>be me, go out on a date. >on the way there I had a chatty Uber driver

>be me, go out on a date
>on the way there I had a chatty Uber driver
>asks me what do I do for a living and then says
>"Let me guess, you’re a programmer"
Years of gym – worthless.
Months of /fashion/ – worthless.
I got clocked by a not-even-a-taxi-driver. Just the thing I needed to hear before a date.
I told the girl that and she laughed but left me on delivered for 24 hours and counting (it’s over).
There’s no getting away from the programmer phenotype. $200k/year and I can’t even get a second date.
picrel guys trying to pull off a look they don’t have the faces for

54 thoughts on “>be me, go out on a date. >on the way there I had a chatty Uber driver

  1. Anonymous says:

    Keep looking. You’re just not finding the right one. Maybe get your parents to help arrange one from the home country (India).

      • Anonymous says:

        You look fat and strong at the same time. Are you bulking?

        Not OP.

        How in the heck have you been years at the gym and just don’t look like fit dude? What’s wrong with your face?

        I’m slim and I look reasonably fit (although the progress isn’t linear obviously). I don’t know how the guy guessed and I had no time to ask because he said it 5 seconds before we got to the place.

        >I told the girl that and she laughed but left me on delivered for 24 hours and counting (it’s over)

        you probly got back-burnered. dont sweat it.

        She said she’s
        >not really interested in taking this further

        How bad does your self-esteem have to be that your world totally crumbles because an Uber driver correctly guessed your profession?

        My self esteem felt pretty good until this guy volunteered a guess that I’m a programmer while I was going to a date.

        • Anonymous says:

          >My self esteem felt pretty good
          The only reason it "felt" good is because nothing had come up recently to challenge it. You need to build some resilience, dude.

        • Anonymous says:

          You lost your girl because you cried about the uber driver on your date. Never do that it makes you look like a loser obsessing over what some dude making below minimum wage thinks of you.

        • Anonymous says:

          The glasses

          Nonchuds get lasik or wear contacts

          even if you were a jacked gymcel, it looks pathetic when you have a soft cushy job

          Not OP.
          OP just got back from the gym and can do 25 pull-ups with full range of motion.

  2. Anonymous says:

    If if eases your pain, taxi and uber drivers tend to be very good at reading people, as most in the service industry.
    Also there’s a subset of homely to mid smart girls who are into programmers, look out for those.

  3. Anonymous says:

    >I told the girl that and she laughed but left me on delivered for 24 hours and counting (it’s over)

    you probly got back-burnered. dont sweat it.

  4. Anonymous says:

    How bad does your self-esteem have to be that your world totally crumbles because an Uber driver correctly guessed your profession?

  5. Anonymous says:

    As a programmer the following had an effect

    >not using an android (“wow I didnt expect you to be a programmer since you have an iphone!”)
    >not wearing glasses
    >not having fat androgenized face (I could only fix this with roids)
    >not being silent and introverted (I could only fix this with coke)
    >not dressing like a nerd

    Once I have made these changes I have no longer been accused of being a programmer, and people are actively surprised when I tell them I am

  6. Anonymous says:

    did you wear the driver jacket to a date omg

    Listen youre a computer nerd, your income doesn’t change that, you are already facing an uphill battle, no meme jackets.

    • Anonymous says:

      I wore a coat, I don’t wear meme clothes.

      Nepotism and connections, got it

      Work at a place for a year, then look for a better offer, then ask for a raise/promotion and if they don’t want to give it to you, move to the new place and so on. Seek more responsibility, get noticed in meetings and evade blame for anything. If you just show up and do your job, you’ll get only as much as that job pays.

  7. Anonymous says:

    Someone explain to me what the heck "programming" even means. I hear everyone is working in computers nowadays but I have no clue what the hell you do on them that could make money.

    • Anonymous says:

      It means they got a nepotism job as a web developer, they’re basically a computer janitor but public image still hasn’t caught up with what they’re doing for a living, they sit at a computer and do secretarial internet janitor work, especially if they’re a 10x or full stack developer, they spend their day shopping online and pretending to work half the time, the most feminine class of work imaginable.

      • Anonymous says:

        >It means they got a nepotism job as a web developer, they’re basically a computer janitor but public image still hasn’t caught up with what they’re doing for a living, they sit at a computer and do secretarial internet janitor work, especially if they’re a 10x or full stack developer, they spend their day shopping online and pretending to work half the time, the most feminine class of work imaginable.
        It’s pretty much this, every time I ask anyone who does computer work for a living it’s basically going to an online meeting, hecking around on the internet or playing MMOs all day, and maybe sending an email or two. And they never want to give me that kind of a job.

        • Anonymous says:

          I am thankful for having an actual programming job, even if only 10% requires actual thought and 90% of issues are “this button is the wrong color” or “add error message if drive is full”
          (I also make half as much as a web dev)

          • Sieg Heil says:

            How do you get into it? I’m currently a machinist and someone asked me if I knew gd&t, how to make stuff and if I knew how to use tools and got me a job.

