I had an ex-girlfriend 5 years ago who really did a number on me.
I was inexperienced at the time and she walked all over me.
I did break up with her when she disrespected me, but I'd always take her back after some little meaningless apology.
I told myself since she hadn't cheated, it wasn't a big deal. But it was, and it was cheating just without physically touching other guys.
Ultimately she got a new boyfriend after a year of us having issues caused by her using
other guys to keep me jealous and on my toes, and it really pissed me off,
because she did it so soon after our break up.
She then proceeds to have a 5 year+ relationship with this guy so far, and although I can't be sure,
I have to imagine she's showing him more respect than me, or he's a complete bitch and putting up with her shit.
Because how else would they last 5 years?
Unless she realized she was wrong and changed.
Either way I've never managed to heal from all the disrespectful shit she did to me involving other guys, while we were together.
If I had been the one who dumped her and refused to take her back no matter what, I know I wouldn't be bothered right now.
But that's not how it happened.
After tormenting me for a year, she ultimately was the one who refused to get back with me after I broke up with her, even when I for the first time ever approached her first about getting back together, and got with another guy.
I felt like such a complete loser.
People told me, "Don't be sad bro, you dodged a bullet."
But how can I feel that way when another guy has got to be happy with her for 5 years?
Anyways long story short I couldn't handle the pain anymore.
I told myself it's bullshit something from 6 years ago is bothering me.
So I tried therapy, everything, no luck.
Eventually I took a different route.
I hunted down and fought (mutual fight, not illegal) a street fight against her new bf/fiance and knocked him out and made him bleed and beg me to stop in front of her.
I also made a fake racist social media profile using her pics and got her fired from her dream job at a Defense Firm she worked at as a software Engineer.
Honestly now my pain has faded and I feel happy again, like I did before I met her.
I feel my dignity is restored.
But I feel guilty about beating her fiance up...
He didn't deserve it.
But he also agreed to fight, I didn't attack him like a crazy person.
We arranged a time and place and he actually showed up.
I secured feeling good again which is all that matters to me.
But I do wonder, does this make me evil or corrupted as a person now?
Am I one of the bad people in this world now?
You're a spiteful bastard. Yes, you are evil and corrupted. Holy fuck.
Are you the same anon who posted about attacking your exes new guy? According to that story, you went to where they were drinking and bumped into him on purpose and shoved him and started swinging and wailing then shoved her away and beat on him some more then pissed on him.
Nope,
I've never posted on /adv/ before.
I'm mostly just a /misc/tard
Okay well either way, I’ll say to you what I told that guy. You’re more a fool than evil. You were wicked and your actions were evil, I mean you hunted the guy down. But this doesn’t mean you are evil as a person, we all do evil when we are living in a personal hell.
I say you are, or were a fool, because the person who orchestrated your pain was your ex. Not their new fucktoy. It was she who betrayed you time and time again. Yet all the anger was pointed not at her, but at her other puppet. You were a puppet who was jealous when she picked up a new puppet. The fact you hunted down and beat on her new toy shows she still has her claws buried deep in your mind, your heart, your fucking soul.
I didn't hunt anyone down.
I contacted him and we both seta mutually agreed upon time and place to fight.
It was a mutual fight.
Anon, here were your words exactly as you wrote them:
>Eventually I took a different route.
I hunted down and fought (mutual fight, not illegal) a street fight against her new bf/fiance and knocked him out and made him bleed and beg me to stop
Nope you're superbly based
But now move on
>But he also agreed to fight, I didn't attack him like a crazy person.
You missed the part where I said the above?
Thanks, I do think thats best.
You didn’t have a gentleman’s duel anon. I highly doubt you amicably hunted him down to kindly request a clean fight. Chances are you went in on the attack threateningly and provoked a fight and he obliged. Look man, whatever helps you sleep at night but that’s not even the real issue.
The real issue is this:
>knocked him out and made himvleed and bef me to stop right in front of her
>right in front of her
You can deny it all you want OP, but you took a bit of catharsis and pride that she got to see it. You wanted to prove something to her. Puppet behaviour. You still let the psycho cunt be the measure for your value and self worth by trying to either intimidate or impress her during that shitshow, like you got to reclaim your manhood or something. You were the one who handed her the fucking keys to your manhood and still you fail to recognise you gave her them the moment you thought it wise to act like a nagger in front of her, like a dancing monkey
She broke up with him less than 2 weeks later,
5 yr relationship destroyed in one fight.
Onto the next puppet she goes then. Faithless and unloyal skank continues to be a faithless unloyal skank, who could have guessed? OP accomplished nothing but give her a gold plated victim card for her to use against him. She now gets to feel like she dodged an OP-shaped bullet. Probably will tell anyone who listens to her that her ex is a psycho. She feels justified in treating OP like a dog now more than ever before.
