Are people with quiet BPD dateable at all ? Posted on May 22, 2023 by Anonymous Does anyone have any success stories or does it always end up terribly ?
no. never date a bpdemon ever
;-; but it feels so nice to be liked by someone... How will I ever find a femboy gf(male) if most of them are either narcissists or bpd...
>feels so nice to be liked by someone..
theres your problem, placing your self worth on approval of others, puts you at huge risk of being victimised by BPDemons, narcissists and other fun chaps,
Also "quiet BPD" someone has been consult ing doctor google too much
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it always ends up terribly
i believe there's some evidence to suggest a lot of bpd demons can eventually age out of their bpd tendencies and become relatively normal if dramatic people, but i don't think i'd take that gamble
im coming at this from the other side, i have (diagnosed) bpd and a happy, stable relationship of 5 years, it took a lot of work on my part and patience on my partners part for me to get to a point where im tolerable and im still insanely jealous and moody, we r happy together though so i think a lot of it comes down to if you can find someone willing to put work into a relationship, and if ur willing to put up w them probably always having issues on your part.
Wow I see thats pretty good gl with the relationship.
>do you like suffering
why would you get yourself in that situation. do you like suffering
asking the same but for covert NPD
Im op and Im gonna have to say hell fucking no to that. I unfortunately have experience with it and those "people" are fucking monsters if ur willing to give up on urself as a person and become an empty husk then go for it. (Assuming ur not being sarcastic)
Thats fine coz Imma loser and have a lot of time but there are other things like devaluation and discard that Im scared of.
I'm psycho clingy so so you're still in for a bad time
If I hypothetically dumped u what would happen to me ?
Only choking with pp allowed.
I'd probably have a mental break down you should probably break up with me over the phone or text
I was talking about myself unironically and its true tbh hope someday I become human
Sry anon but u dont sound like a covert npd to me but if u have it and are acknowledging it that makes it possible to improve but with a lot of effort.
Interesting but what about previous relationships (if u had any) did u ever cheat in them or ?
Ig then then how bad it is depends on the severity of bpd...
>Interesting but what about previous relationships (if u had any) did u ever cheat in them or ?
no, but i had very few previous relationships, i met my gf as soon as i came to college. at the time i could definitely have ended up w people i didnt care about as much as i do her and i might well have cheated on them honestly though, it just didnt end up happening that way
>i might well have cheated on them honestly though
Tnx for being honest tho
Yes, I am dateable and I love my gf and she loves me
yes just remember the longer you don't message or talk to me the more I think you don't actually care about me that kind of thinking will start after 2 days of barely any messages
They're called bpdemons for a reason.
I'll make you want to break up with me in a day I promise
who need a latina boywife to kill them
I'm a boymoder with bpd, are we that bad?
yes we was
I have aspd-p. Bpdemons are only good for sex. they are clingy, moody, jealous, annoying, and flirt with everybody. Their favorite person changes with the wind too which means they will absolutely cheat on you
no one likes me at all so don't have much change in who I like but I am everything else I'd also sadly I'd say I'm easy because I'm so lonely
>Their favorite person changes with the wind too which means they will absolutely cheat on you
Is this true with quiet bpd ppl too ?
Well at least u wouldnt kill me so thats nice...
while it would be hard if it was over the phone anon
>Is this true with quiet bpd ppl too ?
, ive been obsessed w the same person to the point of having little to no other social relationships at all for 5 years, so not necessarily!! would genuinely kill myself immediately if she ever left me though
i know the feeling psycho sister
>Is this true with quiet bpd ppl too ?
yes. the only thing that sets quiet bpd apart from regular bpd is the symptoms are internalized instead of externalized
All of those things are true but the cheating thing isn't true. I'm honestly incredibly loyal to the point where you literally can't get rid of me like an annoying retarded dog because I'm just that clingy. Like yeah I split and get mad and say I hate you but I always come back.
I've been cheated on by BPDs. They def can do it. It's a way to try to get a rise out of the partner
Meh, I'm poly, anyone I'm dating knows I date other people and they can date other people too. It makes me jealous when they do it but that's a separate issue that I know is fucked up.
>It makes me jealous when they do it but that's a separate issue that I know is fucked up.
no, feeling jealous when partners sleep around is a normal reaction. Its just you are using polyamory as a way to manage the fact that you never feel settled with one person
>never feel settled with one person
Is that such a bad thing though? I just catch feelings easy and love a lot of people
Love isnt automatically good, particularly within romantic relationships it can be quite destructive, as people put a lot of hope and dreams into romantic love and if these hopes are not recognised (as they often arent) this can lead to destructive emotions arising, such as anger, depression, self-loathing, uncontrolled lust etc
With Polyam you are playing with fire, more relationships means more possibilities for things to go wrong, as its not only more people but its more people interacting with each other, noticing how other relationships impact their relationships. Your feeling of jealousy is normal, as humans typically tend towards pair-bonding.
Polyam could be possible, but it requires a lot of effort and with everyone being absolutely honest with wanting that arrangement. There can be more benefits such as sharing intimacy with new people and more possibility for new experiences, but its hard to build that deepness of love when you hop from person to person. By deep i dont mean "oh we have a strong connection" but more "this person has stood by me in decades and has seen me experience seasons of change"
I get it, it's just so hard to say no and shut someone down when it feels like something could come amazing out of a relationship.
maybe, something amazing could come, but something terrible can come from a breakup too.
in my experience, its best to have an understanding about if the relationship is workable before getting into it
bpd people are good people
I don't think I'm a bad person but it's clear I have no value as a romantic partner.
feel known. all the treatment i’ve done has amounted to me becoming aware of this fact.
As a guy who's dated 3 women with BPD, no it always ends with me throwing a nuclear ragefit and wanting to get them the hell outta my life before they another me to death.
One girl in particular was and still is the best sex I've ever had. She'd let me do ANYTHING - slap her across the face, fish hook her mouth while savagely fucking her ass, skullfuck her til she vomited. Shit was cash. She was pretty too, definitely in the top 3 I've pulled lookswise.
It still wasn't worth it, and given the above, that's SAYING SOMETHING for me. The constant insecurity, getting butthurt at simple things, jealousy...she went through my phone while I was in the shower and that was the last straw.
*Smother not another -_-
>she went through my phone while I was in the shower
Is it bad that this doesnt bother me ?
You're taking it as an isolated incident. When it,s the culmination of a shitload of obsessive / possessive / needy / crazy bitch behaviour that you've tried to address first reasonably, then earnestly, then in frustration verging on resentment, all of which gets ignored and the behaviour gets more paranoid and continues to cross more and more personal boundaries... trust me it hits differently.
When u put it like that... yeah...
It's not fun for the person with BPD either like...I know to keep myself out of relationships cause it just ends bad for everyone involved. It's lonely but remembering all the nights I cried so hard I couldn't breathe is a good deterrent.
i definitely empathize with this, relationships just lead to too many hurt people
you calling me a narcissist? thats a first
i hurt my girlfiendd a lot of times when i was off mddication now i take 2847 pills and we love each other forever, i cant feel any thing ^.^ but i love her forever i love her forever i love her im not insane but im sad i need her love i need her so bad im tired i want to cry every night i want to stop taking them pills i want to start CUTTING Myself again .·´¯`(><)´¯`·. WHY WONNT MY MIND SHUT UP!!!!!!!!