So I've decided to only say nice things. I don't respond to social media hatred, I don't gossip and I stopped spreading negativity. I feel so much better in such a brief period of time. Yes, I'm going through a tough time but I'm finding the lesson in struggles when b4 I just complained. Life is hard but being nice and staying positive helps.
I dont know. positivity is better than being a depressed puddle but it's still not the best outlook to have. from my experience it's better to be neutral. accepting life for what it and doing what I can to negate the negatives and shoot up the positives.
Also being nice to everyone reduces the value of your compliments. Treat people with respect. Try not to cause trouble. Defend yourself when someone attacks you verbally or physically. If possible sprinkle in moments of genuine simple kindness every now and then.
but its nice to see you aren't compounding your negativity.
I agree. And to be more precise, I'm not saying nice things to everyone. People who act cruel get no response. I just don't engage in online cruelty, fighting or flaming. I used to. I have a family with troubles and I didn't always handle it in a productive way. So I'm just trying to be nice, honest and do no harm.
that's a healthy attitude to have. wish you well.
Thank you. Not always easy. But always worth it.
You're right, all the complaining and inaction did nothing but worsen my mental health. Removing yourself from the unnecessary pain and spreading the good news is much more enjoyable and makes life more manageable
Both true. I still have problems. Some ate incredibly serious. But being nice and not engaging ugliness irl or online, wow. It works man.
Well done mate. It's all good to have problems but people will like you if you are nice and affable.
Being a friendly and affable person is literally a superpower.
Toxic positivity is bad. A culture of acting positive all the time is sickening
Being happy in the face of everything is unreasonable and unhealthy. But I think you'll find there are so many things that can be handled better just by being nice to people.
Tell someone you love them. Smile. Forgive. It works. So much online (especially social media ) is ugly, exclusionary and divisive. Don't jump in. I was a negative person. I just stopped one day. I feel better and you will too.
I love you, OP.
Good luck in life. I'm sure you bring happiness to those around you too.
Thanks. Love back 2 u
You’re definitely on the right track OP.
However there is one more pitfall that you would be wise to avoid when embarking on the long but worthwhile road to self-fulfilment; rest assured one you don’t seem to have fallen into but I wanna tell you anyway so you can avoid it as you do your best to avoid ‘toxicity’. So, hear me out:
Many people don’t understand this, but toxicity exists in two forms. Toxic negativity and toxic positivity. You’ve no doubt seen the negative spectrum, you see it all the time on here. But then there is the toxic ‘positivity’. And it’s one you rarely hear about.
Toxic positivity is “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Toxic positivity is “Don’t listen to negativity, only be positive”. It’s when a person censors themselves and castrates half of their own spectrum of emotions—negative feelings—in an attempt to control things. It’s when someone denies themselves the right to express negative feelings, which make up half of the human experience, and will soon try to expect and pressure others to do the same. Soon they will call other people toxic and bad, they will see villains everywhere.
Yes be nice. But if your niceness comes at the cost of your honesty, then that niceness will not come a nice place. It will come from a place of fear and neuroticism. So be wise and remember that negativity and negative feelings are important, they are valuable emotions. They are built into us for a very good reason. Do not throw the baby out with the bathwater and forsake your right to feel bad.
Simply find healthy ways to feel and express negativity and you’ll be as good as gold.
OP here. All very true and important points. Balance and honesty are vital.
i'm only mean here to make you guys laugh, nothing personal
I get it. It helps sometimes. Thank you anon
Focus on being a kind person, not nice. Anyone can be nice, and niceness is usually fake. Kindness is authentic
This is also true. But when I say nice, I mean genuine. Genuinely be nice, kind, do no harm. It's always the better choice to remain silent if you can't be kind.
I literally envy you anon, i've always complained in life and started like 5 years ago to be more positive but to no change in my life or in the life or other.
I think this is a way of life which result only in the worse outcome.
Staying postive can help you so far but there IS going to be a turning point in whcih life is gonna kick you in the balls and your positivity is not gonna help you.
Better treat it with proffesional. I did with my anger issues and i'm not the best to keep calm but i do try my best.
Hope everything goes well for you and not like it did to me.
The one thing I learned in this 5 years is that, it's ok to ask for help and it's worse only for you if you act as if everything is ok sunshine and rainbows.
True this as it may, I get so angry at a bunch of fools and that makes it difficult to be happy when I’m being triggered all the time. Also, I would say that it is a type of negativity, not to respond to negativity. You’d do very well to respond to it in a manner that turns things around. There are no opposing poles, really. Every opposite is only a different measure of the same thing.