>be me
>mtf
>crossdresser approaches me
>chaser approaches me
>theyfab approaches me
>they hit me with the "hello fellow transgender.jpg"
>tell them that im not a real woman, and they arent a tranny
>malding ensues
how do I make this stop? is this just part and parcel of being visibly trans? I fucking hate this shit
Looking dangerous and unhinged could help, but then you might end up fuel for terfs. Might be easier than passing for cis though.
>crossdresser approaches me
>chaser approaches me
nothing wrong with these
>theyfab approaches me
you should do your best to make these people feel excluded and alienated
>you should do your best to make these people feel excluded and alienated
This is why I generally hide being nb if there's trans binoids afoot. I try not to associate with them or their community if I can help it. Big ol can of worms.
Nothing wrong with being NB.
but if you are personally offended by the term "theyfab" then yes you should be ostracised.
Wait is it offensive? That would explain why I only see it here.
I don't really get enbies who say they're trans. There's the whole trans umbrella thing, but to me, nonbinary feels less like it's under the umbrella and more like it's just adjacent to it. Some nbs are closer, some are further, but all in that adjacent position of related gender silliness.
I mean I would love to not be a gender jester. this is kind what im getting at-i don wanna be a sillybillytroonillydilly. I just wanna be fucking normal.
Same. Everything would be easier if we weren't so silly but the show must go on
I dont have anything against any of these types as long as they dont claim to be trans.
Idk advice to give you sorry but I wanted to say you are very brave anon 🙂
whole lotta failed narcissists itt
elaborate?
op is being avoidant under the guise of being some (pretentious) arbiter of "transness". it is absolutely unhinged to, in her words,
>"tell them that im not a real woman, and they arent a tranny"
and their reaction of "malding" is absolutely justified considering op's responses. because op doesn't consider herself valid as a woman she projects this invalidation onto everyone else. a failed narcissist. really op is the type that hid behind a veil of irony and luls their entire life, but now when forced to confront the truth of their mtf identity by having other lgbt people flock to her we see op for what she truly is, a petrified and avoidant child that only knows how to callously push away the only ppl willing to talk to her.
im op and I was the one asking you to elaborate
I think there is some truth in what you are saying
how do I remedy this? am I just fucked?
nah nigga u fucked im kinda like this too kek
shit
ive known I have cluster b tendancies for years and I try to keep them in check but yeah idk how to fix them.
I lowkey kinda stand by my comebacks to these people tho, its like if I went up to a cisf and was all "omg periods amirite!" and its especially fucked when its a chaser who initially makes a move on me and then later hits me with "so I didn't mention it at first but im just like you!"
>a chaser who initially makes a move on me and then later hits me with "so I didn't mention it at first but im just like you!"
why is that fucked up exactly. i'm a troon, and i wouldn't really feel bad about that. we might have to break up if it leads to a drastic change in the relationship but i don't see why i should hate that
it feels like they are using me to figure themselves out. like they want to be me and fuck me. like im going to be their magical guide into the wonderful world of trannyism.
if you want advice thats fine. but be upfront and just ask for that.
This. So much this. If you wanna transition that's cool. But be upfront about it. Don't try to lull me into some relationship so you can vicariously live through me until you eventually troon out and we have to break up because i'm only attracted to men.
you cant accept yourself because you dont like yourself. Stop defining yourself as a transgender woman. Cis women don't define themselves as women, and neither should you. It's just a thing that you are. What else are you besides a woman? That's why you feel like an imposter.
hmmm. so like... hobbies and work and stuff?
Yes, hobbies. Especially exercise. Anything where you can objectively judge improvement over time works best. It grounds you and provides positive reinforcement. Engaging with things physically challenges you, even if it's just your dexterity like knitting, or carving. Mens sana in corpore sano. A healthy mind in a healthy body. You do not exist without a body.
ok. thank you for the advice.
Sis you might need a napkin you're spitting a lil there
>be mtf
>insult myself and others
>people get mad at me