Anyone here has also never been to a concert because of crippling social anxiety?
Anyone here has also never been to a concert because of crippling social anxiety?
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are you 14/15 or something? when you go to concerts people aren't watching you, they're there to watch music being performed. u retarded or something?
>when you go to concerts people aren't watching you
one of the last shows i went to some annoying people started tapping me on my shoulder and i completely ignored them
Yep. And I'm autistic. Sensory overload. I'd implode.
??? u are not the protagonist retard boo fucking hoo im surrounded by people who share similar tastes to me who are also there for the same reason how anxiety inducing. fuck off retard get a grip
>fuck off retard get a grip
Lol which is what I do, I stay in my room with good headphones. Better that way
Yes, I can only really enjoy music in my room with my good headset and lights off. Sounds retarded because.... well it is.
I need minimal interference. Euphoric is the perfect word, there are albums which are my favorites, and I adore, but once I listen to them anywhere other than on my headphones in my comfort it sounds different.
If I went to a show I'd probably break down, as cringe as it sounds. Loud sounds feel like I'm being attacked, I'm not epileptic but I don't like flashing lights either.
Then on top of all that, you have the people aspect.
I don't really have any friends other than a few online, as socializing is difficult. I'm more comfortable on my own with my self than around others, ESPCIALLY strangers in a moshing crowd.
Anyway sorry for the blog.
I mean being autistic doesnt always mean sensory issues, do you still struggle in social situations though?
ever thought of fixing that instead of completely being submissive to your autism? dont you find it sad? you even said so yourself that it is cringe, that you cant simply enjoy a gig/concert?
idk man you must clearly be extremely autistic, i'm aspy as well but i've been to many concerts, my favourite being Boris, it's one of my favourite memories getting on 2cb with my close friend and having a blast.
are you young or old? you really never want to experience music in person? sounds like a life i wouldnt want to live anyway. try making some changes in your life otherwise you might live to an old age with many regrets
>ever thought of fixing that instead of completely being submissive to your autism?
Yeah you're retarded beyond fixing
You might have been misdiagnosed, it happens a lot. Probably more than it should.
The amount of zoomers who either get diagnosed with ADHD or Autism simply for being a little different is insane.
I read your reply again, maybe you have good intent.
Look, I really don't get how I can fixing my autistic traits, they are literally just part of me and how my brain functions.
Its like asking me to get undiagnosed from autism to make it go away?
>do you still struggle in social situations though?
I did when I was younger, but I grew out of it. So it was immaturity. I don't particularly enjoy socializing, but that doesn't determine whether or not someone is autistic. It's just personal preference. I have never stimmed before or done anything similar to that. When people talk about having autism, I never relate to anything they're saying. Also the thing about autistic people not understanding sarcasm shatters the possibility of me being autistic if it's true. At this point I think I may have been misdiagnosed because my personality is similar to those with autism. The more I hear about it, the clearer it is to me that I don't have it.
Tell me more about this. Does this go both ways? Meaning music in your room under your control is euphoric, but chaos out of your control puts you in hell?
It's weird, I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome when I was seven, which would make me autistic, but none of the side effects apply to me. I've never experienced sensory overload. I enjoy bombarding my senses. I was either misdiagnosed or I just don't experience any of the things that other autistic people do.
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no i'd just rather be alone when listening to music
social retard here, yes
I've been to many concerts never alone though. My anxiety during concerts is just feeling squished in and claustrophobic feeling. I don't think anyone's watching me or anything. It's just the feeling of being boxed in, I hate it. I always look at all the exits before the concert starts in case I need a minute.
