Afraid to lose first girlfriend


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You may remember me as the insecure pussy who created a thread with the same image.

tl;dr, I was a desolate KHHV 27 yo loner, who through some wonder got approached by a pretty, intelligent girl, who is schizoid and lonely like myself. We bonded immediately and began ""dating"", but I was afraid to make any physical move on her, despite her becoming my life.

The local Gigachad experts gave my various /adv/ice, which boiled down to JUST KISS HER BRO JUST TRY xD.

I did. I kissed her, on the lips, holding her hair, like a big boy.

She? Reacted a bit surprised - she's an obvious kissless virgin as well. Then went for a second kiss. Herself. That sealed the deal, we became more than friends. We both shed lots of virgin awkwardness: I began showering her head with kisses and she to provoke me into caressing her by leaning into me.

I lifted her chin and smooched her tender neck: in a drawn out, clearly erotic fashion. She lit up with joy, more than during any kiss. My life so far peaked that moment.

Well, where's my problem now, you may ask?

I am still a needy, insecure pussy with zero relationship experience and feel I could lose her any minute.

I have no idea how to stay in touch inbetween dates? She only has time once a week due to studying STEM AND learning a foreign language. Texting her every day? Screams needy and intrusive. Waiting for her to text (she does quite sometimes) signals disinterest.

How do I into sex? She sort of agreed to visit my apartment already, under the pretense of playing Dark Souls or watching movies with me. Can I really greet her with my dick out, expecting she agreed to that, or do I have to further clarify I want sex?

How do I combat the jealousy whenever she is not with me and I have no idea what she does? How do I prevent her noticing Gigachad at uni?

Basically, give me all the advice you wish you knew when you got your very first girlfriend.

  1. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    Reddit spacing

  2. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    brother just message her when you feel like it, a kissless virgin girl will probably not be as judgemental as you think she will be. You both lack experience and I think she's open to what you do, just go slowly. and stop typing like a retard. Have some balls.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      She is no longer a kissless virgin, she is now just a virgin, courtesy of myself.

      >not be as judgemental as you think she will be
      Good point. She doesnt know what a confident man is like yet and has no point of reference to judge me.

  3. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    >Can I really greet her with my dick out?

    Absolutely
    Just fucking do it anon.

  4. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    Here’s an idea. Don’t have sex unless you’re married, degenerate scum.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous
  5. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    I'm

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    Very proud / jealous of you. I think you should escalate with her pretty quickly. Doesn't have to be full PIV, but get handsy, and see if you can both climax.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Very proud / jealous of you.
      Thanks, but before being jealous of me of all people, remember I only now, with 27, experienced what high schoolers already experienced with 17 and may still lose her before losing my virginity. I am no role model, for no one, ever.

      >Doesn't have to be full PIV,
      ... but then its not sex?

      • 3 days ago
        Anonymous

        I guess I felt like it's sex enough if a girl where to jack me off, or if I were to play with her pussy. Re age: I'm 29, still khv, so jealousy is still in order here. Good luck fren

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          I realize you may feel jealousy because I was in a very similar situation as you, but remember, there are men who were never in a similar situation to begin with. Actually, most men were not, like 90% lost their virginity by 25.

          They deserve jealousy.

          >Good luck fren
          Thanks.

  6. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    Impressive, very nice. You followed my advice (and that of many others). Continue escalating at this point, be more bold and straightforward with what you want with her, because she clearly likes you back. Congrats anon, don't fuck it up now.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Continue escalating at this point, be more bold and straightforward with what you want with her, because she clearly likes you back
      Probably yes, but isnt there a huge power gap between "okay with kissing him" and "okay with him deflowering me"?

      I guess it's a thing I ought to ask a woman.

  7. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    You’re not afraid to suck on her neck, but afraid to text her?

    You’re a special retard.

