any other stealth mtfs never gonna have sex again? the idea of breaking stealth at all is way too big a drawback for something as pitiful as sex or a relationship. men are super cruel to stealth women also so i think it’s for the best. anyone have experience with this?
im considering never having sex again, but its more because I am just so bitter and heart broken over many failed relationships and life just seems better when im single
some people are built for it. i’m definitely meant to be in a relationship, but at this point it feels unsafe. and i hate knowing people don’t see me as cis, it’s borderline pathological
just get srs
i feel for the psyop. dont wanna disfigure myself even though my genital dysphoria is on 100
If I avoided that I'd be gay today
Idk im stealth and my last partner definitely saw me as a woman. Tbh I don’t think me being trans really was a factor in his mind most of the time. Ended up dumping him for unrelated reasons but it was nice while it lasted. I’m not saying all men or even most men will treat us like we’re really women after we come out, but there definitely are some out there. I’m too lonely, I need love too much to stop looking for another even if it’s gonna be really hard and hurt along the way.
how did you meet? how did you know? i put myself out there a few times with guys who seemed accepting only to get my heart smashed. luckily not outed, but still.
I met him at school. He started talking to me and I could tell he was interested so I gave him my number. We talked for a while and when I felt like he was safe I told him. He was surprised at first and wasn’t sure how he felt about it, he took a day to think about it but he came to the conclusion that I was undeniably a woman in his eyes and he liked me so why should he care? I could tell just by how I was treated how he saw me. I know how people who see me as trans first and woman second treat me, he didn’t seem to see me that way. He treated me like his girlfriend who he was proud to show the world, no shame or hiding me or anything. I felt normal around him, something I dont get with people who know. Idk everything just felt right. But I can understand why you’d be afraid, dating has risks and I was terrified of being outed but when you meet a person who you think you could be happy with sometimes you just gotta take a leap of faith. I can’t live my life being too scared to be happy. Plus if he tried to out me I’d deny it fervently since I pass anyway lol
i had a similar experience, twice. except both times it ended in them just seeing me as trans. hard to go from “the prettiest girl i’ve ever seen” to “homie” twice, back to back. just not worth it anymore. i felt so low after that
That’d hurt yah, but it doesn’t have to go like that. Even now that I’m not dating him my ex still sees me as a girl. I’m sorry the people you met sucked but it’s no reason to give up
it just feels like stories like urs are a total rarity. doesn’t help that i straight up got raped by the last person i tried to date. it just feels awful
I am honestly not sure how rare it is. I have only dated a few people but none of them have been bad really. One of them we stopped dating partly because of me being trans but for the most part If I reached the point with someone that I decide to be kinda serious with them I’ve already determined that they good people to tell. I’m not saying their a majority, but they aren’t so rare they’re impossible to find. But I can see how something like rape could really fuck with you’re ability to date people and really mess with your outlook. I’m sorry that happened to you and it will probably take some time to heal before you’re ready to look for someone again.
sorry yeah, i guess this is just me pissing and crying about my unluckiness. dont really know what to say anymore
It’s alright sometimes you just need to vent a little bit when you’re feeling down.
yeah. hey man it could be worse at least im hot and alt and i can play guitar. even if i am a fucking rape victim i still have nice tattoos
Playing instruments is really cool, I had a friend in highschool who could play a few and I always thought it was so cool
you can always learn. just takes time and effort. music is my one true love. that and poetry
It’s good to have passions, especially creative ones. Maybe I should pick up an instrument
guitar isn’t too hard. get a cheap acoustic for less than 100 bucks and do some youtube vids. highly worthwhile, as long as you remember that perfectionism is not the goal and you can enjoy failure
Honestly might give it a go
fuck it. i quit cigarettes on a fuck it, so why can’t you start guitar?
I had SRS long ago. I had a lot of sex the first couple of years lot of anonymous sex with men I picked up and nightclubs and bars. It didn't do much for me sexually so I sropped haveing sex twenty yrs ago.
The drawback is it's lonely, not sexual hunger. I don't have any more sex drive than a child
I would not want to tell anyone that I was trans had any cost.
was your srs good? bad? is it as bad as people say?
First of all it's very old surgery. Secondly when I had it done I think it was mostly geared to provide men with pleasure. Thirdly, it was probably not the type where they made a clitoris with penal tissue.
I really enjoyed gay sex and had no phobia or dysphoria about using my male genitalia. I just looked more like a girl like a boy and I thought I would be more accepted by mainstream society, by having surgery, living as a genetic woman
Sex just feels painful and meaningless to me. I'm not going to tell anybody that I'm trans. So, relationship doesn't work in the long run
jesus christ. no srs for me then. i really fucking wish it was good
they make clits now and if you're not a gay man it actually works out pretty well
wdym not a gay man?
you were replying to someone who said she "really enjoyed gay sex" and spams the board with her story about how she'd just be a gay man today
oh, i don’t browse here regularly. mb