But hey at least the witless hapless dreg she was dating after OP got beaten and bloodied. That sure showed her.
I didn't beat him up to prove anything to her.
I did it simply to fuck her life up, which I did.
I said in my post I would never consider being with her again, and if I didn't I'm saying it now.
Why would I then get her fired from her job if I wanted her back?
Please come back when you have smart advice to give.
“Am I evil?”
Do you want to be ?
We define ourselves by our actions
You still have time to define yourself before death
What is teacher ?
Someone who teaches
What is a liar ?
Someone who lies
But you have the choice in how you act
Don’t pretend you don’t
So do you want to be evil ?
No ?
Then don’t do evil things
Fuck did I make this too long for people?
Man I have a huge problem with being wordy maybe.
I just felt I should include a lot of details.
didn't you make this thread already? what is my problem...
I've never made a thread on /adv/ before this.
Well idk, I've healed now.
I feel no anger or desire to do anything to get back at her anymore.
I just wonder if in the process I was actually the bad guy of the situation.
That's all I'm wondering here.
>Well idk, I've healed now.
You haven't. People who have healed from past relationships aren't on LULZ 5 years later agonizing about how their ex has been happy with somebody else. The sooner you acknowledge your denial the sooner you can actually confront this issue.
>I just wonder if in the process I was actually the bad guy of the situation.
>That's all I'm wondering here.
If you had actually moved on from this situation the answer to these questions wouldn't matter. The unfortunate reality is that, sometimes, there is no lesson. Sometimes two people try their best and it doesn't work out. Sometimes relationships fail. Sometimes we do bad shit and go through bad shit and at the other end we aren't better people for it. Sometimes things happen for no reason and we have to move on with our lives without having some 90's sitcom closure at the end of the episode that wraps all of our pain up with a bow. Your relationship didn't work out. After it didn't work out, you did some heinous shit. Its great that your anger has faded but, ultimately, it has nothing to do with her. You're still the same person willing to and capable of pulling other people into your suffering that you were before you met her. It has nothing to do with being good or bad. It has nothing to do with getting back at her. You lashed out because you can't deal with your own pain and sense of loss - the same way you can't deal with it now, in this thread. This is who you are. Deal with it or don't. You're the one that has to live with it.
I feel like you want me to feel bad more than I actually feel bad.
I guess you don't believe me when I say I do feel better.
My only moral qaundary is whether I was the bad guy here.
The second I found out they broke up,
and also that she lost her job,
my sense of anger and bitterness faded entirely.
The ONLY lingering issue is wondering whether I should feel guilty,
and whether what I did makes me a bad person.
That's entirely different.
I'm not going to be what you're trying to force me to be, and if you keep trying to do that, I'm just not going to respond because it's wasting my time.
You beat the shit out of a dude and made him beg for mercy because you were jealous. You also made someone lose their dream job. All for something that happened 5 years ago. You should seek mental help, not even joking.
>Either way I've never managed to heal from all the disrespectful shit she did to me
No you haven't. You're on LULZ lamenting about a relationship that ended 5 years ago. You really need to examine your fixation with this. Whatever happened, you are clearly not over it and clearly haven't moved on.
Got any naked pics of her? If she is uggo, why care?
Sounds like you just wanted revenge. Not the healthiest, but I'm not going to bullshit you and say revenge isn't sweet. It's like ice cream. Sweet, cold, and unhealthy, but a little is nice.
You can feel guilty if it makes you feel like a better person I guess, but we're all rotten underneath anyway.
Thank you for actually answering my question anon, I think this is the answer I needed.
You don't understand the type of stuff she did to me.
I''ll give you one example.
I go to a football game with her, her female bestfriend, and me.
Behind us they see a guy she used to buy weed from and her bestfriend goes, "Didn't you guys used to fuck?"
And she goes, "Once but it was annoying because he wanted to do every position."
Meanwhile I'm sitting right fucking next to her.
And unfortunately for me back then I was too fucked up by multiple different things to be strong enough to just dump her right then and there like I should have.
If someone did that to you, you'd understand how I feel.
But the thing is she did more than 20 different things as bad as that to me, without ever actually cheating, in order to string me along and keep me on my toes.
shit, sorry u had to go through that. yeah, then ur revenge is justified
lol why do you homosexuals make up these stories? Yesterday you were the friend asking what you should do now you’re “the guy”.
No way this is a different story, everything is exactly the same except yesterday when you were claiming to be the friend you said he got back together with her.
With people like that it’s important to remember that it’s a reflection of that person more than it ever could be about you. As people we aren’t in control of others only ourselves no matter how much people try to escape that. Everyone is out making mistakes it’s the human condition anon, maybe it’s time you forgive yourself and acknowledge that it’s not your fault. You just can’t reign in another person’s demons like that and we find out by being hurt.