Am I being paranoid or will I get in trouble for directly texting this women?

So there was a women at work who I was convinced was Interested in me from interactions at lunch and drinking out in groups. She put her phone in front of me for a my Instagram and I stared at her in confusion and later realised she was asking for my Instagram.
We are all in a group chat on WhatsApp and can see who is who. So I got her number from there and texted her

"Hey, I didn't get the chance to give you my number and I don't use WhatsApp but we can go out for a date.when are you free?"

She texted back after an entire day that yeah, we could meet up for lunch at some point(at work) I am sure

I just texted Great, see you soon and decided not to escalate any further

Is she freaked out right now? Will apologising to her make things better or worse? I don't really want anything to do with all this now because I realise now asking out a women at work is a horrible idea.

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Play it cool.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      How?

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Go on the date homosexual, you made a committment and she's been cool so far. You're just nervous. Go through with it anyway.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What date? She said we could meetup for lunch at 'some point'. Basically she rejected me nicely.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Go to the lunch anyway. She should've figured a less bullshit way to reject you because even for women that's bad if it is a rejection.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Go to the lunch anyway
          they didn't set up a lunch, a "at some point" response is a soft rejection

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Is she freaked out right now?
    no, if she were freaked out she wouldn't have replied at all. She expected you to make a move when she placed her phone in front of you, which means she has interest. Just let things cool down for a while, if she said she's open to having lunch it could just be a matter of time until it happens

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >no, if she were freaked out she wouldn't have replied at all.
      The thing is I don't think she was gonna reply. I was gonna dial my friend's number and somehow ended up starting WhatsApp group call which got her attention I think again and she ended up replying after some time unless it is a coincidence. Also I noticed her name isn't visible in WhatsApp group chat.

      Fuck it, I think I will just apologise for texting her directly and will I just wanted to know her more. It'll just end things between us. I care more about not messing things up at work than having a chance with her.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >I think I will just apologise for texting her directly
        why apologize? you did nothing wrong, and if she was freaked out by it, an apology won't change that. if you're not going to pursue this any further, just cut contact and move on

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >you did nothing wrong
          I know am allowed to text whoever I want but still it makes one appear like stalker especially given the context. An apology will let her know why did what I did and I am not Ignorant. Also I won't bother her again.

          I am just gonna text

          Hey, Sorry about messaging you directly on your number earlier. It was a bit strange to text you out of the blue but we don't usually run into each other so I decided to text you anyway because I wanted to know you better.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            bro don't apologize, nothing good ever comes from that. women WILL use it against you because they perceive it as a concession. I'm sure you'll be better off without texting anything at all

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Is it really like that when it comes to women? To me it logically makes sense to do so

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                trust me anon, even if she was weirded out by it (which I doubt), your apology will close ALL possibilities of that initial interest being reignited in the future. women are constantly pushing men's buttons and testing your character, and you apologizing for something that is completely normal is a sure way to get filtered out

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >even if she was weirded out by it (which I doubt)
                Why did she change her privacy settings to not make her name visible in WhatsApp group chat? I mean her picture is still visible but still.
                >your apology will close ALL possibilities of that initial interest being reignited in the future
                I don't really about her Interest bro. I honestly think I should just avoid anything to do with women at work.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >Why did she change her privacy settings to not make her name visible in WhatsApp group chat?
                you can't be sure, don't let your mind overthink this
                >honestly think I should just avoid anything to do with women at work
                wise call, it doesn't go well most of the time

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I still ended up sending her an apology text. Anyway she seems like a bitch from everything so far. That's the end of it hopefully.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Fuck,she has blocked me bros. I knew she was freaked out. What should I do now? Try calling her outside of whatsapp and apologising to her?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This entire shit sounds like bad bait, but if perchance it is real, then don't try to contact her. If you see her at work you can apologize, or just forget about it.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        It was a bait, I texted her it was just one checkmark so I tried calling her and didn't ring but now it she showed online and messaged showed as delivered. What the fuck do I do now? I am an Idiot

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What's her endgame? I feel like I am being played like a fiddle at this point. I guess I'll just avoid doing anything.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    So, she responded back to my apology with yeah, it would be nice to go out for a drink as a group again sometime. No idea what to make of it.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Fuck, didn’t realise she was mocking me all along. Never should have texted her when I could sense something was off.

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