>Be me, 29 year old kissless virgin guy. >introverted as fuck. >invited to a friend's graduation party

>Be me, 29 year old kissless virgin guy
>introverted as fuck
>invited to a friend's graduation party
>towards the evening, a girl with whom I sorta hung out a couple of times/went on dates a year or so ago (we were never intimate and she sort of rejected me at one point which I figured meant that she wasn't interested in pursuing anything with me, partially which is why I stopped hanging out with her) comes straight up to me and we talk for like an hour at least.
>As we talk she keeps looking me in the eyes and smiling at me, and asking how I'm doing etc, and when I decide to take my leave from the party, she decides to leave with me, and tells me that we should meet up again when I get back in town.

So, I may be autistic as fuck, but I am not fucking retarded, obviously this girl likes me or is interested in me at least on some level, like, my issue is, that my crippling fucking anxiety stemming from my own inexperience with women basically fills me with terror from just the idea of trying to pursue her. I dunno what the fuck I should do. I mean, she's cute and all, and I enjoyed chatting with her, but we ultimately don't know each other that well because we haven't really spent that much time together so I dunno if I really even like her myself.
The whole evening while we chatted I kinda wanted to hug her or clasp her hand etc physical touching but my anxiety and fear of her not liking me doing that kept me back and we only hugged when she hugged me as we left the party together.

Dunno what's the point of this rant really other than a plea for advice for a fucking retarded sperg like me who has never been in a relationship or intimate with anyone in his whole fucking life.

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Don't give second chances to women, maybe keep it casual, she's most probably broke or something where she thinks she can take advantage of you.

    Other advice would be to just play along, pay for her date and get some experience... Once you've seen enough of women you'll realize they're plaid and boring most of the times

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      if a woman really likes you then she will tell you sooner or later
      never make the first move if you are a male, you will just embarrass yourself

      I'm not sure if these are sarcastic or serious bits of advice.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        its completely serious, if a woman likes you then she will let you know

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      [...]
      I'm not sure if these are sarcastic or serious bits of advice.

      Mine is serious af, I'm happily married and all that shit.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I see.

        its completely serious, if a woman likes you then she will let you know

        Well she said that she wants to see me again when I get back in town. And I didn't buy her shit like drinks or whatever at the party either so I dunno why she would think that she could financially take advantage of me. And even if she does think that she's gonna be disappointed cuz I'm broke as fuck lel

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          the only thing that women care about is looks, if you look good then your financial status doesn't matter at all

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Well I'm not ugly or anything. My lack of experience with women is mostly due to being a fucking sperg with social anxiety and crippling shyness and generally just not interacting with women in my day to day life. Hell, for the past year the only women I saw more than a handful times were my relatives because my university studies were kinda put in the back burner and I was basically a fucking neet for a year and barely left my apartment.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This, just use her as experience. Women are boring

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Well I'd be happy to just have a cute girl who likes to be around with me and with whom to cuddle etc. If I want funny and entertaining company I got plenty enough male friends that can entertain me easily be it via just hanging out and chatting or playing games or whatever.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >we haven't really spent that much time together so I dunno if I really even like her myself
      And that's exactly why people make plans to spend time together or to go on a date. To find out if they like each other. That's the point. Give it a try. What have you got to lose?

      if a woman really likes you then she will tell you sooner or later
      never make the first move if you are a male, you will just embarrass yourself

      I can't believe people come to an advice board and knowingly give advice this bad. If you don't know what you're talking about just say nothing. You guys should be ashamed of yourselves.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >What have you got to lose?
        Well nothing really, and I already promised her that we'd meet up again. I'm kinda just worried that my own anxiety and insecurity over my inexperience with women will just screw me over.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Well think of it this way: you won't somehow be any less inexperienced if you pass this chance up, right? Hang out with her and enjoy yourself. You like her, she (possibly) likes you and at the very very least, you'll now have a little more experience under your belt and learn a thing or two for next time.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah, I guess. I don't really know how to go about expressing interest in her tho. I am very reserved/ shy and like I said in the Op I was unable to bring myself to even initiate as something simple like a hug because of my social anxiety.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    if a woman really likes you then she will tell you sooner or later
    never make the first move if you are a male, you will just embarrass yourself

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    At the moment you are a man without a woman. If you try to connect with her and fail, you will be a man without a woman. If you try to connect and it works. . . . . .

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is she a virgin? If not don't try to date her.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I don't know but I doubt she is, given that she's around my age.
      While I would probably prefer a gf that had as little experience as I do so that we'd be on more or less equal footing in that department at my age the chances of finding a gf like that seem rather low, unless I go for chicks who are significantly younger than I and honestly, I don't fucking know how to really chat up girls even my age, let alone ones who are from a different generation than I.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Don't settle for a whore bro. Don't do it

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          She seems way too introverted to be a whorish type of girl. I simply suspect that due to her being well my age, she probably has had previous relationships that just didn't last.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Ok. Your call I guess. But it's also kinda a red flag that she rejected you before.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Maybe. I was kinda clumsy about it though well because I was back then 28 year old kissless virgin.

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Get the phone number.
    Invite to a date.
    Look her in the eyes when you talk to her, make note of the eye color. Tie the color of the eyes to something specific: a girl you really liked in high school, a toy you were obsessed when you were little. Comment on that.
    If the eyes are any colour other than black, tell her you can't tell if they are green or blue, if they are hazel or gold-like yellow. If they are black tell her that you can't tell where the pupil starts and the iris begins, tell her that her eyes look like shiny ink and they make her look mysterious and unreadable.
    Tell her you usually don't notice people eyes because you haven't cracked that code: people talk about how the eyes are a window into the soul of a person but you never felt that way.
    Tell her you only trust touch and pepper in an experience you have about the touch of somebody making you feel good: an hug from your brother, a firm handshake from a trusted friend, any type of touching from a girl you liked but you weren't sure liked you back.
    If she doesn't touch once you tell her this, notice her hands and tell her "I'm sorry I have to tell you this: your hands are so small I can't stop looking at them, they are freaking me out".
    Compare your hands to hers side-by-side. Transition to palm against palm.
    If you blush or start to sweat doing this, don't panic: that's not fear, that's nature.
    By now you should have enough intimacy to make a pause and stop talking. Think that you want to kiss, imagine the kiss. If you find the courage to kiss her, good job, if you don't keep talking about yourself: any sort of impactful experiences you have had recently. Describe them vividly, like you would in the safety of your room while greentexting on LULZ.
    End the date after about half-hour. If you have kissed her set another date at her or your house. If you haven't, set another date in public but in a place quite like a library or any sort of museum.
    Hold fast.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That sounds kinda cringe m8. I wouldn't talk like that normally. And I already have her phone number.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      OP do not do what this bonehead anon is saying. this is pua level bullshit, avoid at all costs. just be normal and talk to her normally like you did at the graduation thing

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Well that's what I was planning on doing. I've never really even been capable of putting up an act in front of girls. I generally just am what I am when I am with other people regardless of their sex because my social anxiety is in itself hassle enough to keep in check.

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