don't like messing with cheaters.
This also means you didn't bother getting to know them before slinging that dick. This ties right in to:
>Fling material, not boyfriend material
You're obviously presenting yourself as a guy who doesn't really care, just wants to fuck, doesn't care to get to know the girl, etc.
Also, if you're upset that girls are sleeping with you but not telling you they're taken.... and you're upset enough about it to be posting on LULZ... then perhaps you should OH I DUNNO
>TELL THEIR FUCKING BOYFRIENDS?
If I didn't want a cheater... and cheater found me and lied to me about it.... I would insta send her boyfriend proof of the cheating and troll the shit out of her. But that's me.
>I guess that'd be true but it's honestly hard to sniff out girls in relationships from single girls.
(I'm not the guy you're responding to) But that goes with what I just said - you won't know she's taken unless you do your research. Why do you think girls want your phone number and name before they meet you if they're serious about you? One reason is so they can stalk you, and one reason they stalk you is to see if you're taken and cheating.
>I remember the most shocking one was this quiet, mouse-y, bookworm girl who I met from a friend.
That's not shocking at all if you understand what I said here:
The shy bookworm girl wanted to cast of her shy bookworm-ness for a moment and be a FREE CHEATER JUST LIVING HER LIIIIIIFE! lol. She wanted to be sexy! and desirable! and fuck attractive men because that means she's not ugly anymore! lol. I've seen it so many times it's not shocking in the least. Hot women know they're hot and are usually afraid of being stupid - do you know who Sky Bri is? She's talked about this before:
>She's very confident in her body
>She's very insecure about speaking and intelligence
Its simple. Survivorship bias.
Promiscuous girls and cheating girls are extremely aggressive and extremely easy, good women are more subtle and difficult.
So if youre appealing as a sexual option, and you put zero effort into getting women, youre gonna get whores and cheaters. Thats it.
So tldr, raise your standards and self esteem. If the whores like you, good women do too, they just dont tackle you.
Don't have sex with them.
I'm a worthless liar, I am an imbecile.
I know all this, and yet I am in love with a taken girl.
I know you want advice, but advise me instead. How do I make her fall in love with me? I've 'known' her for only almost a month, but I've been observing her for a year from a glance.
She likes talking to me, she dms me, I dm her, we talk easily because our personalities and interests mostly match. I am 'close friends' with her currently.
But I can tell she is in love with her current boyfriend and does everything with him, they have history, and it seems they've been together for a year. They have inside jokes, stories, etc; the whole lot.
All I can hope at the moment is that a fallout happens and I am there at the right time.
I never thought myself as a homewrecker, but this heartache is too much for me to endure and I feel like I will die if I don't pursue her.
I am a 7/10, 20 y/o, I'm not really ugly but I'm not exactly a model either. Most dudes tell me my voice sounds good.
Help a fellow piece of shit out.
Can you spam more ash.
Excuse the slow replies, I was asleep.
It's not really spam if it's my own thread is it?
Aktually, he's from a video game. I used to play KOF a lot as a kid, back when it was popular.
Also it's not an issue of "too much" but rather the type/nature of it
Are you from south america
Flawed genetics. Humans are legacy code that was designed for an environment 250,000 years ago with minor refinements to the codebase over time. They lack empathy and commitment that you as a man have
Only real fix is genetic engineering or AI. You could also get yourself a convincing tranny but that's probably just as difficult to find.
>Why are most the women I get with cheaters?
Because most *humans* engage in cheating behaviors. It's a human thing.
>most women I get with
There's also a logical principle called "selection bias." The women that are sleeping with your are women who are promiscuous and your qualities are within their boundaries of "will accept dick from him." So let's assume you're an average man in many ways - height, weight, intelligence, etc. - and she fucks you. That means she'll fuck average men... and there are a lot of average men. So put those two together:
>She's promiscuous
>She'll fuck average men
And you've got a women who likes to fuck living in a world of fuckable men. She might only cheat at a low rate - say 5% - but if she has access and opportunities to cheat with anyone all the time... that 5% becomes a lot of dicks sucked. I'll read the rest now.
>And I don't mean they're cheating on me, they're cheating WITH me
LOL. If she's cheating with you, she's cheating on you too.
>Like, genuinely eight out of the last ten women I was with were already taken...
You know how men like to fuck many women and a variety of women and if they do many men feel better about themselves - aka I'm a BIG OL PIMP LOOK AT ME! - you know what I'm saying? Well women have the same thing except it's:
>I have a boyfriend who LOOOOVES me
>And I'm SOOO HOOOOT that I can pull other men too
>I'm so amazing.
These types of women are usually extremely insecure and traumatized and thus need large amounts of external validation.
> I hate it, yet I seem to attract them.
You should think more about who you are and how you're acting in the world that's attracting insecure women who want to use you to feel better about themselves.
>Fling material, not boyfriend material
>Without clarification.
That's an honest friend right there. Sounds like you have glaringly obvious personal shortcomings that you don't want to be aware of.
All women are whores. Next question
Stay off the apps and try actually meeting someone. Apps are for hook-ups. Nobody fell in love via them, no matter what they tell you.