  8. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    >How do I into sex?
    Think real hard on what is more important to you - having sex with her as soon as possible or developing this into an actual long-term relationship. If it's the latter, you should stop thinking about sex so much. Just continue doing what it is you're doing and it will happen eventually...or not, if it turns out you're incompatible in some crucial aspect.
    Keep in mind that there's a VERY large difference between "I want to have sex with someone, so I'm not a virgin anymore" and "I want to share ultimate intimacy with this specific human bean".
    >how to stay in touch inbetween dates?
    don't overthink this. if she wants to talk to you, she'll find the time.
    Keep a conversation going, but don't pester her with 20 messages in a row while she's away. Find something else to occupy yourself with, she must not be the only thing in your life or she'll feel suffocated.
    >Can I really greet her with my dick out
    ffs stop thinking with your genitals
    just make out and go with the flow. be prepared (i.e. condoms somewhere close), but don't expect it and don't force it.
    >How do I prevent her noticing Gigachad at uni?
    For one thing, stop thinking of her as an animal in heat who will fuck anyone around. Presumably she has her preferences and standards and presumably you meet them, since she actively chose you.
    Also, really fucking drop this incel vocabulary, it's degrading and dehumanizing and poisons your brain. There is no Chad.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      > There is no Chad.

      Why gaslight people, anon. Why?

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Think real hard on what is more important to you - having sex with her as soon as possible or developing this into an actual long-term relationship. If it's the latter, you should stop thinking about sex so much.
      You are right, many thoughts about it stem from the obsession to lose my virginity before I turn 30, and its obviously not a good mentality.

      But I should also note, if we are already making out and she already agreed to visit my apartment, its not extremely farfetched to have thoughts about it, either.

      >Keep in mind that there's a VERY large difference between "I want to have sex with someone, so I'm not a virgin anymore" and "I want to share ultimate intimacy with this specific human bean".
      I actually feel both, the compulsive desire to feel less pathetic about myself and special desire towards her.

      • 3 days ago
        Anonymous

        >its not extremely farfetched to have thoughts about it, either
        It's ok to have some sexual thoughts about a girl you find attractive, sure. It's not ok to let these thoughts be in charge of important decisions. They come from the parts of your brain you share with lizards and are not particularly smart.
        I know it's hard to accept this as someone with no experience, but sex really is not that big of a deal. On its own it can be less pleasant and less meaningful than masturbation. The magic in sex is in the context - who you do it with and why. Your first time will probably not be especially good and won't trigger any huge revolution in your life.
        >the compulsive desire to feel less pathetic about myself
        This is a dangerous way of thinking, basing your self-esteem on external validation doesn't work and will ruin your life. True self-esteem comes from inside. Unironically consider therapy.
        Also, one girl already actively chose you.That's a lot more than many other people on this board get.

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          >I know it's hard to accept this as someone with no experience, but sex really is not that big of a deal.
          A month ago, I would have considered you a spoiled normalfag who has no idea how dreadful adult virginity is, but now ... I am more inclined to believe you. Because I used to believe that kissing a girl once would already solve most of my mental issues. As you can imagine, it didn't. So I am inclined to believe sex will not, either.

          >The magic in sex is in the context - who you do it with and why.
          Oh, I have more context than 99% of teenagers losing their virginity more or less randomly. I found someone I can talk to for hours, for the first time in my life, someone I am mentally at peace with. I don't just value her as a pretty face or "opportunity to get laid", it's infinitely more.

          So the way you put it, it probably *will* feel magical and meaningful to me, if we ever do it.

          • 3 days ago
            Anonymous

            >who has no idea how dreadful adult virginity is
            Dude, I'm a former wizard, currently in a 4-year relationship. I have more experience with this than you do.
            >it probably *will* feel magical and meaningful to me, if we ever do it.
            It might. Or it might not. It depends on so many factors that it's hard to predict with any amount of certainty.
            Just don't put too much weight in your expectations, it will help you relax and enjoy yourself.

            • 3 days ago
              Anonymous

              >Dude, I'm a former wizard, currently in a 4-year relationship
              Wow, congratulations, you're a veteran in the feels department. Willing to tell how you met, what made her different from the women you've encountered until 30 and how everything worked out, despite your inexperience?

