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approaching girl at karate

I've been going to a karate gym for the past 4 months and after a while a girl started to grab my attention, first cause she was pretty then cause she's very talented and moves almost flawlessly
I don't really find comfortable windows to talk to her, she's either with a group of female friends or with some other guys at the gym that she's known for many years.

I walked her home once or twice and we had a couple minutes chatting and I feel like we're acquainted now.

I've found her instagram and followed her but she hasn't followed back. I'm scared to straight up DM her and start chatting her up but I'll also be gone from the city for a few weeks so I'm not gonna get any other chances in a while.

What should I do? It's unbearable yet I don't want to do anything less than optimal because I'm crazy about her.

> tldr: like karate girl, we're acquainted and I found her insta but overthinking too much to do anything

  1. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    also, therapist said just go for it on instagram, as long as i'm original and myself it's gonna be fine

    I genuinely think I'm cool fun and pretty but I trip over myself so much I end up not doing anything or doing stuff wrong

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Catch her after class. "You seem to have got that move down, but I'm having trouble. Could you help me with it?"

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      she's almost always with someone
      walking home with some other dudes from the gym or a girl friend.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >approaching
        good fuckin grief do I hate this term. It's so autistic and/or PUA.

        >I walked her home once or twice and we had a couple minutes chatting and I feel like we're acquainted now.

        okay well congrats mission accomplished you already approached the female my dude she's not a stranger waiting for a train

        how did you manage to walk her home then?
        >once or twice
        actually this sounds like bullshit

        but yeah like your therapist said just DM her and be like "hey it's anon from karate class" and then for fuck's sake play it cool, pretend that you're totally not interested in her at all you're almost doing her a favor by talking to her - take an entire day if not more to reply to a message and keep it short. Nothing's more desperate than that guy who replies to girls' texts the exact same second it's sent and he replies with 700 words each time

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >how did you manage to walk her home then?
          >>once or twice
          >actually this sounds like bullshit
          I saw her coming the same way I was after I crossed the street leaving the gym and I just waited for her and said hi which way are you headed.
          Second time I ran into her a few minutes away from the gym and just said hi how are you.

          almost always with someone doesn't mean always! i got lucky.
          I messaged her on instagram and she hasn't even accepted the DM request or whatever, hopefully i'm not getting ignored, I don't peg her for that kind of response but who knows

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous
  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >Instagram thot
    Give it up, Tyler. She's fucking the karate Chads. No time for you

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      she's shy, single and hasn't had a boyfriend, strongly disapproves of one night stands.
      As for the instagram part I don't know, 24 posts in 4-5 years doesnt seem that much to me

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        How do you know any of that? Tell me you didn't ask this shit on your first two interactions. Anyways, it's simple. You need to find time for casual talk. Don't keep following the bitch home. Convenience is the key to forming any relationship. Mention your little trip, maybe suggest telling her about it. I don't know how you creepo zoomers add each other casually over socials and pretend it isn't weird. You should have fucking talked to her irl about adding on something and then followed her. You supposedly know these specific facts about her. She probably thinks you're a creep. I would.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          I know these specific facts because on her instagram page she has a link to some ask.fm like site, where she answered over a thousand anonymous questions, so I just read a bit through those.

          No DM’s until y’all are mutually following each other. Even when that happens, wait

          Unfortunate, I already dm'd her yesterday with a "hi it's me Anon"
          I was real impatient

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >Unfortunate, I already dm'd her yesterday with a "hi it's me Anon"
            >I was real impatient
            Should add to this that I think it's still probably okay, I haven't said anything weird in the DM and was not pushy, worst case I just continue looking for some opportunity to interact with her at the gym after my trip.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >karate Chads
      the only "chads" in karate are Kyokushin guys called like Zorgat Kilikyeshnokov and they're already married to their muslim east-european wife

      all the other guys are like 90 lbs and have a ponytail.

  5. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

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    I think she respects me coming to every fucking training session I can, I'm not doing this for her though I just like the sport that much.
    I spend like 15-20 hours every week at the dojo

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    No DM’s until y’all are mutually following each other. Even when that happens, wait

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    anon let me just say you don't want to be with this girl. i mean, you think you want to be with her. but you really shouldnt. she will just cause you trouble.

    She has a whole bunch of dudes approaching her at the dojo, and I imagine she's leading on several guys at once. stay away from her unless you want your heart broken. also, dont try asking her to fuck cuz she might say no and youre gonna have to go back to the dojo. dont shit where you eat.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      the absolute state of how to meet women
      >dude just try meeting women through hobbies
      >be at dojo and cant ask her out

      I mean get how you mean it, but... duuh

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        the people who tell you to meet women thru hobbies are women.

        women like when men approach them through their male-centric hobbies. they like all the attention they get when men flock to them. and lots of men approach women through hobbies. the ladies love the validation.

        cold approach females at the grocery, on the street, on the train, etc. less likely to meet sluts that way.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >don't try asking her to fuck
      who would even do that unless you get clear signals like a landing strip to her vagina
      Anyway, I'm fine enough to go to the dojo even if things don't work out between us, as long as they don't get straight up nasty as shit.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        ya then she tells all the men there that you tried to take advantage of her, and then her simps fuck you up

  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Get into a real martial art and actually gain some confidence.

  9. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

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