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so now you fuck other dudes without condom?

how old are you now
can you share what u did on this anonymous forum

My reply was facetious.
I have no self esteem despite years of therapy. It will never improve until I die,
your sincerity is noted and appreciated.

>A functional human being should be able to find his better half
I'm gonna get some shit for this but a functional human being should realize that they don't need to rely on someone else to be truly happy.

Too vague. Autism isn’t inherently a flaw, name a problem caused by your autism you want help with
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All probably stem from or are worsened by low self esteem. You wouldn’t feel like your value is determined by someone else’s love for you, and you wouldn’t be so terrified someone will abandon you, if you felt good about yourself and deserving of love and attention
Taking steps to address some of your self esteem issues needs to be your main goal, but done so in a way that isn’t dependent on other people. Figure out what you need to do to feel better about yourself For You, not based on what other people want for you
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Like the other anon said, not a flaw. What do you think is the biggest thing keeping you from getting a girlfriend? That would be the flaw

what the fuck is this gaslighting? You actually believe that someone who is isolated and lonely is happier than someone who has access to pussy? How fucking delusional do you have to be? Of course, if the anon is on LULZ he isn't content by himself and would be better off with a gf.

>if the anon is on LULZ he isn't content by himself and would be better off with a gf.
Which would explain all the anons with bfs/gfs that post here...

Oh that sucks
Is the food good at least?

>They have these little spinach and feta mini quiche
Ooooh yes I know what you mean! I love those too!
>Other than that I haven’t been eating much
Prepare for the feast of the century, after I had Covid I was so hungry I inhaled the fridge and it was great because I finally tasted something lol

When did I ever say that? Save your spergout Anon, it doesn’t apply here
I tried to give that Anon some advice here could actually use. You going “uhhh just get a girlfriend bro” helps no one. Stop being retarded

Fair enough. I'm only autistic though

My dad died when I was a teenager and I have a reserved relationship with my mom. I think she never knew how to handle my autism so our conversations are like "How are you doing?" "Everything is fine at work?" and that's it, but we don't have any problem and stay in touch

>It's also my dick
This is like the easiest thing in the world to insult a man on and know it will get to him somewhat. Every woman knows that regardless of what a man’s penis is like, insulting it has like a 99% chance of making him feel bad. This is why women do it, it’s just low hanging fruit (no pun intended)
So you really shouldn’t take those comments to heart, every man has heard dick related insults at some point in his life I would almost guarantee
As for the cheating thing, this honestly just takes time. Which I know is a shitty answer but it’s true. What helped me was really filtering out anyone that I thought would engage in behaviors that led to me trusting him less. I don’t want coomer men, so the easiest thing was to filter out men who watched porn. I don’t want men who stalk insta thots, filtered out men who have social media. I kept setting different standards and filtering out men who didn’t meet them, and that’s what led me to a partner I could trust. You just have to do the same, figure out what behaviors in a partner would lead to a lack of trust and make sure you rule out anyone who is like that

it’s obvious bait

Yea but the rapist had a choice not to commit rape. That choice bears consequences. The raped victim did not have a choice. Don't reply to me, I'm not wasting time on a rape apologist.

>>inb4 "it's too expensive to kill people"
NTA but I don't see how it's expensive. Doing it humanely is the hard part, but if you dehumanize rapists sufficiently, then you can just burn them alive and then scatter the remains wherever.

Men is your moms opinion of who you date important to you?

No. She was abusive and I no longer speak to her.

>Are you American?
Yeah, just focused too hard on the "kill them" part financially rather than the legal side and all of that, my bad

You won't and can't truly understand values you don't share. There is zero point in explaining it to you, even if you weren't a hostile audience.

Values are foundational to morals.
Waiting until marriage is a moral standard, and I already explained that to you. It stems from any of the values of commitment, exclusivity, or happiness (applied to long-term relationships).
Then you asked me "why" you should value what I do, which is beside the point. You don't, and I'm not interested in convincing you even if I could.

>The fact that you're criticizing me for sexualizing my girlfriend because she isn't my wife is fucking pathetic and retarded because you can't be assed to explain what's wrong with it.
I already did explain it. You just don't agree with the premise.
The only context I left out is that I don't think a morally permissive free-for-all is the optimal way to structure a society. It gives outsize influence to the most selfish and destructive people while chastising anyone who actually cares for "overstepping" boundaries that sociopaths actively disregard. And since nobody exists in a vacuum, since people's thoughts and actions are influenced by their environment, such a permissive society--with its practical favoring of the worst and least scrupulous people--will influence them towards behavior that brings more suffering and instability.

A large part of social issues are essentially a sorting problem, and morality itself is largely about the governing of relationships in society. But absent a utopian way to ensure that every person is put into a society that genuinely values what their 'essential self' would have valued without any external pressure, in a situation where we are all mixed together and forced to find our own path through uncertain and varied influences and pressures, the next-best thing for any moral actor (and this goes for any set of values, not just mine) is to work towards building and enforcing a single moral structure.

