So I’m 25, single, and it’s getting pretty lonely.
I’m 5’9, making about 200k a year, and decent-ish looking although I’m working on improving (losing weight a lot and gaining muscle, skincare, etc)
Is there still hope to find someone so late? Or is it over
If you got social circles where you can meet girls, then its not late
What social circles could those be? Like clubs and meetups?
No, it would be friends you hang out with regulary that introduce you to girls and invite you to parties where you can meet them
if you dont have that, then you need to go to university again, with 200k salary you can save up that money very quickly and go to uni before you're 30
I made absolutely zero friends at university. Everyone I hang out with now is someone I met from going out on a weekend.
Where did you go out each weekend to meet them?
You didn't but you could have
You could have walked up to people and asked them to hang out with you. There's no one to meet by going out on weekends since there's no one to meet on the weekends, everyone is just at their autism table with their retarded group unable to speak to someone going out
No, unless you already have a circle of friends (but then you wouldnt post here on saturday night) so just focus on the generic self help shit you are already familiar with and saving up money
So basically grind it out and work on myself until I go back to college? Seems a bit defeatist but it’s doable as a long term plan
how is it defeatist? it's optimistic if anything
dont think of it as grinding either, just think of it as waiting
the "grind" mentality will just make you resent the world, what you're doing is what you'll be doing once you have girls and children anyway
dont do anything you dont want to do for the rest of your life even after going back to uni
I’m not saying the grinding part is defeatist, I agree that you should be improving yourself regardless of what lies ahead
I’m saying the concept that “there is nothing you can do to meet someone except going back to college” is pretty bleak, although I can see why it’s a pretty reasonable conclusion. Making relationships after college is hard and there’s no easy way to do it
I moved to a new city for work and I don’t know anybody here.
I’m already planning on applying and going back to university in a couple years. Is there nothing I can do in the meantime?
america is a fucking insane country
>What social circles could those be?
Friends and acquaintances.
>Is there still hope to find someone so late?
25 isnt old omg. half the people your age are single. there are always a lot of single people
For a guy, the age of 25 isn't even close to being in your prime. It only gets better from here as long as you look after yourself and continue to improve instead of stagnating.
Once you hit your early-mid 40s things start to get harder if you want to meet a woman young enough to start a family, but until then, you're fine.
200k annual and you have trouble finding a GF? I guess it's hopeless for the rest of us or you're ugly as fuck. Try tinder and lower your standards. Make sure you put in the bio you make 200k annual and swipe right on the hottest girl you see
I don’t really walk around flashing money. I also am very introverted, don’t talk to a lot of people in the first place.
I realize that’s a problem but I’m not sure how to solve it. Making friends/relationships after college is huge puzzle
You’re not making 200k at 25.
I am. It’s much more common than you think.
Where tf do you live? Socal?
Big metro hub but not in Commiefornia
nagger there are 80 year old men who have girlfriends they met in the nursing home and you think you're "too old" to get a gf at 25?
Kek what the fuck happened to zoomers? Why are you guys like this?
Everyone says this but nobody manages to figure out how to meet girls after college. The most common answer I see is to just go back to college. Am I supposed to just randomly ask chicks I see out on the street or in the store? Doubt that works unless you’re an 8 minimum
>Everyone says this but nobody manages to figure out how to meet girls after college.
What the hell are you talking about? Do you have any idea how many girls I met after I was college-aged? And I'm just one (1) guy. Note that I said college-aged and not in college, because I actually did go back to school much later, not to meet girls but to get a degree. Funny enough I didn't date anyone there and according to some posters here like back-to-school-schizo it's the ONLY place I could have done so.
>Am I supposed to just randomly ask chicks I see out on the street or in the store?
No nagger, you're supposed to actually know women and have friends and a social life and actually go out and do things with people and be exposed to meeting more people.
The point, which you fags never seem to wrap your brains around, is that you're not supposed to be some boring loser with no life and no friends who is never around women. If you are, then yeah, expect to get no women unless you're able to rely on online dating or randomly asking girls out on the street. And as you said yourself, if you're not good looking you won't have any luck there either.
But you guys put yourselves in these ridiculous situations where those are your only options.
>you're supposed to actually know women and have friends and a social life
Agreed, but how?
I swear, if this board put as much effort into finding male platonic friendships as it did trying to get laid, inceldom would be cured worldwide.
>Agreed, but how?
Honestly it's not hard anon, I don't know what to tell you. If you're able to get along with people you almost have to try harder not to make friends than to make them. You don't even have to be particularly social...I don't think of myself as such. People make friends anywhere...from work, from school, from growing up on the same street, etc. Friends meet through other friends all the time also, which is how social circles grow (and why they are so important). Honestly a lot of the priniciples of making friends and meeting women really isn't all that different.
>I swear, if this board put as much effort into finding male platonic friendships as it did trying to get laid, inceldom would be cured worldwide.
I completely agree anon. But do yourself a favor and take your own advice. You're clearly no fool (more than we can say for many here) if you came to that conclusion on your own, now you just need to act on it.
> “Get a social life” isn’t really actionable advice.
How is it not actionable?
Look, if you really have no other options for meeting people (I mean friends here, but I guess it does apply to women too) there's a reason we always tell people to find a hobby of some kind. That way, at the very least, you can can connect with other people with that same hobby. There's all kinds of clubs, leagues, groups out there for all kinds of stuff. It just depends what you're into.
>clubs, leagues, groups
I did mention clubs and meetup groups before. But this idea got shot down earlier in the thread.
I guess it’s not useful for meeting women, but it’s a place to start for just finding friends. I’ll probably do that (better than nothing I suppose)
>But this idea got shot down earlier in the thread.
Who shot it down though? Some bucket crab?
>I guess it’s not useful for meeting women,
I mean it could be, depending on the activity in question. But yeah just making friends to start is enough. Friends beget more friends, and some of these friends might know some single women. Even if they don't, you'll at least have stuff to do and people to be with and suddenly not having a gf doesn't seem so daunting.
>I’ll probably do that (better than nothing I suppose)
Unironically the right attitude, ygmi anon.
Like the other poster said. “Get a social life” isn’t really actionable advice. Even if I want male platonic friends (and I do) where on earth does one go about building that outside of college environments?
>Why are you guys like this?
They are so feminized they have taken on the mindset of women.
U make 200k a year? Hey if I was your age I’d get with u (I’m a girl) I think u can get a gf
>gf after 25
It enrages me how brainwashed modern males are.
You are not a woman!
You have decades left!
You act your shelf life is over at 30 like it is for women, that is just bullshit.
I went on a first date with my first real gf in 8 years a day before my 29th birthday a few months ago, and I truly believe I will marry her. And I only had to go through 6 other first dates to find her, literally my perfect match
Pure chance I guess, I saw that she was from the same city I grew up in, asked her about it, figured out she lived near a bunch of my high school friends and went to another private school near mine, our families are very similar, more or less same values, on the same intellectual wavelength. Luck?
how u make 200k
college degree in something useful (engineering/law/finance/medicine) + aim for top companies/firms = 200k+