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                >how you met
                There wasn't much special about our meeting, I messaged her on a dating site. The important thing was me finally developing a mindset where I was ready for a relationship. That alone got me from zero female attention to getting dates consistently. And it keeps getting better - I'm noticing more and more women checking me out or smiling at me when I walk outside, even though my height is average, I'm a skelly, and put barely any effort into clothes/appearance. Romantic/sexual success is purely in your head to a staggering degree. Which btw goes directly against what you say in

                >And how are they even compatible with your gushing about how wonderful she is?
                There's a misunderstanding here. I never blamed or hated women. Not even at my lowest, never. Having good relations with my mother, extremely smart and competent female colleagues, having rejected women myself for egoistic reasons previously, completely immunized me against seeing women as anything other than exactly as human as myself.

                When I say "I still believe in large parts of incel mindset", I mean the part about pre-determined physical features being the decisive factor in sexual attraction, with personality being secondary at best. I still despair over the fact of not looking like the models women fawn about.

                >what made her different from the women you've encountered until 30
                Most importantly, she's a person of principles and integrity, which is (sadly) very rare. That allows me to trust and respect her, which as I said above is critically important. If you don't have this, you don't have a relationship.
                We also have compatible values and lifestyles (very important) and share some intellectual interests and hobbies (less important than you might think).
                >how everything worked out, despite your inexperience?
                It's definitely been a bumpy ride, mainly because of my issues, but so far we're still together and things are looking good.
                One important lesson is that keeping a relationship is a lot harder than getting one. Many foreveralones (including me, back then) think along the lines of "if only I met the right girl and made her see how great I am inside, things would just magically work". That's bullshit. Meeting the girl is the easy part.

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                >The important thing was me finally developing a mindset where I was ready for a relationship.
                Sounds amazing, but how did you actually do it? Therapy, meds, self-help? Regardless of how my relationship goes, I definitely need to go through the same process, for my own sake.

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                No meds or therapy, nobody ever diagnosed me with anything. I'd say I have most of the symptoms of avoidant personality disorder, but they are not strong enough to warrant clinical intervention.
                It was mostly reading, introspection, and gradually leveling up my social skills by deliberately putting myself in new social situations.
                I keep shilling Mark Manson here - his blog and his first book Models were very eye-opening on many aspects of romantic relationships. He starts sniffing his own farts in later books, so don't bother with those.
                Jordan Peterson's lectures (psychology, maps of meaning, biblical stories) also helped me a lot, though again fame went to his head and everything he says and does after ~2017 should be ignored.

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                so you are the clown shilling the book everywhere, huh

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                nah that's someone else
                I barely post on /adv/, just got a bit invested in OP's autism romance
                it's a useful book though

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                >And it keeps getting better - I'm noticing more and more women checking me out or smiling at me when I walk outside
                Again, I am more inclined to believe you than I was a month ago.

                Because I noticed something changed about my behavior around the women in my office since I had my first intimate experiences with a girl. I ... stopped fearing their bodies? If that makes sense? I finally stood my ground standing next to them, greeting them, etc

                And these are changes in myself I noticed just after touching and kissing a girl for some hours, mind you. After four years with one, you probably act like a completely different person around women.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >I messaged her on a dating site

                Uhhh OP you're sure she was a KHHV? In your post you said she approached you which sounded like you met her in public but if it was thru online dating she's prob isn't who you think she is. You have to realize she was talking to other guys and prob went on other dates before you and who knows what she did. Not to say that's bad but it seems like you love the fact she was a KHHV and if you found out she wasn't I think you'd be crushed.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >Uhhh OP
                I am OP. That guy is not me, I asked him how he got into a four year long relationship after being a wizard initially.

                "My" girl almost certainly was a KHHV, I know that because of both her family members telling me she rejected all guys who approached her before (hence making them wonder she's finally going out with someone) and her initial absolute awkwardness at everything we did.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >it seems like you love the fact she was a KHHV
                I admit, I do.

                It has less to do with creepy fetishization of "chaste" women and simply boils down to the fact *I* never touched women before and she may have noticed if she had points of comparison. She had no way of knowing I am an a godawful kisser, because she lacked points of reference.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                I think its more than that. it makes waiting worth it. It validates your choices or lack of choices. You are now sharing this most intimate and vulnerable part of your life with someone who is doing the same. Making the moments more special and enjoyable.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >I think its more than that. it makes waiting worth it. It validates your choices or lack of choices
                That's part of it.