Arguing that the only moral thing to do is to refuse to enforce morals on anyone else (what you implicitly are saying) is itself a moral structure, and like any other, it functions effectively only if it's applied across all of society. I'm just doing that for my own values, because I obviously think they're worth it.
tl;dr To paraphrase Chomsky: if it's wrong for me, it's wrong for you.

sex in an exclusive relationship is a morally permissive free-for-all
No, it's insisting that the only cardinal wrong when it comes to discussing morals is any kind of moral judgement. If the only moral thing to do is to not care about morals in anyone else, that is equivalent to saying society should be morally permissive.

It's also not an exclusive relationship you have--not in the same sense. You're having sex in a noncommittal relationship, one which is temporary and replaceable by design.
Waiting until marriage is exclusivity in time, not just space.

>You can't do it because you don't actually know.
I can't do it because you have repeatedly rejected the premise of what "bad" even is. If you don't fundamentally value stability or happiness, then you will be utterly unconvinced by the fact that lifelong monogamy is the best way to realize those values in relationships, and that waiting until marriage is the most consistent way to achieve that monogamy.

It's not possible to describe an entire self-consistent moral worldview in terms you specifically allow in a 2000-character post on fucking LULZ, you spastic.

The other anon is right, rape undermines societal trust and cohesion and people who would commit such a heinous act deserve to be sequestered from society until such a time as they are reformed and no longer a threat.

>Sex is important
>Sex is the only thing that's important
These sentences are not the same anon.

You know literally nothing about me. I'm trying to give you perspective and you attack me. Have a nice day anon.

Yeah, what's that. That I value sex in a sexual relationship? Why am I dating you instead of being your friend? What's the point of having sex with you if you're not interested in my sexual pleasure? I'm willing to indulge in almost anything you want sexually. If we're not compatible, we're not compatible. I'll date someone else. We can still be friends.

Found the feminist

>Or maybe she just has a sense of dignity.
Found the simp

Spin it however you want, but we all know that sex is the only thing you care about.

All comes back to sex, all that worthless fluff men spin to convince themselves that they aren't heartless horny animals is honestly sad.
Don't bother replying.

Tell me you are a bitter unfucked ugly women without telling me lol

Don't listen to the angry feminist pls

Liar

I want you to be better though..

That face has me doubting..

That's not what I meant; I would leave the second he wanted me to do something I didn't want to

I take it you'd be down to suck your girlfriends strapon?

If she was super into it I’d try it. I’d honestly rather suck a dildo for 3 minutes then spend 15 minutes licking her slimy hole and getting lock jaw.

There are certain things I won’t do, absolutely. But basic vanilla sex acts? Lmao.

Yes and we do. Maybe you’ve never been in a healthy relationship where a man buys you flowers and slaps your ass. It’s possible he respects you and objectifies you at the same time. That’s the nuance of a sexual relationship.

Let me ask you a question. If I was your boyfriend, would you want me to
A. Jerk off to pictures of you
B. Jerk off to porn
C. Not jerk off at all

If the answer is A, you have to be willing to be his slut. If your answer is B, your relationship is going to fail hard. If your answer is C, you don't want a sexual relationship with your boyfriend at all.

Maybe our definitions differ on what it means to objectify. I mean look at my girlfriend in a purely sexual context. Look at her fucking ass and think about bending her over and fucking her brains out. Look at her lips and think about sliding my cock in there. Look at the weird face she makes when I cum in her mouth.

That doesn't mean I don't respect when she says she's not interested. That doesn't mean I don't hold the door open for her and buy her gifts. That doesn't mean I won't spend 4 hours on the phone with her listening to her problems. That doesn't mean I don't try to make sure she is having a good time in the relationship as well.

But there is a major difference between "I refuse to be your slut" and "I'm not feeling it now baby", and if you're in the former, we're just not compatible and you should find a man that's less interested in sex.

Like what? I could use a different word. Harlot, mistress, boner material. At the end of the day it's 2023, and you're competing for my sexual attention with the millions of hours of extremely personalized porn that exists nowadays. If you're not willing to try to turn me on then I'm going to get it from somewhere else.

Fair enough.

This is nasty. Why are men like this?

Not all men are disgusting degenerates

You forgot the option of jerking off without porn or treating his gf like his personal whore. If he wants to be in a relationship with her without 'needing' sex, then he's probably in it because he genuinely likes her as a person.

You'd have a better argument if you said "husband" rather than bf, since a husband has presumably shown he wants to be with a woman for more than sex. And for that, the best answer is C.

This is nasty. Why are men like this?

People who want sex before and above commitment are like that. It's fairly easy to filter the vast majority of them out.