            I’m about to jump ship so I can make guns finally, want to learn how to do it the right way not my hobbled together shit

          • Anonymous says:

            College degree. Got hired where I did my apprenticeship (whatever it is called in english) then applied to other places
            But if you just learn programming you can apply with a portfolio to entry level positions

    • Anonymous says:

      Programmers write programs. With code and shit. Basically the boss wants an app that can do X, so you write shit that makes the app do X. Can either be super complicated shit where you’re writing literal ones and zeroes, or these days it can sometimes even not involve any code at all (though I’m not sure if you’re still called a programmer at that point, and that would only be for very simple stuff).

      How could you not know this though

  8. Anonymous says:

    It probably has nothing to do with the way you dress or your physique. The taxi driver read your body language, you are probably introverted and awkward around women, so the taxi driver assumed that you work in something with little social interaction, thus a programmer.

    • Anonymous says:

      There’s actually a good chance it was just that.

      I wore a coat, I don’t wear meme clothes.

      […]
      Work at a place for a year, then look for a better offer, then ask for a raise/promotion and if they don’t want to give it to you, move to the new place and so on. Seek more responsibility, get noticed in meetings and evade blame for anything. If you just show up and do your job, you’ll get only as much as that job pays.

      OP what exactly did you wear though? Describe us how you look exactly, including body and face/hair. NOW!

  9. Anonymous says:

    People ask me "do you like maths or programming?" and I’m not even a programmer, I studied humanities. The ugly incel aura of a programmer but none of the money.

  10. Anonymous says:

    you can do anything to a woman except bore them. how much you make or your clothing and fitness are mostly for yourself. going up to zillions of girls and putting yourself in uncomfortable/social situations is the only way to improve what women want the most – which is this deeply ethereal thing known as confidence. and if you master it you can get anyone without even trying

    • Anonymous says:

      this is the way

      I used to tell them I was a janitor and pick them up in a rusted out 03 jeep liberty and I’d still pull hot b***hes.

      A woman can tell if you ‘Just Get It’ or not, and that’s pretty much what they are looking for, especially on first dates.

      • Anonymous says:

        >A woman can tell if you ‘Just Get It’ or not
        She can tell by seeing how tall you are and how good your face looks. That’s all there is to it. We can do online experiments now, you can’t gaslight us with your bullshit no more.

        • Anonymous says:

          lol not at all my man. Listen I am sorry if you are having girl problems but I assure it has very little to do with height or your face, and using that as cope will only hold you back.

          Neil Strauss is a 5’6, skinny, bald nerd. You have no excuse.

          • Anonymous says:

            >Neil Strauss is a 5’6, skinny, bald nerd. You have no excuse.
            That’s a Danny de Vito tier argument. Remember, I can (and do) run online dating experiments doing/saying exactly the same things but with a different face and height on the profile. It’s not peer reviewed research but it’s good enough to draw already painfully obvious conclusions.
            Go gaslight someone else.

    • Sieg Heil says:

      Back in the day you could chat up chicks you weren’t into to learn to bullshit.

      Girls don’t communicate effectively or with facts they they all this round about bullshit.

      How much is the milk
      $2

      Girls: hi how are you!
      Great you?
      Omg I love how cut this lil stand is
      Oh thanks I took like forever to build this little thing and like I’m the paint was from michaels so like I was in line and I heard them blah blah blah

      That’s why any company that hires women to manage shit starts losing efficiency

      But it’s a skill to learn how to live through that bullshit and the easiest way is to fix it

      Also they love experiences they can tell a story about which is ducking stupid

      So go up to a chick to heck with her

      You’re a 35 year old man

      Go hit up zoomer chick and be like, hey is your mom’s name Stacy and did she have a tinder account like (around zoomer girl age) ago?

      No? Oh good!

      So…. What are doing tonight want to head back to my place…

      Let’s you learn how to live in uncomfortable situations, it’s a story for dumbass zoomer girl

      And it’s funny as heck just keep doing that shit and you won’t be afraid of chicks they’re basically hens they can’t do shit.

      Also if you’re in the hating women phase you can bully them too until you get tired of it.

      Girls give each other backhanded compliments as a method of bullying

      So do it in subtle ways and she’ll have another “story”

      Hey I love your top, yeah I heard temu has cute stuff like that but honestly it’s too cheap looking for me, looks good on you though

  11. Anonymous says:

    unless youre asian, its possible to not look like a programmer. Ditch glasses first of all, grow out your hair mid lenght and hope it has waves, and look like you smoke

  12. Femboy4Prez says:

    The programmers I went to school with were chads who were misogynistic and decently autistic. And that’s what I think of when I think of a programmer. Your bigger problem is probably that you will make a lot of women feel like shit whenever you end up having more "stable" relationships.

    Anyway I don’t think this means you are ugly, probably just socially maladapted.

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