                But the "she won't notice how much I suck" part is essential as well. Otherwise, I would feel horrible about the possibility of sleeping with her, for example.

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          >Unironically consider therapy.
          I am currently in therapy. I've been in therapy non-stop since I turned 16, lol. (For the most time, for issues other than feeling lonely: OCD and massive anxiety.)

          My current therapist treats me for self-esteem and loneliness issues specifically and I feel she's competent, but let me tell you this: a single successful date with this girl does more for my self-esteem than 5 to 10 therapy sessions ever could. I can feel my brain healing when I'm with her.

          >Also, one girl already actively chose you.That's a lot more than many other people on this board get.
          I realize and I will be forever grateful for it.

          But consider my issue is special: I've had girl interested in me for most of my life. I've been hit on often. It just never did anything to my self-esteem.

          • 3 days ago
            Anonymous

            >I can feel my brain healing when I'm with her.
            Be careful of hanging too much of your self-worth on this girl. She is not your personal savior sent from God directly to you. She is her own person with her own life, goals, values, etc. Your thing together might work longer-term, and I do wish you the best of luck in that, but it might also not. And it doesn't have to be anyone's fault and there might not be anything you can do about it, just simple incompatibility in one of the myriad factors needed for a successful long-term relationship.
            Which is why I'm saying your self-esteem has to come from yourself and not be dependent on some other person.

            • 3 days ago
              Anonymous

              >Be careful of hanging too much of your self-worth on this girl. She is not your personal savior sent from God directly to you
              I realize. But in my desolate situation and given how very overall attractive she is, it felt just exactly like that, dude.

              >Which is why I'm saying your self-esteem has to come from yourself and not be dependent on some other person.
              I will work on that, I promise. It's just that my chance at a relationship with my dream girl is now. I cannot put her in a freezer and tell her to wait until I've been through years of therapy or something. I have to make it work with/despite my internal neediness.

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                >it felt just exactly like that, dude.
                I get it, and fell a bit envious, but that's exactly why it's dangerous.
                >I cannot put her in a freezer and tell her to wait
                Not telling you to, you should absolutely jump at the opportunities as life throws them at you. Just know that having shitty boundaries WILL cause issues and work on improving them. Read this: https://markmanson.net/boundaries

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >I get it, and fell a bit envious
                Envious? Of me? Dude. Like, dude. I am a 27yo virgin. If you feel envious of ME, you have issues.

                >Read this: https://markmanson.net/boundaries
                No fan of self-improvement stuff, but eh, I will give it a shot.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >Envious? Of me?
                Not of you as a whole, just of the situation you got with your girl. It has this fantastical "anime waifu falls from the sky in your lap" flavor. Though since this is real life you'll most likely run into some issues sooner or later.
                >No fan of self-improvement stuff
                It's literally just an article you can read in 10 minutes, with some guy's view on personal boundaries. It doesn't require you to buy into a cult or anything. Getting exposed to other people's opinions is a good thing in general.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                >Not of you as a whole, just of the situation you got with your girl. It has this fantastical "anime waifu falls from the sky in your lap" flavor.
                Ah, yes. I fully admit that and it's exactly how I felt. I am also still in awe at the low probability of something like that happening, yet it happened.

                Mind you, she is this fantastical waifu *for me*, because we are both fairly autistic and social outcasts. An outgoing, simple-minded man might have perceived her more ... special sides as drawbacks and funstoppers, it's only guys like me for whom her flaws are actually advantages, as we related to each other far better.

                >It's literally just an article you can read in 10 minutes,
                I did. The article itself acknowledges that setting healthy boundaries is but a byproduct of healthy self-esteem and low "neediness". Well, guess what, I have negative self-esteem and extra high neediness.

              • 2 days ago
                Anonymous

                > I have negative self-esteem and extra high neediness.
                all the more reason to be aware how these things affect your relationships
                I also have a tendency to be quite needy and obsessive, which is precisely why I found this guy's writings so useful.
                Anyway, I'm just saying what helped me under similar conditions. YMMV

          • 3 days ago
            Anonymous

            >a single successful date with this girl does more for my self-esteem than 5 to 10 therapy sessions ever could. I can feel my brain healing when I'm with her.

            you're becoming too dependent on her which will only harm you and the relationship.