I'm not religious. If you think religion is necessary to care about commitment or have a problem with porn, and actually think that's a reason to automatically dismiss those things, that says more about you than it does about religion.

nta but because the israelites (evil people) want you to be promiscuous, and you should always do the opposite of what evil people want you to do

Not all men. She could have waited until marriage and avoided the men who think sex is foundational to a relationship, rather than the other way around.

>We both chose to date to marry
Doesn't really matter if you're doing whatever you would have done in marriage beforehand.
Sure, it's technically 'better' than a hookup or sleeping together right away, but it's substantially the same thing. You're still prioritizing sex over commitment, and you still encountered one of the common pitfalls of doing so.

>Excuse me for wanting to have sex with the guy I intend to be with indefinitely
People intend lots of things, but feelings are subjective and unknowable to anyone else. It's actions that count, and you did something which is inherently more risky. If you were so certain of staying with him, then waiting a few months to commit first is insignificant compared to a lifetime together.

I hope you do stay together and things work out, but the fact is that you gambled on that for no good reason, and the very fact that he wanted to gamble is proving to be a hurdle. If you do break up, you can't ever be monogamous--whatever you'd have with your husband would no longer be unique. That's a feature of sex without commitment. If you're not committed, it's not designed to last, and if it's not designed to last, it's temporary and replaceable.

>Getting married only to fuck is more risky imo
Yes, it is. That defeats the purpose of *waiting* until marriage, which is to focus exclusively on personal compatibility as the basis for your decision to marry. Marrying just to have sex is an even dumber way of prioritizing sex over commitment.

>We want to date for around 5 years before we marry
That's generally unnecessary unless you met when you were teenagers. Statistically, there is virtually no additional benefit for waiting more than 3 years, and the majority of timing-related risk is eliminated by waiting 2. And the downsides increase with length--the longer you intend to be together before marrying, especially if you're already doing everything you would have done within marriage, the easier it is for you to be taken for granted, and the greater the portion of your youth will be squandered on a dead end.

>Have you actually been in relationships or been married before?
No, but statistics are literally the aggregated experiences of people who have, and it doesn't take a genius to figure out that what you do first is what you're prioritizing.

I'm not talking out of my ass. Feel free to look up the information yourself; you don't have to take my word for it.
Some of what I posted is just logical observations: the more you invest in a relationship (time, effort, or intimacy), the more you have to lose, and if you invest it without being committed (read: married), the easier it is to lose it.

Idk I guess there are two girls in wheelchairs ITT

Some girl who mentioned she liked tmnt once and then everyone spilled their spaghetti. What about you, read any tmnt comics?

What's your favorite Batman character and are you cute?

iirc Wheels has big booba

Goat Girl is here still?

Thank you. It's only been like three dates but things seem to be going pretty good.

Spina bifida, birth defect. My mom probably didn't have enough folic acid.

I demand that you stop posting ugly images.

Daniel Larson???

You just have to believe me, bro.

Only if I thought its a drug needle/didnt know what it was. A mere hook would propably just make me mad

Yeah they would

YEAH UH

How do you retrieve your wallet to make a purchase?

Back right pocket
I live in a high-trust area and rarely even leave the house anyway

You poor

You can cry on my chest while I hold you.

</3 <3

Yes please

;_; I haven't been called baby in so long

Thank you, anon
I wish so too

Nta but I think it depends on the bf and the family.

me

Holy... you could craft something like that? I'd buy that.

>we found my other uncle just friday night
fuck i'm sorry. had no idea it was that recent.
>not being able to talk about it only makes it feel worse, but people arent trained therapists, might react in a wide manner of ways.
yeah people like us that bottle shit up have to be careful that we aren't trauma dumping. from one extreme to the other. there was a period of time where i would do that and was convinced that i was being "vulnerable", "mature", and "working on my social anxiety", when in reality i was just being a retard. learned that normal people react weirdly to you telling them that you watch recordings of suicide livestreams (rip shuaiby and ronnie mcnutt), and that girls do not find early morning drunken all caps rants about how much of a garbage human you are attractive
>ive been wanting to find someone to trust, myself, but its... hard. and im a coward.
pic/filename related (you're not a coward thoughever)
>walks at 4 am are oddly comforting, would recommend if youre in a safe area.
hell yeah i love nightwalks. having grown up in nyc i am particularly aware of how kino they are. went on them quite frequently during my disastrous one semester stab at full-time/dorm-living college in small town PA. sadly rn i'm living in a small-ish city in NC in an area with not many sidewalks, so that hasn't really been an option, at least not in the way it was in nyc or PA. having only gotten my license and own car last year, once i got over my initial fear i discovered that driving can be quite therapeutic for me as well, particularly at night
i know you'll get to a better place. i appreciate your faith in me. not sure if it isn't misplaced, but at some point the downer/doomer shtick can get tiring itself