>been working in job for months and other people in my team are in their 20s and I'm an early 30s ugly beta who doesn't talk to anyone

>been working in job for months and other people in my team are in their 20s and I'm an early 30s ugly beta who doesn't talk to anyone
>was asked on my second day if I wanted to go drinking after work and I refused and wasn't asked since
>decide, fuck it, I'll try to be happy and social, that's what all the people in the cool stories do, even the overtly self-proclaimed introverted ones
>go to after work drinks
>walk just behind the coworkers awkwardly on the way there and wasn't talking to them so I pretended to tie my shoelaces so they went ahead and then I could walk alone to the pub
>feeling so pathetic but then that's how everyone feels, allegedly
>order most generic looking drink
>sit kind of near other people, maybe half a foot further away from everyone else than most people are
>face burning with cringe and everythingstential crisis makes me feel like I have a hollow head
>other people awkwardly seem to acknowledge me with their body language as the weird guy they have to just about acknowledge out of politeness by tilting their bodies and heads 1 degree towards me
>everyone talks about generic normie shit relating to their large friend groups, social activities, holidays, and fun nights out
>too loud to hear people easily
>at one point the two overtly-mechanically friendly people sitting nearest to me ask if I had any Christmas holiday plans and I said no, not really
>tried to half about but still felt I was speaking too quietly
>they still seemed to hear me, I think
>cringe off the charts
>they go back to talking
>look at phone repeatedly
>after 20 minutes I just put my glass back and walk out
>cringe off the charts but then the cool night air washes over me like a perfectly relaxing bath and I walk home quickly and upright, with heightened attention towards the normies passing by, as if I'm trying to focus energy towards them in a way that says "I'm just like you, I just came from regular socialising like anyone else"

  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Have you ever had sex OP?

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Jesus dude where did it all go so wrong. And how did you manage to land a job being this retarded I thought hr filters spergs at the interview stage now

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You got this my dude.

    Keep pushing your comfort zone.

    This is the grinding lvl 1 rats phase for your social skills. It sucks but with experience you will become much better.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Keep going OP, it'll get easier.

      Normies talk about their experiences (stuff that happens to them) because they know that any talk of opinions can quickly generate poor outcomes for everyone involved. Try and keep a few things handy in your mind that you can talk about -- obviously, if you never do shit, that'll be hard.

      Who knows, maybe be honest? They might appreciate it. If they ask you what you've been doing lately just be like "Bro I haven't been doing jack shit lately," and just turn it into something funny. Charisma isn't really that hard because people *want* to laugh with you, they *want* social interactions to be easy and frictionless, and they will endeavor to make them so. They're not necessarily disgusted or afraid of you or anything, they're just weary that you might be one of those undersocialized retards that latches onto anyone who is nice to them. Ironically they actually feel like you're putting social pressure onto *them* by being the quiet one. Their discomfort is probably something you've felt before when you were the normie to someone else.

      >at one point the two overtly-mechanically friendly people sitting nearest to me ask if I had any Christmas holiday plans and I said no, not really

      they're trying to include you, that's throwing you a bone. remember to keep your body language open and approachable. also, develop a personality. best of luck.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I had a similar experience with coworkers, except I didn’t feel cringe I just had zero interest in socializing with them at all.
        Sounds like you care too much OP, there’s no reason to feel that way. Maybe join a gym and visit LULZ?

        Yeah man being honest is a really good way to be charismatic. For example, I was making small talk with a guy at a rodeo. I was alone and he was with his two daughters. We started talking. He tells me he’s divorced. I tell him I’ve never had a gf despite being 30 yo which is embarrassing to admit. We start shooting the shit and he buys me a beer. That’s all it takes to socialize. Just be honest and carefree with an idgaf attitude.

        OP, if you haven't killed yourself yet you need to listen to these guys. Maybe this meme will help as well, I don't think anything really needs to be clarified about it.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    its just natural selection, youll die alone with no children.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >social anxiety
    >go to bar to drink away anxiety
    >decide to leave before this happens
    Lmao you’re a sperg and definitely on the spectrum. It’s okay because every company and team has one. Next time have a few more drinks to open up. Quit being so self conscious and quit guilt tripping yourself. Who fucking cares if you have no holiday plans or friends? Literally nobody cares. You cringe because you can’t be honest with yourself and to other people. Just be honest. People will accept you more if you’re than if you’re not.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      wish i saw this before i posted, this anon is absolutely right and better articulated a point i was trying to make. just be honest with people. if you have to admit something embarrassing just to "hang" in the convo then do it, just try and make it kinda funny and loveable.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah man being honest is a really good way to be charismatic. For example, I was making small talk with a guy at a rodeo. I was alone and he was with his two daughters. We started talking. He tells me he’s divorced. I tell him I’ve never had a gf despite being 30 yo which is embarrassing to admit. We start shooting the shit and he buys me a beer. That’s all it takes to socialize. Just be honest and carefree with an idgaf attitude.

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you should read the second part of "Notes From Underground". Because that's what this feels like.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    As the unsocial person your job is to be unhinged among your work crew. You'll never be able to talk with them about normalfag crap because you are not in that circle. You are in the "he's weird but he's funny" group, of which there is no return. You can still do well in this group but you have to not spill spaghetti again. You must fling the spaghetti at your coworkers and cement yourself in the organization that way. You'll make it, just need some practice.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Stop watching porn
    Stop masturbating

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    This is you:
    https://www.owleyes.org/text/notes-from-the-underground/read/part-ii-apropos-of-the-wet-snow-i

    "AT THAT TIME I was only twenty-four. My life was even then gloomy, ill-regulated, and as solitary as that of a savage. I made friends with no one and positively avoided talking, and buried myself more and more in my hole. At work in the office I never looked at anyone, and was perfectly well aware that my companions looked upon me, not only as a queer fellow, but even looked upon me--I always fancied this--with a sort of loathing..."

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I had a similar experience with coworkers, except I didn’t feel cringe I just had zero interest in socializing with them at all.
    Sounds like you care too much OP, there’s no reason to feel that way. Maybe join a gym and visit LULZ?

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The ending fucking killed me, amazing fren

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why would you do something you don’t like?
    Just be yourself and find things you do like and hang around people who like that stuff. For example let’s say you like or are interested in martial arts you can enroll in classes and make friends there since you guys have similar interests.

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Cant believe I just wanted a whole minute of my life reading this pointless garbage

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Here's a brilliant idea, don't hang out with bots.

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