I just don't understand this even when I did have bad anxiety. The people at the show aren't there to see you. Literally all you have to do is the same thing they are and stare at the stage. Or do what I do and compare my height to every person kek
tl;Dr you are the last thing on anyone's mind there unless you're causing a ruckus
it's not like you're getting any pussy anyways so you shouldn't worry about embarrassing yourself. just go to the loudest angriest gig and mosh like a monkey, let the music and the crowd do it's thing. i guarantee you'll achieve full ego death and you'll have a great time. trial by fire.
you don't have crippling social anxiety, you just never do something you're uncomfortable with
As somebody with lifelong social anxiety, I'd recommend you force yourself to try it sometime. In the middle of an audience is one of the only places I actually feel comfortable in public. It's because there is always something keeping everybody's focus, there's no pressure to try and 'fit in' or to interact with anyone, like you might feel at a bar or other places. Nobody is looking at you. Everyone is there just for the music, so you can let yourself get totally lost in it, and you'll feel alone even though you're surrounded by hundreds of people. And when it's over you just walk out with your head down and that's it. Of course you CAN try and strike up conversations between sets if you are feeling bold, this is also great practice to try and face some of the fear and anxiety that builds from never putting yourself in these situations. Anyways that's my two cents, I hope you can bring yourself to give it a try someday, OP.
I have crippling social anxiety all the way up until the show starts. Once the music is playing all of that goes away and I'm in my element.
So it's not really crippling, huh?
Some people have anxiety and get zero stage fright because it’s purely performing music, it’s not just one thing
Yeah, so it's not crippling.
Crippling in that context sure. if you go back and read the post he says he has it before a show starts
yes, i stood up a woman because of it and effectively ruined our friendship/any potential for a relationship
i've been to a couple. there is definitely some social anxiety involved with that for me, always has been. but a large part is also due to the fact that i have real anxiety when it comes to travel. i'm always paranoid about my means of transporation being unreliable when going to a place that's out of the way. to say nothing to of the fact that most of the shows worth going to that are closest to me are in Philly, and i don't exactly have interest in being in that city when its dark out.
no but sometimes it's the reason I end up leaving early, sometimes I'm just not feeling it or the vibes are off
I've never been to a concert cause I'm a turbo manlet and wouldn't be able to see the stage
>cures your social anxiety
People over 25 shouldn't be going to concerts lmao. Don't be the weirdo creep. If you didn't go when you were younger then I dunno you missed out.
I'm 29 and I am in poly relationships with multiple girls age 19-24. They say boys their age are too unreliable and childish. And they call me daddy :^)
>le daddy
how do you not cringe out of your skin and into low orbit when they do that yeesh
Yeah, it felt kinda weird at first but I've come to embrace it, the daddy paradigm allows my hairy out of shape ass to be a turn-on for them so why would I want to resist it?
I'm fit, young (I'm actually only one year younger than you but I can pass for late teens or early twenties) and attractive and I can't get girls.
Have you tried actually talking to them?
Yes, they hate it. But when I don't talk to them, they like me and will often flirt with me or compliment me on my appearance. I just can't respond to it, because it causes them to lose interest. It's kind of like being in hell.
It's because modern social media platforms like tiktok and instagram have brainwashed nearly the entire current generation out of believing in genuine human interaction anymore. Everything you do or say is automatically contextualized through the pantomime lives we are now force-fed constantly. Being courteous is rebranded as 'simping,' sex and partying are glorified above all else, appearances become all that matter and people forget what substance in an interaction even feels like. These people have become so hollow that any attempt to really reach out or connect feels like an imposition or a faux-pas because it doesn't conform to the carefree glamorous party world they have been indoctrinated to believe in. Fuck all of that shit, you need to find somebody who truly wants to live life to the fullest together, not just use you as a prop to fulfill some media-fueled fantasy.
What if I started going when I was sixteen and I'm not weird or creepy? Can I still go?
Damn you're limited af if you really believe this. Concerts are designed to give you a live music experience, this is not something only kids are allowed to enjoy. It's not a social club it's a fucking show.
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i used to go to tons of shows with my brother when i was a teenager. that's basically how i got my "you can't say i've never been to shows" badge. tried going to shows alone and it just isn't as fun. i need like a boyfriend to go to shows with or something (this post may or may not be an open invitation).
i go alone
Live shows are too loud.