            • 2 days ago
              Anonymous

              Incels idealize sex and girlfriends to the degree they see nothing else in life.

      • 3 days ago
        Anonymous

        Statistically, not having sex outside of marriage improves your odds of a lasting and happy marriage, even controlling for religion.

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          correlation is not causation senpai

          • 3 days ago
            Anonymous

            Nor does that mean any correlation is purely coincidental unless it directly shows causation.
            There’s plenty of reason to believe that one of the primal drives of existence affects how we relate to others. And it’s not a stretch that how we treat our impulses also matters. If you don’t have sex until you’re committed (read: married), then you are emphasizing commitment over sex. Is it really that surprising that commitments based on this are more success?

            • 3 days ago
              Anonymous

              *more successful
              Please excuse this filthy phoneposter

            • 3 days ago
              Anonymous

              doesn't have to be coincidental, one can come up with any number of explanations for the correlation that do not imply "avoid sex before marriage -> happier marriage"
              for example, "people who are chronically unsatisfied with everything because of their personality, are more likely to keep changing partners"
              not even mentioning how most sociology studies are unreproducible and have major methodology flaws

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >For one thing, stop thinking of her as an animal in heat who will fuck anyone around. Presumably she has her preferences and standards and presumably you meet them, since she actively chose you.
      You are right about that, I've been projecting the mindset of the horny male teen I once was onto her, without her giving me any reason to. She was a KHHV until 20 by choice.

      >Also, really fucking drop this incel vocabulary, it's degrading and dehumanizing and poisons your brain. There is no Chad.
      Eh. I am afraid I was a terminally online KHHV for too long for incel vocabulary and mindset to ever fully leave my brain. I doesn't help I still believe in large parts of it to this day.

      • 3 days ago
        Anonymous

        >I am afraid I was a terminally online KHHV for too long for incel vocabulary and mindset to ever fully leave my brain.
        Seems to me you're making this into a self-fulfilling prophecy, it-can't-be-helped style. You certainly can change yourself if you choose to, and work on it.
        >I doesn't help I still believe in large parts of it to this day.
        This is the thing that's most likely to drive her (and other girls) away from you. All functional relationships are based on trust and respect. Incel logic is fundamentally based on not trusting or respecting any woman ever.

        One thing people with deficient social skills often fail to realize is that your core beliefs and values ALWAYS show up in your words and actions. You might think you can hide your mindset and pretend to be someone else, but nobody except master manipulators can do this for very long. If you spend enough time with her, she will eventually get a feel for how you see the world. Do you really want her to find incel thoughts in there? And how are they even compatible with your gushing about how wonderful she is?

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          >And how are they even compatible with your gushing about how wonderful she is?
          There's a misunderstanding here. I never blamed or hated women. Not even at my lowest, never. Having good relations with my mother, extremely smart and competent female colleagues, having rejected women myself for egoistic reasons previously, completely immunized me against seeing women as anything other than exactly as human as myself.

          When I say "I still believe in large parts of incel mindset", I mean the part about pre-determined physical features being the decisive factor in sexual attraction, with personality being secondary at best. I still despair over the fact of not looking like the models women fawn about.

  9. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    Wish I could get even to that point but I'm fucking unwanted. I haven't got past kissing except with escorts. If you want to initiate sex just keep on making out with her while gradually progressing from her boobs to her pussy area while making out making her more and more turned on before asking if she wants sex

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      Sorry for ignoring your post so far dude, I genuinely did not see your reply.

      I dont think you are unwanted or women standards are as high as you imagine them to be. If I could attract one, most men can, really.

  10. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    just text her. sending her 20 messages because she didn't reply to your first one in 30 minutes might seem needy, but sending a good morning message and checking in during your break or when you're back from work will not.
    and:
    have some calls, too. mate of mine had daily calls with his gf for years until they were finally able to move together. they're much more intimate than texts, although if both of you can find the time to have a proper long-form call you might just want to meet, if possible.
    how closely do you two live together?

