>be me. >21 year old transgirl dating a 23 year old guy. >love him very much

>be me
>21 year old transgirl dating a 23 year old guy
>love him very much
>he tells me that, from ages 13-15, he was a transphobe because his family was transphobic, and he just blindly went along with whatever they said
>at 15 he realized that transphobia was wrong and turned over a new leaf
>tfw not sure if I can be with him anymore
>I will always wonder if there's any remnants of his former transphobic self
>I will always wonder if he secretly hates me
>I can never trust him again

  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm trans and a phobe so idk troon

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Reality check: anyone can become transphobic at any time, even trans people.

    Another reality check: people who change their minds about politics/social issues rarely change their minds back.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    if he's not lying and he really turned over a new leaf at 15 on his own I think you should give him a chance. normies have a really hard time wrapping their minds around trans stuff, unless it's urgent and immediately relevant to them they won't even think twice they'll just repeat whatever blood libel the right wing press fed them.

    the real questions are, would he marry you and do his parents know.

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Long term this could be a problem if he's close to the family and you don't pass. But I think it makes a lot of sense for a literal child to be transphobic if their family tells them it's like s pervert groomer pedo cult or whatever. You should be proud your bf has his own pov.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    he was a dumb kid and is better now. do you still define yourself by what you did when you were 13?

    You love him, dont self sabotage that over something that really doesnt matter

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    i was transphobic as a kid too, now i'm trans. so what, should i kill myself? lol. my dad told me as a kid that trans people were sick and mutilated their bodies. i believed it because i was a dumbass kid and didn't know any trans people (or had any source of info to prove my dad wrong at all). once i got a little older, i met trans people and realized my dad was dead wrong about them.

    my point, you're self-sabotaging. your bf is being incredibly open and real with you about his life. understand that's rare and you're lucky. and search yourself hard to figure out why you are trying to blow up the relationship over something that "might" happen.

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    he's *dating* you. come on op, he wouldn't do that if he felt that way about you, and he especially wouldn't have told you that

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Literally 95% of people were transphobic at age 15 lmao. I’m transphobic today and I’m trans. He was honest and told you about his past, why not trust him?

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    im a tranny and even i was transphobic for a time while repping
    anyway hes being honest with you and thats something to admire and if he was still transphobic why would he be dating a tranny?

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    stop being a retard, retard

  11. 2 months ago
    Legend of the 10/10 hon

    You're being silly. Someone that specifically rejected an ideology they once held has reasons for why they did that. Which means they'll continue to have reasons to support you. A person in his position is way safer than someone that is going along with the woke crowd, but doesn't know why.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    why did his family even have an opinion? why do normalfags think a tranny is ever going to affect them?

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    how the fuck are you getting caught up over 8 year old bullshit, I literally have immense bpd and not even I go through shit like this. Look at yourself, how much have you changed in 8 years? I can tell you that 8 years ago I was transphobic and racist as hell, and now I'm trans and my best friends are black. Stop throwing a pity party for yourself

  14. 2 months ago
    chaysurr

    I was the same way 5-6 months before I met my tranner gf, by then alot of my old transphobic views faded away. Instead of my parents it was just me hanging around assholes.

    If anything it had the opposite affect, I wanna support her with being trans in anyway I can.

    People can change OP, plus the fact he changed at 15 of all ages is pretty good. Its been 8 years and he clearly loves you if he's willing to admit that to you.

    Just chill out OP, go cuddle.

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    The tranner that was worried that her bisexual bf was attracted to her as a man had a more genuine issue than this.
    Tbh though the "transphobia is wrong" thing is suspect bigotry in general being stupid sure, that you should judge everyone by their own merits sure but specifically transphobia for a 15 year old is questionable.

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Tbh interacting with trannies as a community made me transphobic, just like interracting with the french made me hate them.

  17. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Don't you guys just love it when OP makes a vent post, receives plenty of reassuring replies, and doesn't even bother to reply back saying 'thank you'

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Thank you, everyone... I'm probably being unreasonable... >~<

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      It's not even a vent post it's just obviously bait.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        This. OP was fishing and he's gonna feed his family for a month with this haul.

  18. 2 months ago
    Boi-period

    Bitch if you're on /tttt/ you're more transphobic than he'll ever be.

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    so, this dude who as a literal kid managed to break free from their parents influence and think for themselves in a very mature way that a lot of adults simply fail to is somehow a bad person because he was once a transphobe and so he should be dumped?
    if anything he's better than most people
    but you know what, he should become one again since trannies like you exist

  20. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >define yourself with the fact you used to be one thing and turned into another
    >WHOA WHOA WHOA HOLD ON, MY BOYFRIEND USED TO BE ONE WAY AND CONSCIOUSLY DECIDED TO CHANGE? I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN DEAL WITH THIS

    I hate you people

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