  11. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    > Can I really greet her with my dick out, expecting she agreed to that, or do I have to further clarify I want sex?
    You can't be serious, can't you?
    Just go with the flow. Don't overthink it. Let the atmosphere take you both there. Nothing needs to be said. If she is uncomfortable, then stop and apologize, no hard feelings.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >You can't be serious, can't you?
      Oh, I am. Remember how clueless you were before you had your first time. I am the same at the moment.

  12. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    Picrel is a Blacked promo isn't it?

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Picrel is a Blacked promo isn't it?
      N-no? 🙁

      I have no idea who the girl is, but she reminds me of "my" girl, they are genuine lookalikes. OP pic is hotter, but they could very easily be sisters.

      • 3 days ago
        Anonymous

        No. But who is she?

        Fair enough. She looks le typical wallflower who gets blasted by Tyrone.

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          Get help.

          • 3 days ago
            Anonymous

            Because le nerdy girl turns into BBC-loving whore has never been done?

            • 3 days ago
              Anonymous

              Get help if it’s the first thing you think about when seeing a pretty bookish girl.

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                It's not, but the background looks like a Blacked set.

              • 3 days ago
                Anonymous

                Get help, coombrain.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      No. But who is she?

  13. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    Christ you’re autistic.
    gratz on getting this far though bro.
    No don’t greet her with your dick out lmao, put on the movie, initiate a kiss someday half through or at the end, express your desire for sexual intercourse by rubbing her leg and moving closer to her vagina, then if she pulls away a bit, stop. If she allows you to do it, then go nuts. It really is that simple, remember it’s not as big deal as you’re making it out to be. For as long as people have been on this planet, they have been fucking.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Christ you’re autistic.
      Yup.

      >gratz on getting this far though bro.
      Far is relative. For a former KVVH, I am in heaven. In comparison to a normies' experience of multiple month-long (or even year-long) relationships with 27, I am still laughable. But thanks.

      >No don’t greet her with your dick out lmao, put on the movie, initiate a kiss someday half through or at the end
      Will do ... albeit we already low key make out whenever we meet, so will probably start sooner than half through.

  14. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    All you can do is get experience. I would say get your shit together and fuck 20 women but I'll get blasted for it by the cunts on here.
    The reality is your brain is reacting to having access to reproductive opportunity for the first time. Once you get more experience all the issues go away.
    My advice to you is enjoy it and have fun while it's there. Don't stop working on yourself, keep lifting heavy, get a tan and keep talking to everyone you can. Don't stop talking to other women that you casually meet. Having a high market value and options is the key to retaining any woman. She will value you as the prize rather than the other way around. Any time you like a woman way more than she likes you, you have lost.
    You need to develop some aggression and get stuck in there and fuck her good too. Figure out what you are doing and always fuck her like it's your last fuck.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >I would say get your shit together and fuck 20 women but I'll get blasted for it by the cunts on here.
      I would simply call your proposal deeply unrealistic. Remember, the sole reason I even have this sole girlfriend is because she approached me first. I am not even close to the mental state to actively hit on women. Albeit I've come closer to it.

      >You need to develop some aggression and get stuck in there and fuck her good too. Figure out what you are doing and always fuck her like it's your last fuck.
      If I ever get to it, I will certainly do so. Sounds compelling and enjoyable for both parties.

      • 3 days ago
        Anonymous

        It's a journey mate, one step at a time. This is why I say have fun while you can. Chances are it doesn't work out long term and you use the experience with the next girl and so on. If she turns out to be the perfect waifu and you get married great. The point is after girl number X you stop caring, know what you want, what you won't put up with and what to do. It's all experience.

        • 3 days ago
          Anonymous

          >Chances are it doesn't work out long term and you use the experience with the next girl and so on
          I will try to adopt that mentality, thanks.

          But I am also convinced this girl is special, and no, its not just my hormones speaking. I've been in love before. She is different from the previous times.

          • 3 days ago
            Anonymous

            yeah, that's called oneitis. Just don't obsess with her and everything will be fine

  15. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    alright listen to me I am about to impart the single greatest piece of advice you will ever learn. just fucking ask her. be upfront and ask about when she wants to do anything sexual and don't make assumptions until you know her well enough (there will come a time when you will know her enough). ask her about how comfortable she is with communication. talking everyday is the standard, at least to touch base and have small talk. be upfront about your needs. literally just communicate.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      >just fucking ask her. be upfront and ask about when she wants to do anything sexual
      But I never asked before I took her hand for the first time, caressed her face or finally kissed her on the lips. I just understood I could do it. With my lizard brain, if you will. For a former KHHV, I was kind of amazed at my innate capability to pick up on her cues and do exactly what she enjoys, without going to far.

      I wonder if I pick up on a potential desire to have sex as well. Because asking would be a huge downgrade to how smooth everything went so far.

  16. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    >Basically, give me all the advice you wish you knew when you got your very first girlfriend.
    Get more than one.
    Seriously. That's the advice I probably needed to have. I wasn't aware how goddamn useful having backup options ready to roll was.

    As far as you, I realised anxiety was retarded and I stopped doing it. It's how I got laid the first time, and then I kept that personality because it worked.
    Insecurity is fucking stupid and I don't do it. In fact, I have no idea why the fuck people keep doing insecurity, and my only advice for how to stop doing it is "Don't", because that works for me.
    >How do I into sex?
    Do whatev. It's enjoyable.
    >How do I combat the jealousy whenever she is not with me and I have no idea what she does?
    I don't feel that jealousy, I can't relate to the jealousy, and my advice to you is to treat this woman as a CONVENIENCE, not a NEED. Satisfy your emotions on your own and share with her (or take from her) whatever's easy, and don't give too much of a fuck if shit gets hard, because you can always just quit.

  17. 3 days ago
    Anonymous

    >I have no idea how to stay in touch inbetween dates? Texting her every day? Screams needy and intrusive.

    Texting your GF everyday is normal, it's just how often you do it during the day that can make you look needy and weird. Once to twice a day is fine. You could also call or facetime her some time during the week.

    >How do I into sex?

    If she's similar to you then she is most likely as lost as you are when it comes to sex. Just see if things happen naturally when she comes over. Just don't pressure her about it since she's a virgin so give her a bit of time. If you guys date for awhile and no sex has happened it's not a bad idea for you to bring it up and see what she has to say about it.

    >How do I combat the jealousy whenever she is not with me and I have no idea what she does?

    The jealousy goes away over time and when you feel secure in the relationship. Just don't go crazy over it. She should also be open and transparent in what she's doing and let you know. My gf always tells me what she's doing and where she's at. You need to have a certain amount of trust in her for the relationship to work so take her word unless she proves she's not trustworthy.

    >How do I prevent her noticing Gigachad at uni?
    There's nothing you can really do except be a good BF. In any new relationship you're taking a leap of faith because you don't really know the person you're dating that well yet nor do you know what they're capable of doing. Although you have to keep in mind that it's also her first relationship and she's really young and inexperienced. Some relationships are just for experience and learning what you like and don't like. Not to say you have to worry she's going to leave you at any moment but you have to be aware it's possible she realizes you're not her type/compatible with her and then finds someone new.

    • 3 days ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks, you seem reasonable.

      >Texting your GF everyday is normal, it's just how often you do it during the day that can make you look needy and weird. Once to twice a day is fine.
      I got it. Our texting mostly expands into a conversation, but then fizzles out. So its more like 10-15 messages a day, but every second day at the moment. I also never text generic "hows your day going? :*~~" stuff, because I wouldn't like these messages myself - always something meaningful.

      >If she's similar to you then she is most likely as lost as you are when it comes to sex. Just see if things happen naturally when she comes over. Just don't pressure her about it since she's a virgin so give her a bit of time.
      Will do.

      >The jealousy goes away over time and when you feel secure in the relationship
      Well, for me, it just doesnt 🙂 Six dates with constantly more intimate touches and I still feel insecure about whether she likes me at all. Its absurd, I know. I am mentally unhealthy in this regard, there's little other way to interpret it.

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